Laws of the circle.
You really can not understand why it is me, such a kind and sweet girl, I can not find a common language with my boyfriend's friends? And in general, they say, why should I "fit in" with someone and "find a common language" with someone?
First, it is necessary for the further development of your relations. According to psychologists, for the stronger sex, the environment of his social communication is very important: it is there that he realizes himself as a person and receives confirmation of his self-esteem and status. And even all your love can not compensate for the "cold" relationships with close friends that you are not close in spirit.
Secondly, to adjust and look for ways to find a "common language", it is up to you. Remember that any circle is psychologically stronger than any individual. By the way, the more independent the individual, the more difficult it will be, because in every circle already formed there already has a leader who is always cautious about newcomers who have charisma. It is very important that in finding a common language, you do not lose your vital points.
The most difficult period in order to find understanding is the first two to three weeks of communication. During this period, your new acquaintances intuitively rally and occupy a defensive-waiting attitude, and you tend to judge everything only by one stereotype "I can not like it." It is very important in these early days not to spoil the relationship definitively with harsh and categorical statements. An unpleasant little thing or a joke can damage your reputation, and the misunderstanding you say is to inflame a quarrel.
Alien among their own.
Building a system of effective communication (you are not yet achieving a cordial friendship, right?) With the friends of the guy - the process is sometimes long and time-consuming. That's why it's necessary to start this troublesome business only if the incentive is very strong. The prospect of marriage, for example.
Remember that in every circle your laws and familiarity with them will help you in finding a common language.
"Money and career decide everything."
These friends, as a rule, are energetic, focused on career growth and financial well-being. You do not have much in common with them, except for him, the only one.
Why wait? In business circles, independence, optimism, self-confidence and ability to defend one's opinion are appreciated. The style of communication with such friends of a loved one is always assertive and hard.
How to behave? These people make judgments very quickly and they do not like to review them. Therefore, you better just let them know that you will be in the whole "fighting" person, you will not hide behind your beloved and avoid meeting with them. Always clearly express your attitudes and accept them with approval. And it is quite possible that in the near future you will be able to find a "key to their heart".
When to say "Stop!". If you are openly pushed into the background by your fellow's friends, do not be afraid to fight back and show your "I". After that, you will definitely become one!
"Descendants of aristocrats."
A rare kind of friends, but it still exists. These friends, as a rule, are aristocratic, arrogant, educated and polite. On a nice invitation to have a cup of tea come in full parade, and in the right manner to behave at the table it is desirable to practice in advance.
Why wait? These people are very painfully tolerated by falsehood and "bare" etiquette. At the forefront, they put sincerity and naturalness in behavior and relationships.
How to behave? Humor, the ability to maintain a light social conversation, charm, erudition - with these qualities you will find a triumph and an accurate finding of a common language in communication. By the way, do not go too far with etiquette and do not relax before the time: for you they will be very closely watched and for a major blunder "they will be removed from the list of friends".
When to say "Stop!". At a time when the form will begin to prevail over the content (in such a circle it is not uncommon). If you begin to school, explain to friends of your boyfriend that you are not ready for services.
"Creative dynasty".
They are very exalted, original and unpredictable people. Their endless discussions are always about their achievements (new music, picture, verse). They are geniuses of their kind and very rarely able to unfold.
Why wait? In such a circle it is customary to change "friends" very quickly. That's why you, most likely, will be received complacently, but scattered. But, and if you are not able to understand, for example, "music of words," and do not hope for mercy. And right here and now you will hear all the indignation on their part. Creative people are very good at the gift of saying everything they think "in the eye," not embarrassed by the expressions.
How to behave? In order to find with your beloved's friends an understanding, prove to them, a close friend of their friend and is ready to hang out with them on their creative get-togethers. Remember that in this circle they appreciate a bright individuality and a desire for creativity. Templates here do not work at all, but non-template ideas are highly appreciated. Show your desire for beauty, even if you are far from art. And the proof of this is that your boyfriend is an honorable person in this circle.
When to say "Stop!". When you noticed that the environment of your chosen one is trying to impose on him the idea that on you "the light did not come together with a wedge". Everyone knows that creative people are in constant search, but this is not an indicator to ruin your relationship.
"Scientific elite".
Conservative, everyone in the world knows and gives advice in everything.
Why wait? It is not worthy of these dear friends, to acquaint them with all their plans, otherwise you will just feel yourself being criticized. A huge impression on them will create your awareness in this or that sphere.
How to behave? Despite their reason, these people are very trustful and open. In you they want to see a calm and balanced interlocutor who will say: "I can understand you!".
When to say "Stop!". When you realize that you are being "mentally" overwhelmed and show that you are not worthy of communicating with them.
That's how close acquaintance with your beloved's friends looks like, which you should certainly survive and break through into their habitat, proving that you are for their friend what you need!