Sometimes such a smile flashes on the face and a week-old baby, but the first True Smile appears somewhere in the region of 4-8 weeks, when the child, consciously fixing his eyes on your face, will smile at you, and nobody else. It is interesting that a smile is an innate, genetically engineered action, and not "sobeyazannichchennoe" from my mother's or father's face - in response to my mother's voice, even blind children who are born blind can smile, who can not imitate anyone.
Fact
The laughter and smiles of a young child are one of the most attractive expressions of a baby's face, as foreseen by nature. So the child has to himself, causes sympathy, asks protection from adults. It is impossible to resist it! Sometimes a baby can smile at birth, if the birth was mild and natural.
Do you know that a smile is useful for developing abilities of crumbs?
Widespread smiles, designed for mom, involve a large number of muscles and activate the right frontal region of the brain, developing imaginative thinking, imagination, creativity and intuition.
The laughter and smiles of a young child, given to strangers, activate a smaller number of facial muscles and the left half of the brain, contributing to the development of logical and analytical thinking.
In contact with!
It is interesting that the first laugh and the smiles of a small child or a newborn is a reaction not to the appearance of my mother's face, but to her voice. A baby's smile is a call to communication. If the mother smiles in response, his smile becomes even wider, he is happy that he was correctly understood, and my mother will be pleased even more - you have the first communication. There is a contact! From the first important lessons of communication, the crumb always remembers that a smile always evokes a smile in return. If you manage to fix it in his mind, then for a baby this will undoubtedly be an incentive to smile as often as possible. If he sees that his smile is an occasion to start communicating with you (with his father, brother, grandmother), he will try his best to make such "sessions" repeat as often as possible, which means that he will smile on himself and look for ways to cheer you up.
Fact
Scientists have found that when a mother sees the face of her smiling baby, she activates the same areas of the brain as when taking some drugs. The smile of the baby is a natural and harmless drug.
Smile means "let's play with you and be friends!"
The first, from the 3rd day of life to the end of the first month, is a proto-smile, reflective. It manifests itself for a second and is almost invisible. It can be a reaction to a woman's voice, to tickling.
A common smile appears after the 4th week of life. It is easy to recognize: the crumb fixes the eyes of surrounding objects, people. In the second month of the baby's life, a long-awaited specific smile appears. The child already discerns the faces of the parents, reacts to their presence.
Laughter in short pants
And now the crumb turns 3-4 months old and parents are amazed for the first time ... Yes, yes, the baby laughs! True, all children do it differently: someone quietly laughs, wide open mouth and occasionally whining, someone bursts into a contagious laugh, sometimes even rolling up from the storm of emotions, someone makes sounds that sound a little bit like crying, but content The facial expression clearly indicates that the child is laughing. This is the most suitable age for parents to start actively seeking among the joint activities those that cause the maximum joy, laughter and smiles of a small child. Start with all sorts of folk "goes goat horned," "forty-crow", "ladushki-ladushki," "go, went to the village for nuts." Snort, somersault together, tickle each other for your own pleasure! One of the favorite games of this period is what is called peek-a-boo in the English-speaking countries - the first hide and seek. Mom, for example, hides under the table, behind the furniture, behind the curtain, and then the baby is shown. Every her appearance the cub meets with a joyous laugh of relief. Expresses his delight in the fact that my mother was found. Playing hide and seek, the little one learns with the help of laughter to overcome fear. And he knows for sure that his mother will never leave!
Experiments show that people expecting to see a funny movie, 87% increase in the content of growth hormone!
And they also produce one-third more beta-endorphin than those who plan to look through a newspaper with reports of catastrophes. Growth hormone is responsible for immunity, and beta-endorphin helps to withstand stress, depression and analgesia.
So choose yourself what you read or watch the whole family - a kind colorful film with real heroes or a thriller.
Humor suppresses someone else's aggression and relieves tension in communication with a smile. Not only that »it is useful for health! Those who laugh more, live longer. Children laugh much more often than adults - they play and often fall into comic situations
Another innate feeling is empathy, the ability of people to empathize, sympathize, recognize the feelings of others and "join" them. He, like a tuning fork, catches her mood and adapts to him. The ability to empathy develops well only if the child spends a lot of time with parents, and if their emotional world is diverse. Mom, always in a state of anxiety or excessively restrained, hiding her feelings, does not give the child the experience of seeing different and vivid emotions. Developing empathy in your child, you provide a happy future for your grandchildren in a more reliable way than opening an account for them in the bank.
The lessons of humor
However, if the first laugh and smiles of a small child can be easily caused by tickling him gently, throwing to the ceiling, making a hilarious face or imitating his snort, then one has to somehow strain to cheer the child. In addition, it's time to reflect on how to raise a cheerful, witty person with a good sense of humor. And is it possible.
Of course, a significant part of the sense of humor, laughter and smiles of a small child is congenital: any mother who has more than one child will confirm that children are born with different characters: someone more cheerful, someone thoughtful, someone is sociable, someone he is prone to seclusion ...
