While there are men and women, questions about treason will not cease to be relevant. And to understand the reasons, to find the culprit of betrayal, both spouses want, regardless of who changed. A large percentage of women believe that there are no families where there were no changes, and if they are not now, they will later, namely in one of the crises of family life or the crisis of middle-aged men. Age crises of family life - the theme of our today's article.
There are at least three family crises, in which most often there are treason.
The first - in the third year of family life, and, basically, this is the reason for wanting to be sure "Was there love?". The fact is that after 2 years, when the feelings were bright, stormy and exciting, a period of smooth and calm relations begins. But young spouses always want to believe that love for life will remain the same exciting, as in the first year of a joint life, and even such as before marriage. Contrary to our desires, the feelings go to a new stage, even more sincere and tender than at the beginning of the relationship, but to understand and accept this the couple are often powerless. This is the first reason for early adultery, there is a desire to once again feel the storm of emotions that was before. During this period, men are more likely to change, because a woman does not have time to even think about it, especially if a child has already appeared, and it's impossible to find time to find a lover or meetings. Do not forget that at this time women are predisposed to depression, so they may not look as good as before, and only the husband can help her get rid of it. But men are inherently weaker, as far as home and children are concerned, so they quickly break down in search of new adventures.
The news of the infidelity of a spouse for a woman becomes the strongest blow, and it is impossible to foresee her behavior. Even balanced and calm women are capable of acting on them uncharacteristic. No explanations, calls for sanity and tranquility will not help a jealous wife, but a reasonable woman will come across some tips to cope with the problem.
The betrayal of her husband makes an intelligent woman think about the reasons and look at herself, rather than throwing pans and filing for divorce. It does not happen after all, so that only one side was guilty. By the way, psychologists do not advise when opening the betrayal to start a "heart to heart talk" and expose the unfaithful spouse, it is better to provide the house with everything that it needs on the side. Thinking, a woman will always be able to understand a loved one, even if she is an unfaithful husband. What can you do if men for centuries can not get self-affirmation, again believe in their strength without the help of a woman. And if such a woman ceases to pay attention to himself and to him, to say affectionate words, as before, what the man has to do, if he does not know of any other ways to get what is desired other than a lover. If you find treason, pretend that nothing happened, give him attention, affection, and see the result, the relationship with his mistress will cease. Believe me, almost all novels, even long and serious, sooner or later end, not all men want to change their lives and start again. At home, after all, there is a loving and truly beloved wife. Do you doubt that a man can love his wife and change? So, you are very much mistaken, this is really possible.
Having overcome all the hardships of the first crisis, do not forget about the subsequent ones and be ready for them morally.
The second crisis comes about 7 years of family life, which is very similar to the first, so it is possible to overcome "hardened" spouses.
The most dangerous crisis falls on the 20th year of the family. The test of the strength of the relationship comes from two sides. A man reaches the age of 40, and he himself experiences a midlife crisis, a reassessment of values and the search for meaning in life pushes him to try to change his partner, nevertheless remain in the family. Similarly, a woman thinks about her life, children grew up and live their lives, it would seem, you can take care of yourself and make your dreams come true, but the couple understand that it's too late. Women look in the mirror and come to despair of wrinkles. Men experience because of thinned hair and the appeared abdomen. Everyone wants to prove to himself and everyone that not all is lost and catch up. Very rarely, divorce becomes the outcome of such a crisis, but it often happens that the spouses begin to live their every life in the same house.
Unable to forgive resentment and betrayal, the spouses can and disperse, leave the children without a father, live without the support of her husband and till the end of the days cry at night and go to bed in a lonely bed. After all, men are much faster in remarriage, they have all the initiative to meet women, but former wives are much harder to find a second husband. The ability to forgive does not destroy love, the family can be happy, as before, there would be a desire.
Having overcome all the trials, crises of family life, having forgiven the betrayals of the spouses, you will have a strong family, respect for each other and love, time-tested love.