You are barely thirty, but you already have a handsome husband, a child, a successful career. Life is good?
The current career is a fleeting phenomenon. Today it has developed, and tomorrow - has disintegrated.
Your spouse Dmitry Orlov is a handsome, handsome actor. It's no secret that creative people are often prone to romantic passion for their partners on the set. Forgive each other such "little pranks"? If Dima did something for himself and allowed, then I'll never know about it, probably. We respect and appreciate each other. Men are a polygamous people. But I believe that a man can be not only an idle burner of life. Moreover, when we got married, Dima was 33 years old, and by this time he had already walked up. Therefore, I believe, I know and trust my second half. Sometimes at me and at it or him there are attacks of jealousy, as at all normal people, but for a short while. In any case, I do not like shadowing my husband. I know that some wives even answer their husband's phone calls instead of himself. But to go down to this level - not love yourself and not respect.
The classic of English literature considered: "Men get married with boredom, and women - out of curiosity." In the case of Irina Pegova, whose marital status was enough for a good career, how did things turn out?
I had no curiosity in this matter at all. When I got married, I was already quite an adult 25-year-old girl: I understood that this event would soon take place. On the contrary, I was afraid of the institution of marriage. Before the marriage, I saw many married couples, completely unhappy. Around me there were people with a difficult family life: tears, scandals, ardent antagonism towards each other. I was frightened by such a scenario. And what if I have it too? This is hell! It's better to be alone! As long as I can remember, I never wanted to get married. I firmly knew that one day a man would appear who was destined for me from above, and everything would be decided in a moment. And so it happened: Dima and I met at a film festival in Warsaw and immediately began to live together. But what about the sweet-flowering period? We did not have it. We lived together for a couple of years, then got married, and we had a baby. Only after the chocolate-flower days began. We decided that it is much more interesting to make gifts, surprises and bring joy to each other during everyday life. Not for a birthday, New Year and March 8, but daily. Recently, my husband tried himself in the hypostasis of the director, producer - a few months lost on the set. But, returning home late at night or in the morning, Dima gave me a bouquet of flowers, realizing that I lacked his attention and care. He compensated his absence with gifts and flowers. Is it true that you do not wear engagement rings and signed at the insistence of your parents?
As a woman I say: we all dream of a wedding. And for Irina Pegovoj the marital status not an exception. As a result, we signed. We do not wear wedding rings. Dima does not like wearing jewelry, he even walks without a watch. And I'm afraid of losing the ring, I often lose my gold jewelry.
Irina, are you superstitious? Believe in the signs? Sometimes I believe. For example, in the fact that lush, showy weddings are a sure forerunner of an early break in relations. I do not understand when famous people cover their weddings in the press and on television. We just signed in the registry office. There was no veil, no white dress.
Every girl dreams of a grand exit in a snow-white wedding dress. Do not you regret about such a gap?
Not at all. I do not like weddings in the form of gatherings of relatives and friends for the sake of everyone ate, drank and dabbled in plenty. Dima and I have enough reasons to gather friends and family and organize a holiday.
Irina, in your family - patriarchy or matriarchy?
In our family - the unconditional supremacy of men. I am aware of household issues, but as my husband says, it will be so. Without options. Now the weaker sex is increasingly pulling the blanket over itself in the alignment of power positions in the family.
Irina, so you decided to build your life differently? Do not you want to be the commander-in-chief in the family, like Mom?
I do not like this state of affairs. If I have a husband - especially such as Dima - healthy, strong, who can lead the family, earn money, be responsible for his house, - why should I put all this on my fragile shoulders? A woman should relax and live peacefully, doing only a child and cooking. How do you think, what is the power of a woman? Can she keep her husband, who decided to leave? I think that the happiness of the family is to spend more time in communication: discuss the accumulated problems, forgive, be able to negotiate with each other. The main thing is not to be silent in the corners! The woman, because of her character, should first make concessions, all to smooth out and not allow conflicts, especially verbal skirmishes, it is much more difficult for me to do this because of pride and self-esteem. A woman also has such qualities, but she should try to calm and forget them, if she wants to keep the man for the sake of family well-being. That is, you need to hide your pride deep and deep. Irina, and if he has changed? What to do with women's pride then?