However, no doubt, in the upbringing and care of the child, along with the development of cognitive abilities (reading and counting in a year and a half), there must necessarily be a place and development of a sense of humor. After all, it's not just the ability to laugh at the whole apartment from a good joke or, on the contrary, make a boring company laugh. This is the most important element of the world perception, which teaches not to dwell on problems, to look at life optimistically, to see good things, to enjoy trifles.
Assistants in the education of a sense of humor
The general atmosphere in the family. If the pope regularly comes from work with a beech and fences off from the family with a television set, if the mother does not have time to do anything and only knows what to shout and be nervous if the grandmother murmurs all day long about the fact that she is not respected here and is not considered with her if the grandfather terribly worried because of the latest health reforms ... You probably already understood: it is unlikely that they will teach a child to find joyful people in their lives who do not know how to do it themselves.
Rejoice in any laughter and smiles of a young child. Let him laugh more often, remember what makes him happy. Rejoice that he is already able to see something terribly funny, even if you do not understand it. Let him laugh as much as possible, remember what you like when he laughs, and his own feelings of laughter.
Choose funny books, cartoons - something that is able not only to introduce a deep morality into the child's subcortex, but also to cheer him up. Let at the beginning it is just a mixture of sounds in the book you read: "Bach! Tyr-tyr-tyr! Zhzzhzh! "Or funny situations like a fainting dad in the" Prostokvashin ". (This does not mean at all that your child is doomed to the end of his days to die of laughter at the sight of a man who fell into a puddle.) Do not think hard about whether your child is not too early to listen to certain verses and whether he understands them, it is possible , that he will hear something in them. Read to children funny prose: "Winnie the Pooh," "Carlson," the book by E. Uspensky, stories about the dog Sonia A. Usachev.
Do not worry because you do not carry the child "reasonable, good, eternal", but entertain. Do not doubt, the basic moral and moral principles he will necessarily pereimet, watching you, but laughter and smiles of a young child need to be trained and earned.
Do not forget that your baby from the earliest months when new phenomena appear in his life, in the first place, he looks at your reaction first, "writes" it into memory as correct. Learn to "keep your face", watch yourself, try to restrain unpleasant emotions when you are a baby, and emphasize positive ones. If you are thrilled with the guests, if you are able to genuinely wonder, admire, express delight - all this will be passed on to your child. If, when he flops, trying to take the first step, you rush to him with a face terrified of horror, there is nothing to be surprised that he will fall into a minor at the slightest stress. So try to work out a set of first reactions to different actions, so that he, looking questioningly at you in these situations, could copy you. For example, when it falls (naturally, we are talking about light falls), we can say: "Bam-mms!", "Oops!", "O-la-la!", And all this with a sympathetic, but a smile. Of course, sometimes you need to regret it, but so that the child does not get into the taste of this matter. By your reaction, you as if say: everything is all right, there is nothing to be afraid of, this is nonsense!
Older children are well helped to develop a sense of humor all sorts of funny performances, circus and especially tricks. Well, if you often make surprises for your child - let them be small, but pleasant. It's great if you write stories for him about the funny adventures of heroes, over which he can laugh at the height of his experience, for example, tell the three-year-old about a man who could not eat with a spoon, and what ridiculous situations he got because of this. Of course, it will be funny to him, if he himself knows this a long time ago!
The guys who have already learned to draw or even write, with great pleasure play "nonsense" - remember, this is when someone draws a part of the body, for example, the head, then wraps a piece of paper, hands it over to another, and the one who does not see the drawn draws torso with hands, wraps ... Or you can write poetry, leaving the last word for rhyme. Another great and deadly funny game is the "Associations", when the players are divided into two teams, each of them guessing the notions, the names of the songs, the books, and then one person from the opposing team reads the conceited and tries without words to portray for the team, that their opponents wanted. Usually by the end, everyone is lying on the floor laughing, by the way, this game is also wonderful for "adult" holidays.
Always in communication with the child and with others, give your child an example of witty reaction, laughter and smiles of a small child. When talking with him, always joke and encourage his attempts to answer. Pretend that you do not know something (which you can not know), do not know how to sweep, for example, play small scenes for it (it's better to do it with kids over the year - kids up to a year can take painfully to mother's "transformation "). Wit is not only stupidity, but also the development of quick reaction, resourcefulness, not only an important communicative skill, but also a mind training, so a sense of humor is usually combined with good thinking abilities.
Fact
In three to four months the baby will please you with another new achievement: now he not only smiles passively at you with his lips and eyes, he also accompanies his smile by waving his hands, legs, and buzz. He shows you »that he is glad to see and is ready to communicate.
How not to destroy the sense of humor inherent in the child? Try to learn to understand when he really jokes, and when he mocks. Do not allow the child to joke. Cynicism is not an infant feeling. Another explanation »that you can joke with your peers. With adults, time has not yet come.