Everyone knows the phrase: labor ennobles a person, makes him a worthy member of society, brings up the best, positive qualities of character. Industriousness is, undoubted advantage. Hard-working people are an example for imitation, along with laziness, idleness, drunkenness and other vices inherent in society. But, everything is good in moderation. If the labor becomes the only goal, an interest in life, when it spends almost twenty-four hours a day and time, the free is barely enough to snack and sleep for several hours on the go, that is, cause for alarm. That's when the idea of how to teach a workaholic to rest comes to mind.
Of course, with a hardworking husband is much more pleasant: he earns more than he can spend, because, for shopping and shopping, he simply does not have time and this is not very interesting for him. The main interest, the passion of his life is work. Therefore, there is a downside to the medal of diligence: this husband brings his body to nervous exhaustion from constant readiness for work, and this leads to irritability, depression, which affects his wife, children and relatives in a negative way. Often, his family feels a constant lack of attention and love. To the wife, in turn, it seems that the husband is hiding from her and from the family at work, has ceased to love her, intense discontent is growing and is pouring into serious quarrels in the family.
Bad habit.
Also, in a family vacation and walks with children a workaholic, too, is unlikely to take part. Even if he wants to relax, have a rest, it is already difficult for him to distract his thoughts from work plans and enjoy rest, as he is used to being in constant readiness to work, which keeps him from forgetting. "Workaholism" in our modern world can be regarded as a bad habit, a disease, along with alcoholism and smoking, as a person gets into dependence, which often comes with the help of a psychiatrist. Like all bad habits, excessive diligence has negative consequences, both for the workaholic himself and for his family.
To understand the reasons, try to help such people get out of the state of "workaholism" and feel life in all its colors, it is possible to classify the hard workers into certain types, to which, in each individual case, their own method of "healing" is selected.
One type is ostriches.
The first category can be called "Ostrich". The name is, because it is the behavior of ostriches: at the sight of the slightest danger, he immediately hides his head in the sand, so a person is immersed in work, maximally occupying himself with deeds in the hope of hiding from real life, problems and even relationships with other people. It turns out, such a self, a vacuum, solitude one-on-one with work and rejection from the whole world around. Such people constantly pretend that they are very busy with something, in fact they, simply, try to hide behind the appearance of permanent business. Typical behavior: late late at work without special need, sorting out, rewriting unnecessary documents, in general, are engaged in something just to create the impression of a permanent business. By this they deceive not so much others as themselves, trying to escape from something, in the end, flee from themselves. And it is known that you can not escape from yourself. ... This type of people is sometimes even difficult to call workaholics, because they are not so much working as they are hiding from their problems, for example, relating to sexual life, inability to get along and find mutual understanding with their wife, children, even the world around them, unwillingness to perform household duties or participate in the upbringing of children. Usually, people - ostriches are introverts, that is, are prone to solitude, isolation, contact with the surrounding world is difficult for him. They are endowed with various complexes that are not trying to overcome, but the only true solution is to hide from everything and feel their false safety.
Methods of struggle.
How to deal with this type of workaholism? The answer: you can distract in every way, teach a workaholic not to pay attention to work, increasing his self-esteem saying that without his help you can not do. Even if he can not do anything special about the house, show how much his advice and every help is important to you. Remember that this type is mentally vulnerable enough. Therefore, if you say that you will go, for example, on vacation alone, then he may not give a kind, however, his calm will be alarmed. Feelings of jealousy, doubts will not give him rest, and he will be distracted from work, so as not to let you go alone.
2 type - donkeys.
The next type is Donkey. This is an installation for the constant receipt of a reward for work, which turns into a single end in itself. Reminds the donkey, who for the right behavior receives a carrot as a gift and the only thing he wants is to get the desired carrot again and again. If he does not receive the desired reward, he is even bewildered by ignorance of what to do. Usually, the person "donkey" is closed, he is frightened by the availability of free time, he does not know what to do with it.
Methods of struggle.
In this case, you can help him fill out his daily schedule with a weekend plan, using his style. For example, this is: 10 .00 - lifting; 10 .00 - 10.30 - relax in bed, drink coffee and watch TV; 11 .00 - walk with his wife; evening 16 .00 - discussion of vacation plans. The main thing for the "donkey" is to act according to the plan, while at least a little to teach him to rest, then he feels more confident and less frightened of innovations in his schedule.
3 type - wolves.
As the folk proverb says: the wolf feeds the feet. This type is firmly convinced that the man-getter, the main thing in his life is work and money income. He always strives for more, even when he does not need to constantly make a living, everything is at hand, he will not rest and "idly" enjoy life. Usually, such people are inclined to constant accumulation, deprive them of the joy of pampering themselves with some new purchase or spend an extra ruble.
Methods of struggle.
He constantly sets himself a new benchmark for achievements, rest for him is a waste of time, he is hysterical in nature, as he is always in a hurry to have many things to be done at once. Therefore, such a person can help relax music, offer a massage or even put next to his workplace an aquarium with interesting, colorful fish. But here is to force a workaholic to rest this type is not worth it.
Of course, most likely, to love your work is a great pleasure, with so much. But do not be so zealous, protect yourself from even the smallest joys in life. Life is so short that it is still worthwhile to do a lot, to do during it, not only to remake all the work.