But to come to this sensation you need only yourself.
And you like it when they say, "You can do it! You'll survive! You'll see, you'll giggle yourself, remembering this situation "? When we are not very healthy, when the mood is bad, the depression is already knocking on the door - it is important to treat yourself with the kind wishes of other people. They sincerely want to help, but something does not work out great. So, it's not profitable to flip and show it to others. To make, that it became remarkable, it is necessary most - but how ??
What is happening now?
Mood - a piece of changeable. Sometimes we catch ourselves thinking that if you feel bad, then you realize that there are good days. Just today is not the day. However, in fact, the problem is much more serious.
The mood is a direct consequence:
- attitude
- current state of affairs
- values of a person
- his entourage
- situation at home, in the team, in the country.
It's hard to be happy if a neighbor gets five times more than you. And sometimes I want to jump from a good mood - just because my daughter gave birth to a daughter! This seems to be a "household" level of the problem. But the doctors confirm that we are already thinking about what to do if you feel bad: or you understand that at other times it is good, or "fixate" on one of the spheres of life.
According to psychologists, in 20 years the generation will most likely grow up, which will be able to live a more full and happy life. After all, our "good" depends not only on external factors, but also on the internal state. What can prevent?
Workers' Work
We are forced to take care of survival, which often turns us into the most real workaholics.
Habits
The habit is not to do a couple of simple exercises in the morning, do not go to the swimming pool, but at least for a walk or for a run to the nearest stadium after some time will certainly degenerate into laziness, which will not fail to affect the mood.
Stereotypes
Stereotype behavior, reluctance to try other models of communication, lack of interest in others sooner or later lead to a lack of interest in ourselves. And then it will take a long time to get out.
Clinical picture: a person who is well
The recommendations of psychologists, "to become good", are quite simple. Their fulfillment, and even more likely the care that it was easy to fulfill, can become a pleasant part of life.
1. Good - around us. As soon as we move to the "here and now" position, we stop drowning in that ocean of affairs that inevitably surrounds any adult person. And if you start from this, it is not necessary to think and "wind" yourself about the affairs, worries, accumulating discontent.
2. Success is in the mind. Thinking about success is quite pleasant. If you really remember something - it's better to savor the moments of success, not the moments of shame or defeat. And it's even better to think about the future, to make plans, even if they are not fully implemented.
3. "What is this?" Awareness is the enemy of anguish. A normal person may not be aware of most of their everyday thoughts. But if you feel bad, then you can remember and understand what happens and it's good to find the causes of anguish or discontent. Control yourself - unobtrusively, but regularly.
4. Filtration. Anyway, we filter the information every day. We perceive it through our colored glass. It is dangerous not only to "see the world through pink glasses", but also to put yourself "black glasses". Try different ways to create a mood, include positive filters or negative ones. You will understand that this is simple - which means that you are in a mood.
5. Do not crush! Press on yourself is almost useless. If bad feelings have come, it is impossible "not to think about the white monkey," as in the old eastern parable. Try to just switch, help yourself - allow yourself a couple of minutes to feel what you want. What "red parrot" would you like to occupy for a couple of hours in your mind? And if nothing comes to mind, you have a unique chance to use a purely female oblivion - needlework in any form, cooking, washing, putting things in order.
6. Do not leave unfinished situations. It is very difficult to get rid of oppressive memories: death, quarrel, departure. But, as a rule, all this is experienced, if all the words are said, and the situation is "thought out" to the logical end. But if something is not told enough, it's not done - then even the most wonderful holiday can be spoiled by thoughts "But what if I did not turn off the iron?" (And this is still the softest, everyday option).
In the extreme case, no one interferes with the absent person to answer himself for his thoughts. Tell those who are not near you now, everything that I would like. Listen, forgive and understand.
7. Pronounce feelings! If you are angry, unhappy, bewildered, in anguish - try to pronounce your "bad" thoughts and feelings that are not appropriate to your intended state of mind. If it helps, but weakly - exaggerate them. Poohayte together with a: "Oy-yoy-yoy, how did I get unstuck! How can I, myself, poor, sorry! "- and you can control your feelings.
8. Postpone the clarification of the relationship. Do not quarrel and do not figure out the relationship if you or your loved ones are experiencing strong negative feelings. Wait.
9. Do not attribute! Many things and eggs eaten are not worth it. Therefore, before attributing words, intentions or someone's evil thoughts to your account (and then "digest" them in your head) - specify. Maybe it's just a fantasy, but you spoil your mood?