The notion of a "housewife" appeared relatively recently in Russia, provoking respect among some, neglecting others, and confusion in the third ... One way or another, sooner or later, we all have to stay at home for a while (decree, search for a new job , long vacation - there can be many reasons). And so let's figure it out: being a housewife is embarrassing or prestigious, fashionable or old-fashioned, boring or not?
According to statistics, any of 60% of women would gladly quit their job and become a housewife, doing only household chores. However, as practice shows, only half of them are going to such radical changes. There are women created to sit at home, there are those who have to do this for some time, and there are those for whom such a way of life is simply unbearable ... What should we do in each of these cases?
THE SOUL IS CALLING
"I dreamed of being a housewife from school, " says 30-year-old Yulia. - I've always liked to do house, cook, clean, sew. But life developed in such a way that I did not immediately get married, and so, after graduating from college, I went to work. It was a real torture. I did not like to waste my time on endless shifting of papers and counting budgets ... When I finally met my husband, he himself offered me to leave and sit for a while at home. I hurried to quit my job and become a housewife. My life has changed radically, I have become calm, engaged in pleasant things for me, and when we had a baby, there was not time for boredom at all. Now I am absolutely happy: I am engaged in home, my son and my creativity, and my husband knows that his wife is always waiting for him. "
"The desire to stay at home and take care of your family is absolutely normal for a woman's nature," says psychologist Albert Lifman. - The thing is that you can not escape from the genetic memory. In the end, until the middle of the twentieth century, women did not even think about the fact that they can work and make a career. And there's nothing wrong with that. If you do not have leadership ambitions, if you are comfortable at home and, most importantly, your financial situation allows you not to go to work - relax and have fun. You do not have to be like everyone else, should not strive to reach some heights in a professional way ... Your main task is to be happy! Remember this! "
DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES
"On the third day I wanted to climb on the wall!", "While I was at home, I always had a terrible depression and longing, I felt worthless", "Previously, the work of the whole department depended on me, and now only the taste of borscht! "- So write on the forums of women who have become housewives for a while. "For many, the test by decree (most often this reason makes us stop and for some time settle at home) becomes really unbearable," says psychologist Elena Berusheva. - Until recently you thought that the world would literally cease to exist without you, hardly agreed to a week's vacation and sunbathed by the sea with a laptop in an embrace, but now they seemed to be out of work. Changes (even positive ones) always cause stress. Even if you were not a workaholic and wanted to stay at home, changing the usual routine of the day can put you at a dead end. To minimize the loss of nerve cells, try to negotiate with yourself. Your new way of life is only a temporary phenomenon. Soon the circumstances will change, and you will again return to the usual rhythm. Appreciate every minute of your life. It goes away irrevocably! What is happening now, will not happen again! "
BACK TO THE FUTURE
" Honestly, it was incredibly difficult for me to get used to the way of life of a housewife, " Anna, 27 , shares. " And so, when my daughter grew up, I decided to return to work." I thought that life in an instant will play with new colors, but it was not there. It turned out that entering a new rhythm is even more difficult. First, many colleagues quit and I came to a practically new team, and secondly, it was simply impossible for me to combine the role of mother and a successful manager. "
"The situation of Anna is very typical," comments psychologist Albert Lifman. - Return to work better gradually: first do something at home, then go out for a half-time and finally, after a year and a half or two, take shape at fulltime. So you, and your family, better adapt to the new situation and way of life. And be prepared for the fact that everyone has forgotten how wonderful and indispensable you are, and you will have to prove it to the chief and other colleagues anew. "
5 MYTHS ABOUT HOUSEHOLDERS
MYTH 1: The housewife can be recognized by a neglected appearance, unfashionable clothes and overgrown roots of hair.
The unemployed ladies have much more time to care for themselves, attending the gym, beauty salons and dieting. They do not run to work in the morning as scalded, do not jostle in transport, do not eat the notorious business lunches and do shopping with feeling, really, and arrangement.
Myth 2: Housewives suffer from a lack of communication.
They just stop communicating with people with whom they were connected only by work, but this does not mean that housewives are sitting at home in complete vacuum. Instead of colleagues at work there is another circle of friends: friends with whom they together attend sports or walk with children.
Myth 3: The housewives in the head have one gyrus, and that's straight.
It is believed that if a woman sits at home, it is because she is not taken for any job due to lack of education. But women become housewives absolutely consciously: someone for a few years, until the children grow up, someone for a longer period. And among them there are many ladies with higher education, and sometimes not with one. And you can get a job without education, and with "one gyrus" - there would be a desire!
Myth 4: Housewives have no opportunity for self-realization: they can not fully reveal their talents, use knowledge and skills.
You can realize your potential, not only becoming a top manager of a large company, but also having achieved success in creativity, hobbies, parenting. A close connection with children, their successes, established daily life, a cozy home, a quiet pace of life bring no less satisfaction than career growth and a quarterly bonus. And the motivation of the activity of housewives is clearly stronger, because they work for the benefit of their family, and not for the sake of raising the incomes of any holding. And if you still want professional activity, then for this there is remote and temporary work.
Myth 5: Sitting at home is boring!
Working ladies think that the unemployed are in eternal anguish and depression. But housewives are less prone to stress and depression, since they do not have annual reports and work, they are not called "on the carpet" and do not lose premiums. They themselves plan their day, spend more time on their husbands, children, sports, and self-care.
5 TIPS TO THE "FORCED" HOUSEHOLD
1. Use this time to gain new knowledge and skills: sign up for driving courses (English, cutting and sewing or a master class on cooking sushi).
2. Do everything that before you had a catastrophic lack of time: visit a beautician, call a friend and discuss everything, go to an exhibition or a movie ... The list goes on and on.
3. Watch for yourself, after all it is necessary to look good not only for colleagues on work, but also for yourself.
4. Do not fall into a dream and laziness, plan each day, but allow yourself a little weakness ...
5. Do not let anyone think or say to anyone, especially yourself, that being a housewife is boring and unreasonable: the wives of all heads of state, millionaires and geniuses are convinced housewives.