At an early stage of relations, sincerity becomes a serious test. You live in constant expectation, and kisses and words are only of a short-term nature. Openness and sincerity develop together with love. And how to convince of the sincerity of feelings?
It charges a person with power and energy. Love gives you satisfaction and unlimited freedom. The more you love, the more exalted you feel. "Thank you for what you are." Elementary, but just because you just exist in this world. This is the main factor of love - the presence of someone you love. And thanks to him for giving you the opportunity to feel his presence.
If you have a strong love, if this is something meaningful for you, then you do not put any limits and criteria for choice. But if the love is weak, if you are a weak-minded person and your feelings are insignificant, then you put a huge number of selection criteria: you have to be like that, that's it, that and so on. It's sad that many people's lives go on without them meeting a soul mate with whom they could exist sincerely, openly and honestly. And to convince the sincerity of another person is even more difficult. But it is simply impossible to be completely sincere with others, while not learning to be completely sincere with yourself. And this is already fully dependent on the person himself.
It's not about getting rid of hobbies, vices or flaws; all this is unreal, as long as a person lives among people, due to the fact that those people who call passion, vice, or simply a defect what is the basic part of human nature, its essence, are not right. Man until the end of days is doomed to learn his imperfection. If, of course, do not suffer from megalomania and arrogance. He tries to convince everyone of the sincerity of his feelings.
A person who understands himself knows what dark corners are in his soul. That, in general, does not prevent this person from succeeding, unwinding, creating beautiful things. The point is to find out in all the details and details the advantages and disadvantages that you have. And to learn how to manage them with the same success, with which one could not be afraid that they would simply knock us down or slip out of our control into harm to ourselves and those around us. From a certain height of one's own development one can observe their shortcomings without fear that they will gain power over you, for it is difficult to eclipse a strong and developed mind. Convincing the sincerity of a sensible person's feelings is very simple. It is possible, for the time being, to lose sight of them, sometimes making mistakes, but so that the possibility of correcting them is easy. After all, in this state, we do not think to hide a vulgar or insignificant back thought, or unwanted emotions. Having learned to control yourself, you are trying to control them. They will not make us blush any more, therefore, having realized them, we condemn them, separate them from ourselves, affirm that they no longer belong to us, do not participate more in our lives, do not appear more from our active and our own strength. However, we understand that they belong to the essence of the barbarous, incomprehensible, enslaved, representing for us something ridiculous, like all that we designate by the predominance of the instinctive forces of nature over the mind.
The spread of dislike, selfishness, shameful vanity, envy or dishonesty, viewed in the light of absolute sincerity, is only a curious, curious flower. This openness, like fire, cleans everything that it touches. It neutralizes dangerous principles and makes out of the worst injustice an object of curiosity, harmless, like a lethal poison behind a museum showcase. The purifying power of recognition depends on the properties of the soul that creates it, and the one that perceives it. Convincing the openness of a sincere relationship is much easier. With a certain balance, absolutely all recognition only enhances the level of love and personal happiness.
We all want to strive to achieve such happy sincerity, however we are afraid for a long time that those people who love us will grow cold towards us if we reveal to them something that we hardly dare to admit to ourselves. We think that these confessions will completely spoil the image they themselves created by introducing us. If they really distorted it so, it would only prove that we were not loved with the strength with which we ourselves love. And how can other people be persuaded of the sincerity of feelings and experiences? If a person who accepted your confession can not come to the fact that you only need to fall in love with you for this recognition, then his love is undoubtedly based on a misunderstanding.
There is no need to fear that such a general openness in the relationship between two people will lead to a cooling of feelings and awareness of each other's imperfections. The most important, believe that this is so, the secret of love is revealed to us only in a moment of sincerity, because the TRUTH of two beings is incommensurably much more fruitful, inexhaustible and profound than their outer expressions of feelings, conceit and lie. Sincerity of feelings is very important in a relationship.
And, finally, you do not need to worry that your openness will become absolute and there will be nothing to strive for in your relationship, that sincerity in their relations hampers. In any case, openness and sincerity still remain relative concepts, because the person's understanding of himself changes every day throughout his life.