This is a very serious step that will radically change your life. Of course, there will be difficulties, but you can cope with any difficulties.
How to get along with the elderly? How to avoid conflicts, without changing the rhythm of their lives and not allowing parents to radically change their regime? Remember, it's up to you to decide how happy your life and the life of your parents will be. Following the several simple rules that are set out below, you can create a normal relationship in a new large family.
Create a comfortable interior
Moving to old age is a stress for parents. It is very difficult for them to decide on such a serious step. That is why it is very important that they can feel at home. It is clear that the parents will have to part with many of the things that are dear to them, which have surrounded them all their lives. Your task is to allocate a separate room and equip it so that it is cozy and comfortable. Be sure to place the most expensive things for parents in the room, which will help them feel more relaxed.
Explain why you need a change
Cohabitation by resuscitators should not prevent them, or your private life. If the daily schedule of your parents is fundamentally inappropriate for you, you should gently explain by taking them off, showing why changes are needed and trying to find a compromise that will build everyone. Remember, too sudden unexpected changes are depressing elderly people who are already very vulnerable, so treat your parents with tolerance.
Do not try to educate your parents.
An adult person can not be educated, and you must understand this. You do not need to teach your elderly. Of course, the house belongs to you, and you establish the order. But if the peace of your parents is dear to you, sometimes it's better to remain silent, rather than be disturbed or swear. In extreme cases, try to talk normally to the investigators, rather than lecture them and express their discontent sharply.
Parents should not feel like a burden
Moving to the home of children, parents or otherwise begin to feel a burden, because they understand that their movement in some way restricts the freedom of children who have already grown up and live their lives. Therefore, parents become very insecure and vulnerable, begin to be capricious and offended for all sorts of little things, just like little children.
You can change the situation. Give your parents the opportunity to feel important and meaningful people. They must see that they can be of some use to you, and you need their help as well as they are in yours. Allow them to perform some duties, for example, going shopping, preparing dinner, etc. Consult your parents more often, share your success with them, as before. Even if the advice of the parents seem ridiculous to you, be sure to listen to them without pretending that you are not going to take their words into account.
Pay attention to your parents
Older parents need our attention and care. Remember, they gave you life and a happy childhood, so you must return to them at least some of the love they gave you.
Joint life with parents is an important decision that will affect the course of your future life. Learn to look for positive things in everything. Yield to each other, and in your new family will reign tranquility and respect.