Time flies so fast that sometimes you do not have time to notice how quickly not only other people's children grow up. It seems that very recently they took the daughter from the hospital, but today someone called her a girl. Has she already grown so much? Or maybe it's time to talk about those changes that are or are about to begin to happen to her. How often do parents postpone this conversation, referring to a lack of time, then to a lack of knowledge, then at an inopportune moment. But time flies and flies, but the moment never comes. This can be a big problem, because if the parents do not inform the information, the children will find it themselves. And not always it will be correct and necessary.
It's not easy to start such a conversation, especially if there has not been a trusting relationship before. But it is necessary and sometimes necessary. When did it start? Drawing conclusions from modern studies, the transition age in girls in modern conditions begins in 8-9 years. At this age, ten percent of girls have menstruation. It is at this age that you need to tell them about the possible changes that may occur. Nobody wants his daughter to get into this ten percent, and was shocked, being in such a situation in complete ignorance.What should you tell your daughter? The sex characteristics that appear during adolescent maturation include: a change in shape, an increase in the mammary glands, the appearance of the menstrual cycle, pubic hair and in the armpits. How and what to tell depends on the relationship of the child and parents, as well as on the temperament and character of the girl. But this should not be avoided, since there is nothing shameful and indecent in the functions and structure of the organs of the reproductive system. Unworthy and shameful are only prejudices that prevent parents from talking to such topics with their children.
You can begin such a conversation with changing the shape of the body and chest. Girls often wait for this moment and are very positive about this. In the transition years, children can form complexes about their shape, which will not be very easy to eradicate. Therefore, it must be made clear that the body will change, more feminine forms will appear, but this should not affect the whole weight. The chest is very vulnerable during this period, and in no case can it be chilled or struck. Together with the appearance of hair in the axilla and pubic sebaceous glands begin work, and it is very important to perform hygiene procedures.
Talk about the beginning of the menstrual cycle is considered by most parents to be the most difficult. If it's hard to start, then a simple way out of this situation can be the purchase of a special book for teenagers. It simply describes the language of information about puberty. If you want to avoid direct contact, and do not look into the eyes of such a conversation, you can read this book together and answer the questions that have arisen. In this case, it will be easier to overcome the constraint. First, in this conversation it is necessary to explain why and how menstruation occurs. We need to make it clear that this is not a pathology, it happens to everyone, and this is just the beginning of the transformation of a girl into a woman.
It is important to note that the onset of the menstrual cycle does not yet mean maturity, and the years before sexual intercourse and maternity can begin. Secondly, the girl must know how to properly observe hygiene. To do this, it is better to buy gaskets in advance, tell them, show them how to use them and leave them with your daughter. It is necessary to explain how important it is to keep a calendar and record the dates of the cycle. Well, in order to emphasize the importance and significance of this moment, so that the daughter can more easily perceive this exciting event, you can make her some gift.
Dear parents, do not leave this conversation, in the hope that someone will know your child from somebody. Find the opportunity and the strength to talk with your daughter about this topic. Otherwise, if the menstruation starts unexpectedly, the girl may experience a shock, and this event will forever remain in memory as one of the negative moments in life. Although you can make it long-awaited, and the memory of the beginning of growing up is pleasant.