It's easier when he was just a phantom hope and a dream. But if he was near and now it's so scary to imagine that he is with someone else and that, another, now embraces him, strokes his hair and falls asleep in his arms. "I can not forget the guy. What to do, how to live further, without suffering, "- this is what your thoughts are always busy with.
The first thing you need to stop thinking about. From your thoughts nothing will change, but you will finally screw yourself. Women have a tendency to invent everything, to hyperbolize and embellish. It is from this, most often, our nervous system suffers. You need to constantly drive away the thoughts of who he is with now. Of course, this sometimes is very difficult, but there is no other way out. It is necessary to collect the will into a fist and force oneself. Each time it will be easier and easier.
You need to be able to let go. Him, the guy. Pain. Emotions. If you want to cry, pay. Splash out all the emotions, but do not turn all of this into daily hysterics. One should let go of your pain with tears, go to bed, and sutra start all over again.
Yes, it will be very difficult. I want to cover myself with a blanket, turn off the phone and cry. This can not be done in any case. Sitting in four walls and mourning the past leads to protracted depressions, suicide attempts and other stupid things, which are then regretted. That's why you need to go out and talk with your friends. By the way, do not wander around the city, in the hope of meeting him. Even if this happens, nothing will change, but will only get worse and worse. On the contrary, it is better to try to minimize the possibility of meeting. It is necessary to do so that nothing about him does not resemble. By the way, friends and girlfriends should also be warned that you can not remember about your former self and do not let it do you. Any talk about it, positive or negative, will only cause pain. From the past it is necessary to be removed.
You have to occupy yourself with something. Everyone has a hobby. Remember what you really like to do and in moments of sadness, take on your favorite thing. It is necessary to occupy your brain with thoughts, look at the ceiling and think about it.
Remember: life has not ended. It now seems that the world has collapsed, but then everything will change. Man still has the instinct of self-preservation, and pain is a destruction for our body. Therefore, the body must block it. But if you make the most effort. The effect will be achieved much faster.
Parties, discos and clubs are what you need right now. But only on the condition that you do not act according to the plan "to get drunk and forget yourself". Relief will be short-lived, and then everything will return or become even worse. Therefore, you just need to rest, get acquainted with new people and do not sweep aside opportunities. If you want to get acquainted with a nice guy - do not ignore. No one is forcing him to marry him. You can try to just talk, because it happens that almost random people practically save us from pain.
In general, try to be more with close people, have fun and do not give yourself to think about the bad.
If there is an opportunity to go to another city - without hesitation, go there. New places and unusual surroundings help to distract and bad thoughts are visited much less often. Moreover, in new places, dating is often and unexpectedly fastened, which can turn life one hundred and eighty degrees.
If you still do not help, you can turn to psychologists. By the way, remember: the psychologist does not solve the problem, it helps to understand yourself how to deal with them. Only in no case do you need to start taking various antidepressants. The body gets used to pills and soon can not cope with emotions on its own.
The woman has always been, is and will be strong morally. Much stronger than a man. Do not forget about this, about your pride, that you are an individual who does not deserve suffering. After all, you respect and love yourself, so why torment?
Each person is given tests. Sometimes it seems to us that we did not deserve this, that we no longer have strength, but, in time, an understanding comes that this, it was still for the better. That's why, think that this is just a small, not very bright piece of life, followed by a new dawn.
Always tune into the positive. Do not let yourself listen to sad songs about love, watch tragic movies. And most of all you need to protect yourself from things that somehow can remind you of your loved one.
Every woman experiences pain in her own way. But the pain, nevertheless, remains a pain. And it must be fought with all methods. Maybe you should even hate it if it's real. Of course, hatred is also not the best feeling, but anger can sometimes save you from pain.
But still, the most correct way out will be to forgive and let go. This person was in your life, he brought you joy, you have good moments and that's fine. Leave them somewhere in the corner of memory, in a kind of box of the soul, from which once you can get memories and smile. In the meantime, close this box with a key and forget about it.
If you broke up - it means it was not your man, and if yours, then he will definitely come back when the right moment comes. But you do not need to wait for him, you just need to live. For yourself, for family, for friends. In the life of every girl there is much more important besides love. Do not forget about it. Remember your dreams and goals. Go somewhere, try to achieve something. And then if your life is occupied with new thoughts and joys, new worries and feelings, one morning you will wake up and you will understand: the pain is gone. At heart warm and light. You're ready to start a new stage. And life will improve.