It's time for non-child issues

Here comes the time when your baby, who recently babbled incomprehensible words in his own language, began to fill you with questions: what, how and why. Do not dismiss the child, answer him with double-valued phrases or say that he is still small to know this or that.

Did your child have time for non-child issues? Learn to answer them truthfully, but at the same time just so that the child can understand this or that explanation with his child's mind.

One of the most complex and, of course, non-children's issues, when answering this question, one must be careful, this is the question of death. In this case, if you are not sure of your knowledge, it is better to honestly admit to the baby that you do not know the answer to his question. In general, babies are asked such difficult questions if they become eyewitnesses to the death of their loved ones. Unreasonable parents in such a situation can start to think up some ridiculous stories, about the fact that the grandmother of the baby just left for another city or fell very fast asleep. Deceiving the child, you simply confuse it. The child's imagination surpasses the imagination of the adult many times, he can imagine himself in the mind that God knows what. The kid does not understand why the grandmother left and did not say goodbye to him, why she does not call him and does not miss him, so he starts to think that his grandmother has fallen out of love. If the baby believes in your story that the deceased grandmother just fell fast asleep, then he can begin to fear sleep and the night. Psychologists very often cite such examples from their practice. Therefore, it is best to tell the baby that when people die, their soul goes to heaven, where it is beautiful and warm. Of course, a child can be very upset, cry. But he will have to gradually realize with this fact that everything in the world is mortal, and even Mom and Dad will someday die. Your task is to explain to him that this will happen, but not very soon, you have a whole long, predicament life ahead of you. Given your religious beliefs, explain to the child that a person consists of body and soul. His body is mortal, but the soul is eternal, after the death of the body she flies on the clouds. Children easily and happily receive such information, they will be more relaxed to know that the deceased grandmother is now on the clouds, and not slept soundly for unknown reasons.

The most common children's question, which confounds many parents - how did I come into being? These questions are often asked by children, starting at the age of three. Modifications of this issue are very diverse: where did I come from? Masha had a brother, how is it? There is nothing difficult in answering this question. The baby is quite satisfied, if you tell him that he was born from my mother's tummy. Tell him how a fish is formed from the eggs, and from the egg - a chicken. A cat wears a kitten in the tummy. And you also wore it in the tummy, and when it got tight there, you gave birth to it.

If this answer is not enough for your little researcher, he can ask a non-childish question about where he was before he hit you in the stomach. Answer him like this: before he got to his mother in the stomach, he was a seed, half of which was kept by the mother, and the other half - from the pope. When mom and dad met, they connected the two halves. For the child's mind this answer will be most complete and understandable.

Non-children's questions about sex usually arise in children at an older age, but in modern society it is sometimes very difficult to protect a child from accidental information about the intimate life of adults, because even children's films sometimes include erotic moments. Passionate kisses and naked bodies cause bewilderment of the child. To explain to a child this behavior of adults, tell him that when an adult man and woman love each other, they are together, live together and sleep in one bed, hug and kiss each other. And sometimes they may have a child.

Basically, the kid asks complex non-child questions about love, life and death. Learn to satisfy children's curiosity, while not hurting his psyche.