In the first place the desire to entice a woman into bed is the usual desire for sex, namely desire. And that does not mean that he loves you, it's just that a man with sexual passion is so skilful about love that you can not resist him. And here there are several reasons why you agree to intimacy.
Reason number one - you're really in love and you can not refuse a beloved man.
Reason number two - as it does not sound trite, but you just want sex, like him.
Reason number three is your fear. Yes, it is fear, you are afraid to offend with your refusal, or you simply think "I will refuse, but he will leave to another less shy". And it is with the help of fear that men most often manipulate women. "So you do not love me at all, I'm not worthy of you, but Lenka would never do that to me." It is afraid of losing your loved one, you often go to this step. And in fact, he just wants sex.
I affirm this with certainty. intimate relationships have two aspects - physiological and emotional. And it is men who are guided by physiology, and women are subject to emotions. For the stronger sex sex is least connected with emotionality, although sometimes they manifest themselves very expressively, but for women in the first place understanding and warmth and only then satisfying the needs. Hence, several variants follow, according to which a man and a woman can become lovers.
She is waiting for love, he loves sex. As life shows, such relationships are doomed to failure. And is it worth it to start at all, because apart from disappointment and pain, they will not bring you anything?
Often a woman has her views on the relationship between sex and love: she will never sleep with the unloved, her love expresses her consent to sex. How to understand your feelings for a man? These same views are projected onto the man: how much he wants her, so much loves her. But the man thinks differently. He can very much want a woman without feeling any feelings for her, just because she considers her attractive and seductive.
Every woman feels the need for gentle touches of lips and hands. His love expresses through touch, kisses. A man caresses and kisses shows only his irresistible desire. He can absolutely not feel any feelings for the partner and at the same time deliver to her unsurpassed pleasure, to be gentle and sensitive. Any of the women, after caresses, attention and an endless stream of compliments, necessarily falls in love with her partner, even if she did not feel any feelings before intimate relations.
In men, and here everything is the opposite. He appreciates the woman, if that sophisticated mistress, liberated, allows to realize all his secret and obvious desires, can bring great pleasure. But for all that, he will never fall in love and will not be ready for a serious relationship only for these reasons. A great lover in the absence of other virtues will not become a beloved woman of an experienced man.
And, despite the lack of affection for a woman, a man in bed can admit to love, fill it with tender words, even promise to marry and have children. And all this instantly flies out of his head after receiving pleasure. Usually at this stage the woman indignantly utters "You said that you love me and want to connect with me life." The man coldly notes to himself "What can not be said, when you are already at the peak of passion," but at the same time tries to remain silent, otherwise you will not see him any more hot nights.
Scientifically proven that men do not pretend at all when talking about love during intercourse, they are not able to control themselves at the moment of arousal. An excited man, he will say everything a woman wants to hear. And most importantly, that at these moments he thinks so. And he really adores and loves a woman, when in ecstasy he screams "I love you!", But he experiences these feelings only during sexual intercourse, at the end of which the emotionality of men changes.
Let us sum up the above. What to do to avoid disappointment and resentment.
- never believe the words of men at the time of sexual intercourse, no matter how sweet and truthful they sounded;
- Do not get carried away by romance during sex. You can think of it, anything, but remember, sex for men is the satisfaction of one's physiological needs, as an option to relieve tension, play, but not the manifestation of love. There is a clear boundary between love and sex.
Now about the most important, if after reading this text, you doubt your feelings, whether you have composed this love, maybe, in fact, nothing is. Wait, ponder, scroll your relationship based on the information you have learned. Confess to yourself honestly: "Why are you with him?", "Are you happy?". If the answer does not come immediately, do not hesitate, it is better to break these relations. Do not cling to a man, only for fear of loneliness. Do not be afraid to leave someone who enjoys your pleasure. Take for the rule that you start and continue a relationship, only with someone who is able to make you happy. If you feel doubts, awkwardness in relationships, easily part. After all, tomorrow will be a new day and new impressions. Love and appreciate yourself, dear women.