The main task of all centers of mother and child is the preparation of parents for the birth and upbringing of the child, as well as the establishment of communication, contact with the future child. But the attitude to such a statement of the question from all future parents is not unambiguous. Some think it's nonsense to talk to such a small creature who does not understand anything yet, while others, on the contrary, involuntarily communicate with the baby, stroke the stomach and talk with it. And some even are confident that they communicated with their baby even before his conception.
I propose to understand how right those who argue that you can and need to communicate, how to communicate correctly, and how this will ultimately affect the child and his relationship with you.
The main question - with whom to communicate? To do this, let's see what the experts say that conducted research in different countries about how the baby is developing in utero. And the scientifically proven fact that brain impulses were recorded in a child who was no more than 6 weeks old. At 11 weeks old the child already reacts to external stimuli - light, sound, pain, touch. And if he reacts to them, then he feels them. Already, starting from the 5th month of pregnancy, the child has already formed a character. For example, children react differently to external stimuli. If, for example, a calm and quiet baby is afraid of sound, then the child "with a character" may become angry. You can already clearly see the facial expressions of the child. He expresses absolutely all emotions - crying, shouting, joy, discontent. The child has a wonderful ear, accordingly well remembers music and phrases, and even develops his attitude to it. He has his own priorities and affection. And even their favorite musicians. It is proved that children prefer classical music - calm, lyrical. Already starting from the 6th month, the child begins to actively move in the tummy, he develops the vestibular apparatus. Appear their taste preferences, because by this time already developed taste.
Is it really necessary to have any proof that there really is a real man in the tummy who is able to feel, understand, experience, love. But this little man is able not only to understand that they communicate with him, he even achieves communication. After all, it is not uncommon for a child to prevent his mother from falling asleep by active pushes until the father puts his hand on his tummy. A child can demand a conversation, a walk, a bath and many other things. And he never refuses to communicate, always responding to Mom's words.
I think that it is clear that there is someone to communicate with. And now let's talk about how to communicate correctly. Well, in the first place, and this is, most importantly, with the baby you need to talk. After all, the hearing develops before all the senses, and then he will recognize you by voice, reacting to your words, and ignoring outsiders. And you need to talk with him, as with a completely adult and intelligent person. This most surprising way affects the relationship after his birth. After birth, the children with whom they communicated before birth, hearing familiar voices, fell silent, listened attentively, and the speech developed much faster than those children whose parents did not consider it necessary to communicate. It's so simple - to tell your little miracle that you love him and are waiting very much. And what does it matter that you have never seen it, for real maternal love?
But, in addition to the fact that you can talk with your child, you can still sing to him. After all, in singing, the woman conveys deeper emotions and, together with the baby, experiences them. Thus, you are completely connected with your baby. You can sing together, listen to music. And the kid himself will tell you about his preferences, you just need to listen to him, and you will surely understand what music he likes and which does not. He can even dance with you.
There was a case when one musician from memory played music, the music of which did not know and never heard it. As it turned out later, his mother was also a musician, and during the pregnancy she sang this music, naturally, very emotionally. And the child remembered this melody for the rest of his life, it sounded like it inside him.
But if a child reacts so much to everything inside, can not this be called a pre-natal education? After all, it is quite clear that the child absorbs a good taste, the manner to communicate, much earlier than with the mother's milk.
After all, we well know that a child develops well when the mother is active. And even doing exercises or going for a walk, you communicate with a future child. After all, he will also react to them, something he will like, but something not.
And when should we start communicating? Once you learned about pregnancy. And very often it happens that it has not yet been confirmed, and you already feel that a new life is starting inside of you, you feel with your heart a little heart. When you are talking together, look at nature, beautiful things, your hearts communicate, and at that moment there is that connection that we call the blood, with which you will always understand your child without words.
We understood all the benefits of communication for a little man, but what can this communication for parents give? After all, the pregnancy lasts nine months. This is the period when you get used to the fact that you are not alone, learn to hear, understand your child, and finally, to love. You have not yet seen him, and you can not even imagine what kind of eyes or hair he will have, but have already learned how to understand and love him. We learned to be patient and open to everything new. Learned to be real parents for a little man.