Lessons that our children are giving us

We think that we are teaching our children, but often the opposite happens ... When a child appears in the family, parents believe that their main duty is to teach the kid everything that he can not do without in life. And it's not even about walking, eating, reading, it's much more interesting to explain what is good and what's bad, how to be friends and what to listen to and what to believe ... Other parents are so enthusiastically taken for it, so I want to quickly teach my offspring the basics of life, that in the process they completely fail to notice that the child is not as unreasonable a creature as it may seem at first glance. Moreover , sometimes they are much smarter than us: after all, what is hidden for an adult under a layer of stereotypes and sanctimonious morals, for the child, on the contrary, is quite obvious! The lessons that our children give us are completely unique. They are kind, wise, honest. We should not be afraid to learn from our own children. And enjoy the lessons that our children give us.

Remember everything . The daughter returned from school, and she howls frantically: she did not write down her homework, but she wrote a note in the diary. You in the kitchen furiously wash the dishes and try to pretend that everything is fine. "And what," you argue, "is to blame, will be more attentive to lessons!" This story with unrecorded lessons is repeated for the second year already. You are tired of fighting with her laxity, forgotten hats and sports suits, lost notebooks and pens. You put reminders and reminders, she wrote to herself - it's all useless. Crying in the corridor turns into hopeless sobbing, you can not stand it and ask: "Well, tell me, what can I do to make you more organized? How can I still teach you? "And then the daughter pronounces a phrase that makes you ashamed" Mom, do not teach me, just hug me and pity me! ".

Apparently, on your face written something that allows the child to come up and bury your nose. You sigh, stroke it on the head, listen to how it fades away and suddenly you remember: you, little, stand in the middle of the corridor, crying and promise that you will never, never lose your mittens ... And everyone is screaming and shaming everyone around. And you are so scared, bitter and lonely, as if you are alone in the whole world ... One day a daughter told you: "You know, Mom, I almost always cry for you to pity me and fall in love." These are the lessons that the children give us, we do not notice.

No sooner said than done . Going to a toy store is not a test for the faint of heart. No matter how many cars and soldiers were in the house, it is still not enough! You go with your son to buy a gift to your cousin and agree: no machines. But in the store you once again give in to whining, wiping and persuasion: it's easier to throw money away on toys than to fight in front of sellers and the public. The most insulting thing is that in ten minutes the son of the toy no longer remembers, and you scold yourself for showing weakness and the fact that your word means nothing. Familiar? And how else should a child relate to your words, if you, by stating that you will not buy anything, still do the next senseless purchase? Next time everything will repeat exactly, and still remember: last time I bought it? So our children teach us. And you try to be consistent: for example, if chocolate is not possible, because it is an allergy, it can not be done, even on holidays.

Generosity . Have you ever slapped a child? And then you are terribly ashamed, just hate yourself to tears, but it's done ... And our children do not take offense. They cry and try to hug us, they do not remember later about these shameful slaps and insulting words, they forgive and love us the same way as before. Oh, if we could forgive our loved ones just as children forgive us! If every parent had the wisdom and the desire to perceive the lessons that our children are giving us, the world would be different. Children make us better, cleaner, kinder, sincere.