As it turned out the results of psychologists, men who harass their beloved women with constant suspicions, really love them. So is the saying we know really true? As a result of research in the survey of men it was found out that men who divorced their wives, who were jealous until insanity, after married again and were not jealous of their new wives. It turns out that men are not jealous of their new wives, because they chose those women to whom they did not feel deep feelings and did not burn with passion. After the first divorce, they relied on previous relationships and tried to choose women who were not very sociable and not even very attractive. Based on their previous experience, they knew that they would not be able to suspect such women of infidelity.
But if the problem of constant jealousy was really solved so simply. Very often, the love between a jealous man and a woman holds a pair together for many years. A man can for years harass his beloved woman with suspicions and interrogations. That atmosphere, which reigns because of scandals and constant mistrust, only harms the couple.
It turns out that those men who constantly harass their wives with jealousy, live 10 to 15 years less than ordinary less suspicious men. Jealous men suffer from cardiovascular disorders and hypertension and live up to 60 years. And women who live with jealous people, for many years, suffer from neuroses and psychosomatic disorders.
Jealousy is first and foremost a person's insecurity. To jealous men it seems that they are not very good for their beloved woman, as she is very beautiful, sociable and she has many friends and admirers. To jealous men it always seems that their woman can always find another man without any effort. There was one life event about which I'll tell you now. The man was so jealous of his wife that he did not even let her go shopping alone, and she went only to the city with a driver. In their home, there were fewer and fewer friends, and as a result, only his wife and her husband communicated. The woman fell into such a severe depression that this couple needed more than one year of psychotherapy. To your couple did not go to this stage, it is best to deal with the problems of jealousy at the initial stage.
How to re-educate a man who is constantly jealous of you?
1. Do not refuse to communicate with your friends. If your jealous man is not allowed in a cafe with friends, then invite your friends home. Make sure that there are many women in your company. Talk to your friends and ask them to admire your family idyll in the presence of your man. Jealous men become more confident when they hear the admiration of other women.
2. To put your man in the place, start to be jealous of yourself. Let him feel jealousy on himself.
3. Provoke it. Let your friends call frequently, and your neighbor will drive you to the entrance. Tell your man that you will not sit in four walls with a jealous man. After these statements, the man will try to win you again, because he is afraid of losing you. After that, you will be able to expose your jealous man to the condition that he ceases to harass you with stupid suspicions.
4. Hint to your man that courageous men are not jealous and that you always wanted someone close to you to be confident. Also you can tell that your girlfriend once had a jealous man and that she decided that if a man is unsure of himself, then he is unworthy of her attention and she left him.
5. Try to translate each of his jealousy into a joke. Let him feel that this is stupid and funny.
Re-educate a man who is constantly jealous is not so easy and takes a lot of time. But it's better to start this at a time than to bring yourself to a psychological breakdown.