It is possible that the ancient genetic memory speaks in us. And she says something like this: "A man is a warrior, a hunter, a getter. His business is to squander your health for your good, and not to accumulate." If the warrior and hunter are very concerned about their own organism, then the health is either already wasted (and, consequently, you, the woman, no benefit), or it is not wasted, but you will not be used for it anyway (that is, again no).
By and large, men, concerned with their own health, are divided into three large categories. How to coexist with them (and whether you need it) - we will understand.
He hurts everything - from the stomach, spoiled by sausages in the school cafeteria, to the little finger on his left leg. Every day he listens to himself and shares with you experiences.
The reason for this behavior may be either excessive care in childhood, or, on the contrary, a lack of parental attention, painfully experienced by a young man. In the first case, parents (more often, of course, mom) take care of their beloved son from any drafts and overloads: he's also so skinny, pale and painful.
Over time, the boy gets used to this image and really feels sick.
In the second case, parents, too keen on career, remember that they have a baby, and stay with him only when he is sick. The child quickly draws conclusions and starts using his health as an instrument of blackmail. With age, this behavior is fixed - and here's a hypochondriac, who in another way simply does not know how to build relationships.
Why are you with him?
Women often take pity for love. The maternal instinct works: I saw a weak, defenseless - I wanted to regret and caress. And then I got involved.
What annoys you
If you think about it, it irritates the absence of a man nearby. He seems to be, but you do everything yourself. And you take decisions alone. Hypochondriacs in general are very indecisive and uninstructive: they are sick, they are harmful to worry. Individual approaches to health care they never use.
How to live further
Hypochondriacs can not enjoy life. All efforts to make him happier will remain fruitless. So you do not need to turn your house into a hospital room. To save the "most sick people in the world" there are specialists - psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists. They will help ... If, of course, the patient wants it.
Bodybuilder
Not in Russian, a bodybuilder. He piously believes that in a healthy body - a healthy spirit, because it constantly builds up and improves its body: here the delta is to be pumped, there is a wide sanding, and a trapeze to tighten. In the diet of protein sources, power engineers a little ... And if you can get it, then the steroids are quite a bit. Representations about the body and spirit of the sculpted handsome, I must say, superficial. The body is the skin, muscles and skeleton. A liver with kidneys - they burn with fire, they are not visible. Spirit - this is the willpower, forcing him to turn iron daily in the gym for 6 hours or to throw his own on tatami. A poem for a girl or at least a gentle sms-ka in the middle of the day is not a spirit, it's a snot.
Why is he such
Each case must be analyzed specifically with the help of individual approaches to health care. It is clear that the young person living in the gym has problems with self-esteem. Perhaps in the junior classes he was offended by stronger classmates. Or in the older girls did not like. And his mind fixed: to respect men, one must be strong, that women love - beautiful. Not a small role played for certain stereotypes broadcasted by the media: a successful man should have Schwarzenegger's musculature or at least Diesel. In the end, you too are striving for the ideal 90/60/90.
Why are you with him?
Because he is handsome and strong. That is prestigious. And everyone around you is jealous (even if you do not speak out loud about it).
What annoys you
Annoying lack of attention and common topics for conversation. In principle, it is a defect of any man who has a hobby: fishermen talk about fishing, fans talk about football, stockbrokers talk about percentages ... Well, body builders talk about biceps and triceps. True, fishermen and brokers do not abuse bioadditives. So, unlike tellystroiteley usually do not upset their girls in bed.
Either reconcile and tolerate (each has its own shortcomings), or train with it - you will have something to talk about. You will have to watch his diet personally. Perhaps it is worthwhile to turn to a psychologist or a good therapist who will be able to impress the young man that the appearance is not important and also the internal organs need to be taken care of.
He never hurts anything. And this is his personal merit. At least, he thinks so. In the morning he chews the sprouted oats, because it improves digestion, for the same reason, drinks kefir for the night. He poured cold water and ran in the park jogging. In the store, he reads the labels from a to I, studies the expiration dates, sniffs, touches, feels and doubts. To your illnesses, he treats with contempt and bewilderment, sincerely believing that in all bodily ailments everyone is to blame. You would eat with it with spilled oats - and you would be happy.
But the most terrible thing is that he discusses the details of his digestion and metabolism unabashedly at the table. And these lectures on physiology completely deprive you of your appetite.
In general, such demonstrative health is most likely a latent form of hypochondria. A person panically fears illness and death, and all his thoughts and strengths are directed at preventing this danger. Perhaps, there was some deep childish impression. For example, my beloved grandfather died, and everyone around said: "Oh, if he had stopped smoking in time, he could still live and live!" In the child's mind this is recorded as a strict taboo on smoking and other "harmful factors."
Often, hidden hypochondria is a product of developed figurative thinking. The young man saw a TV report about hordes of rats in a sausage shop - that's all! The sausage will not touch. But, since the topic of illness and death continues to disturb him, he constantly talks about it. Perhaps in the form: "Honey, do not put sugar in tea, it's poison!"
Somewhere in the ancient depths of our subconscious mind is fixed the image of a male predator. His job is to kill a mammoth with a fist, pull the carcass home, divide it all, and then bite into badly-roasted meat with strong strong teeth. Therefore, a man who eats one pot causes suspicion. And if he also constantly comments on the process of his own digestion after eating the foregoing!
In theory, only scientific anatomical conversations can be annoying. Well, give him a lecture on the rules of behavior at the table! If you are annoyed by his diet as such, sorry, the problem is in you. A man has the right to eat the way he likes. And to run in the morning. And pour cold water. Especially if this way of life and nutrition is healthy and prolongs life. And genetic memory ... Tell her that male predators, killing a mammoth with a fist, rarely lived to 30. Then calm down and try his sprouted oats. You have every chance to live not only happily, but also for a long time.