Of course, with quarrels and disagreements, women are more emotional than men, and therefore abuse becomes more global. And in order not to spoil the mood neither to himself, nor to his beloved man, it is first necessary to learn how to control one's emotions. Believe me, from the fact that we are getting excited, it will not become easier from resentment and discontent and the problems will not disappear, and therefore why should we ourselves spoil our nerves, from which there are signs of aging on the skin and not only. Rule number 1 does not need to be so nervous without finding out everything. Of course, it's part of our essence in tears to cry something incomprehensible to men, but our excessive emotions will only aggravate our position and the position of our relationship.
It's easier for men to get away from a roaring and screaming woman and wait until we settle down not because they do not care about us, but because it's easier for them to leave than to calm the roaring creature. Rule number 2 does not cry sobbingly, that you can not breathe, you need to lightly shed a tear, pressing on pity, because without tears a woman can turn into a robot, and hysteria, cries and tears unnerving men. And light tears and calm speech can turn everything in your direction. Unreasonableness and lack of logic kill them, so all claims need to be stated correctly with Swiss precision.
Rule number 3 , the conversation should be without dryness, do not show your offense demonstratively. You do not need to talk like a robot, show that you care not for him and for your relationships and for yourself, but do not show selfishness. Be moderately emotional. Precisely bring to them the subject of conversation and the cause of discontent.
Rule number 4 , during the conversation, hold your little tongue sharp, as another folk wisdom says: "the word is not a sparrow, it will fly out - you will not catch it," so it may happen that in the outburst of the soul or in the hearts insult your loved one, you will forget , but he will remember. No need to try to hurt him more, especially if the questions concern the bed, because sooner or later you will still make peace, if everything does not lead to a break. And it is not worth it because of some kind of quarrel put a cross on the relationship, because it is words that play a big role, and not actions. It is words that are remembered more than mistaken deeds.
Rule number 5 , after the quarrel, the night of reconciliation may follow, and in this case, you should not refuse and "give a turn from the gate" to your beloved man, because for you the demonstration of your own offense can turn completely different, your man can go in search of consolation in other people's arms. So it's better to bury the hatchet ax in bed and forget about everything bad.
Rule number 6 , calm, quiet and peaceful conversation - that's the guarantee of your victory. Express to him all your desires and wishes, all your contentment and discontent, because men do not know how to read our thoughts. Because you will think more and more often about the very thing that you would like to convey to your man, he will still not hear your thoughts. Thoughts are read only in Brazilian TV series, where a man day after day can fulfill the wishes of his chosen one.
One of my friends constantly buys their useful little things for their beloved, they will buy panties, then a T-shirt, they will "fit" a new razor, then they will give them a general photo and present them to the cup, but in return nothing gets a stern of flowers and trips to the cinema or in the parks. She also wants him to give something to her, even a toothbrush, as she said. On my question, whether she spoke to him about her desires, she indignantly held out "no, of course." And in vain, because men do not see what we need and that we sometimes could prefer a toothbrush instead of a rose. Do not take offense at him and save offense, you just need to ask: "Dear, buy me this and this." Yes, of course it would be nice to receive unexpectedly as a gift the little thing we needed with the words "dear, I noticed ...", which was on our list of small desires, but, alas, men are not as practical as we are, and do not see that , what we see.
It is never easy to find out the relationship, and therefore it is not necessary to make this task even more difficult. Quarrels, of course, are useful for shaking relationships, psychologists say, and update feelings and emotions, quarrels are a test of the strength of our feelings, but when they are many or without cause they arise on an equal footing, this is already bad. So get rid of negative emotions in other ways, and not through quarrels. After all, there are many ways to show and renew your feelings. Let's properly find out the relationship and get out of any situations without heightened tones in the voice and tears!