Why get along with neighbors
The reasons for which friendly or even even friendly relations with neighbors are necessary, very much.
First, even a separate apartment does not make you independent of other people living in the house. If you live in a cottage, then next to you will still be people who somehow will interfere with your personal life. They may well have habits that can hinder you. For example, lovers of loud music will spoil the morning, and day and evening, as well as fans of noisy companies. Too curious and corrosive neighbors will not leave you the right to privacy. If you find a common language with them, you can always ask to make the music a little quieter or move away from the windows of your living room, without worrying about a possible scandal.
Secondly, neighbors can be useful in practice. If you need to leave, they will look after the apartment or house, feed the parrot and water the flowers, call the police if they notice a suspicious person at your door. And they'll just waste their evenings if you suddenly become bored. It is difficult to challenge the fact that it is better to be friends with neighbors. It is not always possible to do this, but it's worth trying.
How to establish contact
The first thing that is required of you is to get acquainted. Find out the name and patronymic of your neighbors, try to remember them and never forget to say hello. Elementary politeness helps to get closer and do not provoke a negative.
Be sure to monitor yourself before making demands on others. If you do not like trash on the stairwell, loud music, scandals or running taps, then do not let anything like this in the first place. If your behavior is impeccable, then it will be easier to ask neighbors for a concession. If you yourself are the cause of the headache of neighbors, then you should not expect that they will meet you.
In addition, before making a claim, even if justified, adjust yourself to a positive mood. Accusations and insults are not the best way to convince a person to change. Just calmly explain to the neighbors that they are violating public order and this gives you unpleasant feelings as to why and what you are offering. It is not necessary to put ultimatums - neighbors do not have to obey you, they can recommend going to court with your claims, then the cause of the anxiety will remain unresolved for a long time. If you are disturbed by loud sounds, calmly explain that you are resting, working or just sensitive to noise. Usually people do not want to deliberately cause inconvenience, so they can listen to your requests.
If there is a problem concerning both of you, always suggest possible ways to solve it and ask if neighbors have other suggestions. This is the best way to find a compromise.
If neighbors are not lucky, they do not go to the contact, do not listen to your requests, lead an antisocial way of life, then you will not help talking and persuading. But do not go down to scandals and fights - all this can be used to harm you later. Just invite a precinct militiaman and ask him to hold an explanatory conversation with neighbors, where your rights and duties in relation to each other would be stipulated. And only as a last resort, apply to the court to resolve the conflict.
The neighbors are a punishment or a gift. With some we fight for years, with others we become close friends. Believe me, no one wants to live in suspense and if your neighbors are decent people, then they are also interested in a friendly attitude towards themselves. The softer and more respectful you will be towards them, the better your relationship will be. If, on your attempts to establish contact, the neighbors respond with indifference, then talk only in a businesslike and calm manner. Perhaps this is the type of communication that will suit your serious neighbors. And remember, each of you has equal rights to a peaceful life.