This is a completely different situation. Thank God, I never had such a thing in my life, and, I hope, will not happen. I think it will be difficult for me to understand and forgive treason. Probably, because I sincerely believe: this can not happen to me. I would not want to be so disappointed.
But how many people - so many opinions. We are all different, and someone can not forgive even an evil word in his address. Usually men try to surprise women with their actions.
Irina, remember what surprises you arranged for your husband? There were many such examples. One time I was shooting in Kiev for a month, and Dima worked in Murmansk. We saw each other very rarely, when we had the same days off. This story occurred at the very beginning of our relationship, then we talked mostly on the phone. Suddenly we quarreled, and I realized that in the telephone mode I can not resolve the conflict. And I just had one day off. I buy a ticket to Moscow and from there fly to Murmansk. In the evening I come to the hotel, where the crew lived. I beg the hotel administrator to let me in the room to Dima (he was on the job site at this time). But since I do not have a stamp in the passport, I, naturally, is not allowed. And then, for my good luck, a film producer was passing by, who recognized me and asked me to put him in the room to my beloved. I immediately went to bed, and when Dima came, he found me asleep in his bed. Here such a surprise. In the morning I sit down on the plane and make the same way back to Kiev. And this, I think, cool! I'm sure Dima had the same opinion. Still, the girl flew to the far end of the earth to spend half the night alone with him!
Does Dima surprise you?
Pleasantly surprised by care. During my first pregnancy, I had a miscarriage. Of course, I was in a state of shock. But my husband helped me through the pain of loss, to survive this period. Dima then very much supported me morally. Sometimes there are situations in which I am lost, and my husband always finds the right way out, and I am very grateful for his support.
Irina, do you use women's tricks to get what you want from your spouse?
And how! Before the husband about something to ask, it is necessary to find a convenient moment for this. No effort will not be successful if the man is in a bad mood. It all depends on the situation. If the request of the woman will be stated in a soft, gentle and beautiful form - the man of the mountain will turn! For example, Dima makes no sense to throw requests, if he just woke up and had not yet had a smoke, did not take a shower. I know that it's better not to distract him from an important telephone conversation or, when he's busy with business. Before I start a conversation with Dima on the phone, I always ask.
Sometimes the life of young married couples deteriorates because of the intervention of parents. Irina, did you manage to avoid these problems?
I was lucky with my mother in law - a beautiful woman. He never asks any unnecessary questions. She admits that she understands curiosity, but believes: if we want, we'll tell her everything ourselves. The perfect mother-in-law! Sometimes I tell her about our family disputes, and she always takes my side, explaining that she is also a woman and fully in solidarity with me. I really appreciate her support. Irina, and Dmitry, too, is satisfied with his mother-in-law?
With my mother everything is more complicated, and at first it was very difficult for her to find a common language with Dima. But a couple of years ago, relations seem to have returned to normal. The matter is that my mum all life was the mistress in the house - solved, as the family should live. Therefore, she strongly interfered in our lives, although she lives in another city. When she comes to us or we to her - there are constant conflicts with Dima, misunderstanding, sharp words are being used. It does not surprise me, because my mother always told her husband how and what to do. But Dima realized that he must remain a gentleman in any situation. He found an approach to his mother-in-law and was able to win her trust. Now they have a good relationship with my mother. We are building a house in my native village of Vyksa. The working process is controlled by the mother, but she calls Dima and advises: "What color to make the roof?"
Irina, for you it is better to live separately from parents?
