Usually, painlessly part with men, women are self-sufficient and resolute. They give the choice of lonely living, but no way of life with the person who causes the affliction. But weak and vulnerable women do not want to risk, even despite our deep suffering. Even with the unloved, but still next to her husband. This is due to the fact that they are afraid not to be able to create new lasting relationships with a man. So which of these two categories of women makes the right choice?
Each of these women is right in its own way. It is clear that the final break with her husband can only be done when there is simply no other way out of this situation.
But if you came to the conclusion that there is no other way out than to get a divorce, it will be clever to do this, being confident of supportive and close ones, since a single woman, especially at first, may need help. And you need to do this because you do not need to seek help from your ex-husband. He, like you, should think about the creation of a new family, which is not very easy, especially if the former wife constantly teens him - this is in the first place. And secondly, the ex-husband, your constant requests for help can be perceived as a hope for the return of previous relations. If your relations are not returned, you do not need to reassure him in the opposite and give hope to what has already irretrievably gone.
Deciding to divorce a man she does not like, a woman should try not to lower her self-esteem. However, in our imperfect society, a divorced woman is in a status that is below the status of a married woman. For some reason, the divorced woman is looked upon as a loser or a dissolute, unable to save a family home. It is very evident in small towns, where almost everyone knows each other. As a rule, the cause of divorce is not disassembled, it's just that a woman is condemned without going into details. Iti condemnation, of course, presses on the psyche, forcing to hide eyes from the passers-by.
But there is a way out of this situation, and not very complicated. Just a woman must once and for all understand that she lives for herself, and not for others and their opinions. And do not take their gossip to heart, for your life belongs only to you, not to others.
But if you need to save a marriage for one reason or another, how to deal with it? Let's try to think about how the marriage can ideally look marvelous, which you do not like.
How to rebuild life with a husband you do not love
Many of the women who do not like husbands live in the brakeradi children, arguing that the father is better than his stepfather, and the love between father and father. And the relationship of mom and dad does not affect children in any way. This situation is quite frequent and difficult, since a woman, considering herself a victim, in such a situation feels unhappy and endures all this just for the sake of a happy life for children.
This is the main difficulty of such situations. Naturally, both mother and father are equally dear to the child. And divorce, being a psychological trauma, is very hard for children to take. Noskandals, constantly occurring in the house, cause the psyche of the child even greater harm. Hide their parents from the children their relationship is sometimes impossible. Yes, and often the fault for the failed family relationships on a subconscious level is imposed on children. And we must take into account that children are creatures who feel very sensitive to the state of the inner world of their mothers and dads and the sense of guilt is populated in them and may not leave them throughout their entire life.
A woman should always take this into account provided she does not want to destroy a marriage with an unloved person. It is necessary to minimize the scandals in the family or the hell created in the house in such a situation, can impute childhood to your children, perhaps their entire life. Well, if you can not avoid scandals, it is better to decide on a divorce. And if the decision takoyevse still had to take, it does not mean that the relationship between the children must be terminated by the weaving. It happens that after the divorce the fathers are even more drawn to their children and therefore try to save the family only for the sake of children, as this attempt will not lead to anything good.
In the event that you are still getting used to the presence of your unloved husband, you should reflect on that, but do you dislike him so much? And if the answer is still negative, it will be better to hide nothing, chat with your spouse in order to avoid further quarrels and scandals. Even a fondly loving wife, her husband will someday reconcile with the fact that his feelings are not reciprocal. And such marriages are very common.
There are situations when a woman, not loving her husband, pities him with it. And this situation is not unique, because sometimes it only seems that there is no love and it is necessary to live only out of pity. It happens because love takes different forms and can be expressed in the form of hatred. That's why when there is love like it is not, but there is only pity, think, perhaps this is the form that love has accepted? Try to imagine your life without him, without what you do not like at all ... Does not this sensation cause pain in the soul? And if so, netak is all bad. And now it is no longer so urgent to raise the question of whether it is worth starting your life anew. It often happens that habit and life have played a role in dulling feelings, and making efforts to restore them anew is simply necessary. Remember that living loving is always easier.