And, finally, it happened, you are 30 years old and you are getting married for the first time. Accept our congratulations, but keep in mind that marriage after 30 years is an important event, and has its own difficulties. We will talk about all the pros and cons of marriage after 30 years.
Disadvantages after 30 years
Circle of communication with age decreases, and when you do not lead a fairly active lifestyle, then your environment is a few girlfriends, unmarried, or those who stayed from school times and colleagues at work. Then the search for a candidate for husbands becomes much more complicated. Panic of relatives leads to the fact that a woman looks at each man with burning eyes, her behavior shows a passionate desire to get married. And all this complicates the search.
But if you coped with two points: you have a rich life, you do not experience a lack of knights, relatives do not exert any pressure on you. Your wedding has finally taken place, but now it's early to relax, ahead of the difficulties of family life.
You are both established personalities with your entrenched way of life, with your habits. Can you live together? After all, each of you half a lifetime has got used to live for yourself and one, and you are now two. Can you put up with everyday problems and shortcomings of each other? Will you have the patience to close your eyes to all the little things and put up with them?
Another disadvantage of marriage after 30 years is the age difference between your married couple and your parents. Hence, the problem of children and fathers will be maturing.
Like any marriage, your marriage after 30 years, implies that you will have a late child. And if you still want one child? After all, with age, the chances of having a healthy child, especially the second, are reduced. You will have to plan a second maternity leave, immediately after the first.
Pluses of marriage after 30 years
If you do not attach much importance to the minuses of late marriage, then the following are outlined pluses. In a marriage, middle-aged people enter consciously. And here in such marriages already there are not feelings, but a sober calculation, you already know why they chose this man for husbands and what to expect from marriage.
If you close your eyes to small shortcomings of each other, go for some compromises, then you are not so afraid of problems in family life. You can agree with each other. You stop quarreling over trifles, nervous and you will treat each other with respect. For these reasons, according to statistics, marriages after 30 years are less likely to disintegrate.
A modern person has, by the middle age, already: a status in society, a career, a living space, a car. You do not need to be distracted to achieve some goals, because you already have all this. You can now afford to have a child who will not need anything, plunge into the world of family life, relax from the eternal race for success. And even if everything goes wrong as you wanted, you do not have to start from scratch when you part ways, you have a career and an apartment.
You can be calm for your husband. Both of you, as they say, walked up, survived a storm of emotions, saw a lot in life, and now both are ready for family life. He will not risk for the sake of a passing novel on the side of his position.
In a late marriage in people in sexual life, too, everything is going well. Probably, you have the desire and ability, experience to get not only the pleasure itself, but also to satisfy the partner. This plus of late marriage is controversial, altruists and "craftsmen" do not always come across.
But in general, marriage after 30 years has turned out to be sufficiently attractive: you have achieved a certain position in society, successfully married, and you have a child.
The complexities of late marriage
1. If no one has married you before the age of 30, then something is wrong with you. And if the man for whom you are going to marry, to him for 30 years and he is still not married, then you need to look for a dirty trick (either mama's son, or illegitimate children, or divorced). Prepare to give people a rebuff: you did not get married, because you were preparing for yourself a successful future. And he did not marry, because he was waiting for you, because you are so approaching each other.
2. With age, there is less chance of getting married
But you do not think so. You are an interesting person, well-read, intelligent, lead a rich life, meet and different people, attractive and do not stop watching yourself and your appearance. And since you have fans, then you will choose one of them when you see fit.
3. With age, it is difficult to give birth to a healthy child
Probably, your mother has repeatedly said this, because she is so impatient to become a grandmother. Try to convince her that by the age of 40 you will have time to endure a healthy child, because you are healthy yourself, and modern medicine is not standing still.
We tried to tell that marriage is an important event in the fate of every woman, and the average age of marriage nowadays is just 30 years. Does this tell you something?