"I'm lonely!" Says a young beautiful, well-dressed girl who could get everything or anyone. One look makes her nervous, and when she smiles, it seems that the sun answers her with a smile, looking out from behind the cloud, her voice like the ringing of bells. She has a man, and not one, she has a girlfriend, and not one, she has someone to communicate with, but she is alone. And the question arises: how can such a girl be lonely? Two words reflect and talk about a person as much as it would seem. They reflect the whole soul of a person, only you need to understand the meaning of this phrase. All people are to some extent alone, or maybe it's all because loneliness is passed from person to person , like the flu or the virus? In that case, is there a cure for loneliness? Or is loneliness a chronic one?
Loneliness is a social and psychological phenomenon in a society from which not one of us is immune, this is an emotional state of a person. Loneliness can be both positive and negative. Solitude is loneliness, in which a person feels comfortable leaving himself and his thoughts alone. The great and wise thinker Aristotle said "he who enjoys solitude, either a wild beast or God." I find pleasure in solitude, but I do not consider myself a wild beast, and even more so God. Everyone can find a charm in solitude, that would rest from human conversations, and stay with his thoughts alone, to understand himself and his desires more. Isolation is a negative manifestation of loneliness, in which a person does not have people close to him and positive emotions.
Loneliness is common in large cities, where people communicate superficially, such as "hello, how are you?" And everything, communication stops, and the question "how are you doing?" Is asked simply so that there was something to say at the meeting, and not just be silent. In the movie "Brother 2", when Bodrov gets to America and meets a Russian prostitute there, she says that in America everyone asks "how are you", but in fact nobody cares about you and up to your affairs. In principle, I can say that in Russia the same thing, everyone asks the question "how are you doing?", Although they do not care about the answer and do not care.
And so, to establish trust and friendship, we do not always have enough time, we manage only with the phrase "hello, how are you?". Hurrying up in the hustle and bustle of people, we throw this phrase to the person we meet in this bustle, and immediately pass by so that that person does not have time to ask us the same question, not that to answer this question.
Is it possible to stop and stop this person, and say "hello, how are you? Let's meet tonight, and you'll tell me everything like you, where you are, we'll talk, let's talk. " And having met with this person, maybe you would have done a good deed by filling his loneliness, or maybe he would help you get rid of loneliness. When did we become so callous? We drive ourselves into a corner and become lonely, forcing others to be the same. Maybe we need to start about others, who would start thinking about us?
Loneliness is when you want to be understood and heard. You try to say something and, realizing that you are not listening, you stop talking, start looking for someone who understands you without words. You are told something, but you do not hear, because you are busy with your problems and are concerned that you are not being heard. The same person is busy with whom you talk about your own. And imagine, the whole world is inhabited by such people who speak, and who do not hear. Everyone says, but they are not heard, because they themselves say, but they do not hear. And so, the whole world consists of simultaneously speaking, but not listening to little people.
After all, everyone knows how to be lonely, even if there is someone nearby. Let it be a friend or mother, or a brother or a friend, not important. If there are empty spaces in your soul, and until you fill this void with something, you will feel alone. After all, in our time an elderly person finds it difficult to find a common language with the younger generation, because the interests of the past do not coincide with the interests of the present. Or maybe it's just hard for a person to find a common language with the people around him. Or a person has a low self-esteem, which is why he has a fear of communicating with people. In life there can be everything, it is not predictable. And loneliness often leads to depression.
Loneliness can be explicit and implicit. Explicit loneliness is expressed in the lack of human communication, when a person has a desire to communicate with people, but he does not have the opportunity. And implicit, it is the most common when a person is surrounded by communication, but at the same time he feels alone, because these people mean nothing to him and they can easily be replaced by others. Such loneliness arises from the fact that a person believes that no one is able to understand him, and that there is no such person who understands their essence, and they believe that if there is no related soul, then in general, why they are needed. Thus, a person condemns himself to loneliness, and it is very difficult to reveal such loneliness, because people who suffered from this kind of loneliness behave naturally.
Loneliness is the vice of each of us, everyone wants to show that they are not alone, but in the soul, in fact, we are all alone in some part. As you know, I want to dedicate this article to loneliness! Loneliness can be our companion all our life, she will never leave us and she will not leave us, she is always ready to replace someone close and dear, she is ready to extend her helping hand or substitute her shoulder, only from contact with her it becomes very difficult for us and it's bad. It drains from us all the positive things that are in us, giving in return only cold and gloomy thoughts about the past, present and future.
But sometimes it will be nice to move away from life, friends, relatives, and locked in his apartment, I want to plunge into it - in solitude. Loneliness sometimes gives and positive, along with it you can understand the threads of your life, reflect on thoughts, or just enjoy her company, lying in a bath with foam, or reading a book. Loneliness will make you an excellent company. I adore loneliness, I am pleased with it, despite the fact that sometimes silence begins to irritate no less than the loudest roar. Even if you turn on the music to the fullest, or TV, you'll still hear the voice of loneliness, because it's you, her voice - these are your thoughts that wander in your head and do not stop repeating "I'm alone" and no civilizational devices you can not get rid of them. Like any friend or girlfriend, it often gets boring and wants to send her somewhere far away and rush into the arms of real live friends, and not into the spiritual state of oneself.
Having touched the theme of loneliness, I reflected, and how artists portray loneliness? If poets and authors can express their feelings with words that are folded into sentences, then how do artists do it? And then I remembered the famous "black square" of Kazimir Malevich, maybe he painted solitude? After all, loneliness is not painted with bright colors. Loneliness is something gloomy, sucking on some bottom and painting life in dark colors. Perhaps, Kazimir Malevich tried to convey his "black square" through his painting, his loneliness?
Solving the problem of loneliness is not so simple, first you need to determine who is not enough for us to communicate, or who is missing us, and when, having decided all this and having determined, we need to set out in search, but it is not always easy to determine , whom and what we lack. Man is such a creature that sometimes he does not know what he needs for complete happiness. And to find even more difficult.
Learn from everything to have fun, learn to turn everything in your direction, into a positive side for you. Loneliness is not the worst thing that can happen. Loneliness exists, and so it is necessary for us. Loneliness is us, it's part of us, and trying to get rid of it, it's like getting rid of a part of yourself. In someone this part prevails, and in someone very little. Loneliness is a chronic one, we will never get rid of it, but we need to carry out preventive maintenance all the time, so that it does not develop in us.
Unconformity - struggling with loneliness, resigned - does not notice, well, wise - enjoys.