As the saying goes: "Love is evil, you will love and ...". No, not necessarily representative of our fauna with horns and hoofs. Love can present other surprises, which are much more difficult to understand. For example, far from one girl wondered: what to do if you are in love with a cousin?
In such a situation, a quick and easy answer is impossible to find. After all, everything would seem to be against you: the laws of nature, and society. But we still try to find the answer to the question: what to do if you are in love with a cousin?
Confusion in feelings
To begin with, you still need to understand your own feelings. Many girls think that she is in love, when in fact, they have completely different feelings, which are simply difficult to determine. Who do we consider a brother? Of course, if it's a good, real brother, then we see in it a defender, an assistant, a person who loves us "for no reason", will always support. For a brother, we are always those who need to be protected. In fact, if you see a cousin in your eyes just like that, it turns out that he falls under all standards of the ideal husband. This is where the girl begins to feel that she is in love with her cousin. In fact, this may not be so at all. That is, she is undoubtedly in love, but in a completely different way. After all, we also love and admire relatives, but this feeling has a slightly different nature than love for a man. And often girls confuse these feelings, and then do not know what to do. Especially often this happens to women who grew up in an incomplete family, that is, without a father. In this case, the girl begins to look for a defender and sees him in the brother. But on the other hand, her family model laid in the subconscious does not provide for some other person who could become her husband, because he can throw, offend, offend. But my beloved brother, with whom they grew up together, will never do it. That's why mental troubles and torments begin. If you understand that all of the above is about you, then once again carefully analyze your feelings for your brother. Perhaps you confuse love with the desire to receive protection and tenderness from a loved one. Moreover, girls who grew up without a father tend to always compare guys with their brothers. But sometimes they just subconsciously think that the brother is the best man, and all the other guys do not reach this level. That's when incomprehensible feelings begin to emerge.
Real feeling
But such a situation can not be considered in the case when the brother and sister were already acquainted with adults, and clearly they did not immediately have fraternal feelings. This case is the most complicated, because here the consciousness and the subconscious simply do not see a relative in the person. It sees the object of attention, the man with whom one wants to be. And then the question arises: what should we do? First, you need to find out how your brother treats you. If these feelings are not mutual, then, most likely, they should not be talked about at all. After all, as is known, relations between relatives are condemned. And the point here is not only in social norms, but also in genetics, although, on the other hand, it is already difficult to guess with modern ecology that it harms health more. But if the feelings are not mutual, then the only thing you get from recognition is an attack from the relatives. In this case, it is better to suppress these feelings in oneself.
But when the brother loves you just as you do him, then it is necessary to decide together whether you can resist a society that clearly does not praise you for such a decision. Of course, as mentioned above, there is some truth in their words. But on the other hand, very often the brother and sister, who are never allowed to be together, end up alone, as they are each other's TOY love. So if you love your brother, and he loves you, then gather the will and strength into a fist and do not pay attention to what the relatives say. In the end, this is your family and if they love you, then I will understand and accept. Sooner or later, but it will happen. In the meantime, you just need a little patience, so as not to lose the love of your life.