The right to privacy
If your partner has completely survived the divorce, it's no wonder that right now he will not be ready for a serious relationship. At the moment he needs a girlfriend, a sexual partner and no far-reaching plans for the future. Accordingly, if you love him, you will need to be his girlfriend / girlfriend and no one else. But this is all the punishment from the divorce is still fresh.
Do not show such a man that you are completely absorbed by him. You must have a life of your own-friends, relatives, co-workers, hobbies. Let him feel that you need not only him. Ask, for example, to transfer a three-hour visit to Napara, because you need to run to your mom for work and bring something, go with a girlfriend to a beauty salon, or go with a colleague to the store and help her choose shoes for her newly bought dress. Show your fantasy or, in fact, do something from the above if it is necessary. Just otherwise, he may be afraid of the responsibility that you think of him as your excessive obtrusiveness, and you do not need it.
Do not put too much pressure on yourself, you do not need to control it every step, ask for reports with whom you were, why so long and so on, and even more so do not arrange scandals for him. Respect his right to privacy. Remember that he does not owe you anything, as you are to him. It is possible that he divorced his wife because of jealousy. By the way, statistics, somewhere around half of marriages fall apart precisely because of similar conflicts. Quite another matter, if it disappears for a long time - it can testify that you have not one.
How to ask questions correctly
Do not hurry and ask questions to your knave about his divorce. But this does not mean that you should no longer be interested in this topic. What if he beat his wife? I think that you are hardly ready to associate life with such a person. On the topic of divorce is to speak delicately and unobtrusively. You can arrange a romantic dinner, an extravagant atmosphere, so that a man relaxes and opens himself to you. Guiding questions about the former wife should not be asked, as well as about the divorce itself. Conversely, you can ask about a woman in general, what an ideal woman for him - at the same time and for her own scoop information.
It is also worthwhile to be careful with questions about his "former". Do not press him, asking a bunch of questions about it. If he did speak about it himself, then you should not ask leading questions, and you should also refrain from commenting. Just listen in silence. Even more: if a man talks about his ex-wife only nastiness, then you should take care. You understand that in any relationship there are both good moments and bad ones - if you lived with her and married, it means that everything is not as bad as it is written to you.
Relations with the ex-wife
Divorce is not always a complete break in the relationship. You must be prepared for the fact that your man will be with his ex-wife, perhaps even maintaining friendly relations. There is nothing horrible in this - this is life and at the moment it is you who occupy the place of your loved one in his life. It is not necessary to arrange scandals because of this, to scold him about and without. It is better in general less to get into the relationship. But it's worthwhile to keep an eye out. Especially if a man often visits an "old house" and informs you himself that he needs to visit. It is possible that he has not yet made a final decision to break the relationship "there" and he needs a little time to determine exactly. In this case, you will simply be a temporary person, thanks to which he will understand that he still loves his ex-wife. This is a very vile feeling. Therefore, this can not be tolerated.
It is possible that there was a child left in that family. Then certainly the relationship is never completely nerazvuyutsya. A man who pays due attention and care to his child from a previous marriage is a positive example, of which there are not so many now. The new question is in another, do you agree to take this responsibility and let the "souls" of the children into the house and soul?
Prospects for the future
Do not think immediately licked registry office. Such an early option sold "zhenatikom" not ride. As a rule, such men on the contrary, avoid such "institutions" and for a very long time do not hurry there. And you, being a wise woman, should not press on your man and convince him that for you the romantic side of the relationship, rather than some kind of stamp in your passport, that you and so with him is good. Let him feel how good he is with you and only after six months or a year after acquaintance, you can go to the "offensive."