Every day we communicate with a huge number of people. Some communicate only in order to gain some benefit for themselves. How to determine which of the friends is real, and who only uses you? In the article we will give valuable advice that will help to recognize a loyal friend and all those who should not be trusted. So, a real friend is ...
Pay attention to what friends say
Listen to what your friend says in front of other people. Does his attitude toward you change due to the presence of your mutual friends? Remember, a true friend must support you in any situation, even if you are with him in the minority and the rest of the company is protesting against your decision. Pay attention also to whether you feel relaxed with your friend. If you have a trusting relationship, then his presence should cheer you up. Remember, did not a friend say that you will not succeed, did not discourage you from trying to fulfill some old dream? If such conversations were between you, then most likely the friend just envies you, from such a person one should not wait for support, he can leave you alone at the most inopportune moment. A true friend will support any of your endeavors and not only in words!
A real friend will always notice your new clothes, haircut or achievements in studies. And if your friend prefers to talk only about yourself, then you are not interested in her. Remember when you last heard a praise or a compliment from your friend? Does she support you before important exams or a date with a guy you are not indifferent to? The old-world saying that a friend is known in trouble is actual to this day. As you can see, to begin with, you need to take a closer look at what your best friend says and maybe already at this stage you will understand that the girlfriend is insincere with you.
A true friend always listens to you with interest!
In the previous paragraph, we have already mentioned that true friends say not only about themselves, but also their comrade, with sincere genuine interest and a desire to help. Think about how often you and your girlfriend talk about your problems and concerns? Does not she translate the topic into herself, it hardly seems possible? A real friend should not only listen to you, but also give good advice! Try to check a friend, if you can not surely answer the question: whether the girlfriend listens to you and how closely. Talk to her about some of your life situations and pay attention to her reaction, especially to the eyes and facial expressions: the person listens attentively, if demonstrating participation: nods, does not break eye contact and is not distracted by extraneous noises.
And if the girlfriend begins to look around, answer inappropriately and check every minute of the phone - she is not interested. You can, after a while, remind her of this conversation and see how much she remembers from what you told her. All people are egoists, but your best friend should be sincerely interested in your life. If it's not - maybe your girlfriend uses you. Immediately say: do not look for her excuses, because you would remember that she fell in love or wants to link her future with journalism? So she should be interested in you too.
Does not the girlfriend dissolve about you gossip?
Unfortunately, girls often can not hold their tongues, but this should not concern the best of friends. Remember, if you learned that a friend is spreading gossip about you, you need to seriously talk with her. If you're absolutely sure that your friend is not being slandered - stay away from her at a distance. Do not trust secrets and secrets, because they can all become the property of the whole class. In a word, take a closer look at your girlfriend! Perhaps she is talking about you behind her back? If so, then it can not be called a true friend!
How often does a girlfriend tell you "no"?
A real friend will always find time to communicate with you, if a friend often finds reasons not to meet with you, then perhaps she prefers more interesting activities. Remember that the best friend is a round-the-clock work. You can not be best friends in school, but do not call and do not walk in your spare time. Friends are interested in each other, which means that joint leisure should be perceived as rest. If your girlfriend walks with other people or even just sits at home, then she lacks the communication that is. Try to talk to her about it. Often, the girls are friends with someone in the team only to avoid being alone, but this pseudo-friendship usually ends right after school. Do not waste time on such people, perhaps someone near you treats you much better and you should take a closer look at your surroundings!
Try to talk with your girlfriend, if something does not suit you in your relationship, maybe it will change.
We wish to find our best friend and never lose him!