Envy of girlfriends
If someone annoys your successes and achievements, then you can look at it from a positive point of view, so your successes are really significant and someone would like to be as successful as you, hence the envy. Probably, each of us has a friend who, at the sight of your new dress, manicure or hairdress, starts to say that she once had a similar haircut, and that she went very much and all around her only about her hair and said . Do not get upset at these words and run to correct your hair. Most likely, it was said in a fit of envy, so as not to look next to you clever and beautiful less fashionable and advanced.
Envy of mother
With the envy that the mother feels for her daughter, everything is much more complicated. Your mother does not get younger every year, the time when she was young and blossoming is already gradually passing, but it seems that she still can not accept this. Try not to take offense at her, she can sincerely wish you happiness and good, but at the same time she always remains a woman. And every woman wants to be better and more beautiful than others, even her own daughter. This is our nature. The more tolerant is her mother, not her power to bring youth back. Think that someday you will be in its place, and then you will not be the rival of your grown up and prettier daughter. However, the fact that your mother wants to at least remain and seem as beautiful as before is worthy of respect. So maybe you should go shopping together and choose a new outfit for Mom? Let him drive gentlemen of his age mad and build eyes to your peers who came to visit you for a cup of tea.
Envy of the Beloved
And finally, the hardest option: envy awoke in your young man. And this is a very serious reason to think about your relationship. It is possible that he is now just such a difficult period in his life, maybe problems at work or some things are not glued, or he just has a bad mood this evening. Maybe he still believes in you, but threw a stupid phrase, completely without thinking and not with evil, but with fatigue, for example. But if this is not an isolated incident on his part, and this is repeated from time to time, and it is impossible to write off such behavior to some external factors, then there is only one way out - to escape without looking back from such a prince. Nothing good with such a person in life will not.
Protection rules
So what can you do to isolate yourself and not take someone else's envy close to your heart? Let's work out some rules.
- Rule one: do not let anyone destroy your faith in yourself. And let everyone around tremble about what they want, do not listen to evil tongues, be above them. Golden aphorism "Smile - it's annoying everyone!" Is just a joke.
- Rule two: be extremely sensitive and careful in statements, especially with your relatives. You know what their difficulties are now. Sometimes your successes should be slightly understated, so as not to accidentally hurt the feelings of close people. And when a good moment comes, you can tell exciting and important news for you, then it will be perceived quite differently.
- Rule three: if communication with some people strains you, it is better to reduce it to nothing. If they are jealous for any reason, starting with the fact that you managed to get to the premiere of the film and ending with a prize in the beauty contest of your cat, then you are not on the same path with such people.
So the most important thing is self-confidence and one's own strength. And the envy of others can only push you to achieve new victories and no one will prevent you from achieving your goals.