We girls are mysterious creatures. And no matter how much they tell us about equality and conformity, we are drawn to those who do not look like us at all, in this case by age. In our relationship with a man, our own character and its characteristics are to blame. From the very beginning, we will deal with our "zamorochki", which we will often refer to.
Psychologists have long said that women, as well as men, have 3 types of character in relationships: mother, daughter and wife (woman).
- Mother - a woman who aspires to be a leader in relations, to patronize her partner and solve all issues for him.
- Daughter - will never be a leader in relationships, her main desire in a relationship is to feel protection and comfort, fully trust that the man himself will solve all problems.
- The wife is a self-sufficient woman, she does not shift the decision of all questions to the man and does not solve them for him. Strives for equal relations, where both partners take responsibility for the relationship.
But these are hypertrophied types, nobody canceled to be behind the husband, like behind a stone wall and sometimes to be a leader when the situation demands it. (It's just that a man needs to be supported in hard times). And do not divide men into good and bad - there are simply no such.
Down with stereotypes!
Relations with a man older, if the age difference is very noticeable, often cause a public negativity of "Sponsor found," not the first time you can hear it? But not everything is bad, and we will not pay attention to envious girlfriends, neighbors, and then we come to the conclusion that often a relationship with a man older than us is our conscious choice that meets all our needs.
It should be noted here that if the age of a man is 1 year or 2 more than yours - this is not a difference in age. But for 3 years - it is already possible to think that he is older than you. The upper limit is not limited. Here and to "grandfather" you can walk - not only to "Papic". Sometimes it happens. Although let's do without common stereotypes. Relations with a man older - it's just a relationship with a man older, and nothing more. With all its pluses and minuses, without "daddies" and "grandfathers."
Why choose?
A conscious choice of the age of a man, the option "just like" we do not exclude, but now we do not consider:
And maybe the level of self-esteem does not allow you to self-sufficient and confidently walk through life. Or maybe you just want to forget about all the worries and just be "with a man."
Or maybe you are such a developed woman, who has long been determined aspirations and goals for life. You know what you want, and real satisfaction is only obtained from a relationship with a man older than you. Even if the kisses are sweet, and the hugs are strong, younger or the same age - this is not your option.
The man is older
He, as a rule, took place in our opinion a man who in life has a certain stability. He has a job that gives income, which allows you to keep not only yourself, but also your woman and, possibly, a child.
Completely certain habits and needs, a certain circle of friends. And everywhere you look, stability is everywhere. However, this man is unlikely to like to change the way of life. He will agree to take you under his wing, but on his terms and rules.
Pros of relationship with a man older:
- Experienced in everything, his experience can help you decide on your goals for life, sexual experience here also matters.
- Experience of relations. He had a family, they parted, and an intelligent man will no longer repeat mistakes, will appreciate everything he has, take offense less, and so on.
- A certain level of prosperity. The material base is a good support for further relations. We do not take into account now the male losers, who have achieved everything in their life, this is only age. They should never be taken.
- Confidence in the future. Lack of fear in life, because they will help you and always solve your problem.
Awareness in deeds. Relations with a man older usually provide a guarantee that your life can be in a good plan predictable. A man older, also with a girl next to him, will not lose money or commit rash acts, because responsibility comes with years, whatever one may say.
When choosing their own woman, priorities are usually placed in favor of the character. But this does not mean that the words "hairstyle", "hair removal", "make-up" go to the distant past and are covered with dust. But definitely in a relationship, when a man is older, you will feel like a person, and not just a girl, even if your favorite.
Disadvantages of a relationship with a man older than:
- All the same experience. Children from previous relationships, especially if they stayed with him. Not fully released the previous relationship will lead to a comparison between you and her - and here a little pleasant. And if at least some of her tracks remain in his life, you will have a feeling that you are in a relationship with three. Of course, this depends on the man and is corrected by time.
- If you trust him and he is always right, he is always right. Sometimes it suppresses your independence, individuality.
- Depending on your age and age, men may have different needs. If you ever want to go dancing once a month, you will be surprised to find that he does not. Always in a relationship with a man older you need to think in the future - maybe now you do not have such differences, but over time because of age they can appear.
- Duty and stability often makes such men tied to work, place of work. Break for a weekend in another city may not work. Exceptions are large businessmen who conduct business on the phone, and on their plane can take you to the edge of the earth, but we consider the average man.
The features of your behavior in dealing with a man older:
"He needs to be trusted more than any other man." Do not question his foundations of existence, acquired over his years. If you chose him, then it's all right, right?
- Think about why he chose you, younger than him, perhaps even significantly younger. This reason must always be maintained.
- Develop. When a man is older, he is usually ready to assess your life's aspirations and support you in them. A man older will be more interesting with a girl who has her own world, in which she builds her life step by step. Of course, there is this world in this world, but on this world it should not be closed at all. Real men (of any age) do not like this.
Useful recommendations for those who knowingly decided that a relationship with an older man should be:
- Pay attention not only to the age difference, but also to your age and age, as with age the difference is less felt. Say, if you are 18, and he is 25, then it is a chasm, and if you are 35, and he is 42, then this is just a small dimple on the road, which can easily be crossed.
- Discuss this issue with a man at the beginning of your relationship so that then your discontent or doubt does not become an unpleasant surprise for both. Accept the fact that there is a difference in age, and it will affect relationships. Think and decide what you will do. It's important to talk and discuss these issues together.
- If you choose a man, then try, at least, not to exceed the age of the stick. Otherwise, it may turn out that you will meet each other's needs, which will be more like a contractual relationship: it meets your need for stability, for example, and you, for example, need his wife in life - after all, as many believe, so it is necessary. This is advice to those for whom the priority is feelings, not calculation.
Now we know if there is a difference in age and a man is older than a woman, the pros and cons of such a marriage. Whoever said anything, but each of us - in fact, a small child who lives in a world where one always needs to be an adult. Perhaps the relationship with a man is older and there is your chance, when this child can get some sleep in an atmosphere of care and security, peace and tranquility. If you turned up such a man in life, do not pay attention to evil languages that can embarrass you. Reread this article and forward, after leading you a man, into a brighter future.