And at the same time, the blatant middle peasants are at the top, because they know how to put their interlocutor to him. The saying "the language before Kiev will bring" was born not in an empty place.
Ethical behavior provides great advantages in society. Etiquette is a set of rules of conduct that make communication between people as problem-free as possible. In direct communication, when one person talks to another person, most of the information - often what one of the interlocutors wanted to say - passes by the ears of the second. The most common cause is interference interfering with communication. For example, the first interlocutor curses, blows his nose to the floor or turns the button on the listener's clothes. If the former knew the rules of ethical behavior, allowing not to offend the feelings of his interlocutor, perhaps he would have managed to convince him of something in some way. And so he has no chance. Etiquette removes barriers in communication.
It is also important that etiquette makes human communication as safe as possible. Imagine a medieval feast: dozens of feudal lords sit at one table, each of which, in fact, is a professional thug. And they drink wine, eating it with meat, which they cut with their own daggers. Naturally, life expectancy at that time directly depended on the ability of conflict-free behavior. The role of etiquette in the upbringing of the children of the upper class was very great at that time, but if you think that the situation has now radically changed, then you are mistaken. And then and now etiquette serves as greasing of gears of a society.
Knowledge of etiquette sets a person's orientation. A person knows how to behave in society, this gives him confidence in the most difficult situations. It's no secret that confidence in one's own forces is one of the important components of success. Novels by Louis Busennar, Alexandre Dumas are fascinated by the main character - a gentleman who does not depart from the rules of decency even at critical moments. This is the path of a leader, one who leads others around, because it is a standard for them. In the education of children in the West, more and more attention is paid to leadership inclinations, ethics only contributes to this.
The role of etiquette in the upbringing of children is difficult to overestimate. The earlier you begin to introduce your child to the world of decency and good manners, the better. The earlier the child understands why it is "better" to do this, but what is "worse", what consequences this or that action may lead to, the more successfully he can get along with others. True actions in dealing with others lead to encouraging results that serve as positive reinforcement and stimulate further movement towards ethical and social success. Instead of hitting your own kind in the sandpit on the head with a shovel and suffering from loneliness, your child can acquire a crowd of comrades and with joy and pleasure attend kindergarten, and not get themselves psychological problems.
Parents try to save their child from such a scourge, and often approach the issue of ethical education too zealously, "bending the stick." In education, the mechanical memorization of the rules of decency without their thinking and awareness will not lead to anything good-a prude will grow up. He will teach others how they should or should not do it, because in childhood he was given such a model of behavior. Therefore, to teach the rules of etiquette follows with the development of the child, you need to start with simple and understandable things, like "thank you", "please", "health", etc., and only then move to more complex ones. When you talk about very unobvious things, a child can get bored, because he does not understand, and demonstratively resist. The history of etiquette rules will help. Many of them are fascinatingly interesting, for example, the sharp ends of table knives blunt, so that the nobles do not pick them in the teeth (all other ways to wean them from an unpleasant habit were unsuccessful).
Remember that children perceive not what you "teach" them, but what you do. You can say anything, but if the child sees that the rules of ethical and conflict-free behavior teach him draconian methods, then the teacher will not succeed. Most likely, a person brought up in this way will be using the same methods to educate ethics and their children. The rules of ethical behavior are best taught by personal example, so if you want a better future for your child, then start with yourself.