Let's talk about men
1. You need to say a compliment and look into the eyes of the person to whom you are talking. You do not need to tell your husband with a friend, saying "my guessed to give me a fur coat", you need to say without any sucking, and be at the same time as serious as possible. "Darling, you're just the best, you are a unique husband! ".
2. Do not be sneered. "Darling, I did not think you could buy tickets to the theater! ".
3. Do not need to praise your loved one from morning till night, otherwise they will simply lose their price. If you like good wine, then this does not mean that you should keep it in your mouth all the time!
4. Do not make unflattering comparisons. "Well done, you quit smoking, although I recovered by 10 kilograms!"
5. It is necessary to praise a man for his masculine qualities, which means for memory, intelligence, intelligence, strength, and not for the ability to wash dishes, water the flowers and the ability to cook.
6. Give him a scorching look and a smile, for which he once fell in love with you.
7. Do not be afraid of exaggeration. After all, as the English writer Goldsmith admitted, that people indifferently take well-deserved compliments, but those who do not have any rights listen with appreciation. And the English writer Fielding said that if a rogue to say that he is an honest man, and a fool to say that he is smart, they will immediately embrace you.
8. Men are better off doing compliments on their character traits, skills, business qualities. A real man is interested in the image, namely, the impression that he produces, not his external data.
What do women appreciate when they are complimented?
1. Before compliments, even a strong woman becomes powerless. For her, compliments, like a shower, they fill her with life energy, encourage, refresh.
2. Compliments can heal any mental wound. And there is no fear of an overdose.
3. A woman's sense of reality is lost when it comes to compliments, A long-legged woman will not be pleased with the compliment, if you say that she has long and beautiful legs. A short-legged woman will like this compliment, she will not think that you are deceiving her. She will just think that she has been wrong about her legs all her life.
4. The path to the woman's heart is a compliment. And it does not matter who she works as - a salesman in a store or a conductor, a secretary, a compliment can turn a mega into an angel.
All people need positive emotions. And when we say a compliment, we get an arrangement in return. Not everyone can say a compliment, it needs to learn. Let's say compliments!
Maybe this is flattery?
A compliment is when we exaggerate a bit of dignity. If we tell a colleague that she is very much going to have a haircut, it will be a compliment. And if a woman is to say that she is the most beautiful of all whom he had seen before in life, then this will be flattery. Flattery can differ from a compliment by the size of an exaggeration, and the more it sounds, the deeper a compliment.
It is not always good to praise
Compliment and praise are not the same thing. When we praise someone, we often act as a connoisseur - "you have done your job well". It would seem that there is nothing offensive about this, some positive emotions. But after that the interlocutor for some reason kept silent, snarled, did not thank. And all because you released your praise from the top down, as if exalted above your interlocutor, as if the parent praised the child for having finally completed his homework. If you want to make a compliment, then the position should be a little bit from the bottom up. Approximately so "I'm surprised how quickly and easily you cope with these tasks! "Is there a difference?
If you sacrifice yourself
Effective, accurate compliment, when the anti-compliment is pronounced to the one who speaks it. We can raise our colleague, and at the same time point out our failure: "Wow, how do you do it, and I fought this problem until night, but I did not solve it." Of course, it's insulting, but if you need this person as an ally, friend, then you can sacrifice your self-esteem. Of course, if you know what it's for.
Think yourself
It will be good that he compliments, if he needs to be thought out as a compliment-hint. A colleague, at the sight of his co-worker's wife, says thoughtfully: "Now I understand why you are in such a hurry to go home ...". Here the compliment is made to the wife of a colleague, that she is a beauty, and to her husband that he has a beautiful wife.
Comparison kills
When you say a compliment, do not compare the achievement of a person with some other person. "How well you coped with this work, no worse than an experienced master." But this is some kind of nonsense, and not a compliment, so you can easily offend a man.
Nothing to catch on
Compliment can be made even greedy, evil, and just any person, you just need to understand it. For example, the word greed can be called frugality. Lean people usually condemn wasteful people, that's the reason for a compliment: "I would have your thrift, and I would ride in such a beautiful car! ". It is a compliment to a greedy person, and in relation to yourself an anti-compliment.
The best compliment for a person is his name. If you can clearly and beautifully pronounce the name of your interlocutor, then you will have a different attitude. If you managed to remember the name of the interlocutor, and the first one was pronounced in a casual meeting, especially if the partner can not remember your name without looking at the diary, this will be a definite plus. You need to constantly say a name in a conversation, because every person likes to hear his name. And in addition to all that has been said, let's compliment the talk, let's talk and learn to do it. In this art you can practice on strangers and close people, and do not forget that the action of the compliment is enhanced when the compliment is pronounced in public.