Of course! All mothers are very worried and worried about the fate of their daughters. Because any man for them is the enemy who took their daughter from them. Is it good for the daughter to live with this man - she does not think. For example, I do not know what will happen to my Tanya, when she grows up, and a strange man takes her away from me. Mothers are always in captivity of this fear. I will very strictly consider candidates for the hand and heart of my daughter and find fault with the slightest nuances! But I will not interfere in the family life of my daughter. Irina, tell me, do you share with your girl-friends the vicissitudes of your family life? No outsider knows anything about our personal relationships. Talking with other people's family problems, complaining about her husband - is worthless. My friends often talk about their family problems. First, I lose my precious time; Secondly, I'm not interested in listening to this. I think that I have no moral right to give advice on such sensitive issues. Even my mother and mother-in-law are not dedicated to the labyrinths of our family life. I rely only on my intuition. I consult only with my husband. If I have a conflict situation with Dima, then we should look for a way out of it together.
If people need each other, they love and want to live their age shoulder to shoulder - even if they conflict and do not agree with the characters - still have to find a common language, make concessions. I drowned and changed a lot in myself, because I realized that I could not keep my old character Dmitry Orlov. Therefore I eliminate negative qualities in myself. I have a choice: do not change anything in myself and remain alone or "break" myself and stay close to the coveted man. This, of course, is not easy.
Irina, you starred in the famous director Stanislav Govorukhin in the movie "Passenger". His deep sympathy for women with lush forms is well known.
True. Govorukhin always openly stated that he prefers to shoot primordially Russian gorgeous beauties. He likes women in the body, so he could not find the right actresses for a long time. I do not know why Govorukhin liked me, because in the world of cinema there are a lot of other young actresses "with forms." But, I admit, it's nice.
Modern men try to surround themselves not with gorgeous beauties, but with lean models. Irina, does your husband not adhere to the same canons of beauty?
If I am constantly in the same parameters, then the roles will be monotonous. I realize that it is necessary to support myself in the form, but I will never reach a model size and do not want it! This is my natural constitution. And my husband loves my magnificent forms!
You confirm that a successful artistic career and an ideal female figure are interrelated?
Of course. Sometimes, because of the imperfection of the figure, you lose the role. Although nobody told me about it. And once there was an amusing incident with the director Alexei Uchitel. For his picture "Space as a presentiment" it was required to lose weight a little. I sat on the diet of Dr. Volkov, which is that the composition of blood is determined by "desirable" and "undesirable" products. For three months I lost a lot of weight. During this period, I was simultaneously confirmed for the role in the film "Walk" of the same Teacher. In the picture you can clearly see how full I am literally in front of my eyes. At the beginning of the movie, I'm a slim girl, and by the end I've already blown.
Irina, is it true that as a child you were fond of fencing? Do you often attack or defend in life?
These skills really helped me on the set of the movie "Return of the Musketeers". In life, I often have to defend myself. Although I am a man of peace. I do not like conflicts, because I do not know how to behave in such situations. When your mother found out that you entered a theater college, she was categorically against it and said: "The world of actors is a constant lie, vulgarity, debauchery. They have an unenviable life. " Now you are convinced that moms are always right? Certainly. However, I understood this before. Such an unflattering characterization of the society of actors is an absolute truth. Of course, there are exceptions.
You came to Moscow from the outback. Have you become a metropolitan thing today?
No, I'm a village girl and do not try to become a capital thing, because it's far from a compliment. I live only home and theater. Everybody knows that I come from the village of Vyksa. Why show off? Each of us has his own skeletons in the closet. Are you troubled by past grievances?
Three years ago I left the theater "Pyotr Fomenko's Workshop", where my acting debut took place. Now, facing my former colleagues, I feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable. Although I think that for her career has made the right choice - in favor of the Theater-Studio Oleg Tabakov. This is the only life situation that worries me. We met Pyotr Naumovich Fomenko at one of the events six months ago, but he does not greet me. This is very strange and incomprehensible to me. But as an educated person, I say my "Hello!" And I want to maintain a civilized relationship with him. After all, Pyotr Naumovich is my teacher, I played for five years in his theater. I love and love him, he is an authoritative person for me. The fact that he does not greet me is his choice. If he, thus, avenges me for leaving him in "Tabakerku" - it's not serious. Are you yourself a vengeful person? No. Probably, no one has so much offended me so that I decided to take revenge on a person or make a mockery. I do not want to waste my time, energy and nerves on such stupid things. Although if too much zapolyat - I will answer with dignity.