But suddenly the ground left from under the feet. The world is collapsing. Your beloved person has changed. How could this happen to you. After all, confidence in his second half was unshakable. What does the person who was betrayed feel? Otherwise, you can not call this betrayal. Pain, unbearable pain, which burns from nutria. Resentment, which like a shroud obscures the eyes. Desire to huddle in a corner, and not to see or hear anyone. Stay alone with your grief, and cry until everything is quiet. Thoughts that do not give rest and buzz in the head. For what? Why did this happen to me. What have I done wrong? But believe me, on such seemingly simple questions, you'll never find answers. Because it's not your fault, but most likely just the circumstances that led to negative consequences.
The psychological state in which a person is in such a situation is very shaky. Awareness of total loneliness and unclaimedness can lead to attempts at suicide. Only strong people adequately go through such emotional trauma. At such moments, a close person should be there, at least to help overcome loneliness and show that you are not alone with your misfortune.
Women start everything from scratch. At the end of time, sensible thoughts take precedence, the whole experience begins to open from a different angle. And despite all the grievances, there is a willingness to forgive. But this is how a person works, you can forgive, but you will never forget. Before deciding on an armistice, consider everything very well. You are ready to live and not be afraid that it can happen again, that every time when a husband or wife is delayed from work, you will at that time recall the horror that has been experienced. And now you will not have the right to reproach, because, after returning to the family, you secretly agree to such a fate. If you decide to return, and it will be considered, the desire to save the family will outweigh all the negative arguments and suspicions. If your trust in a person is not exhausted, try. And God forbid that this will not happen again.
First of all, think of children. How it will be better for them, but do not infringe on your interests. If in making a decision, forgive, you are guided only by the interest of children, then it will be a sacrifice. You will agree to the sacrifice, but in ten years you will not be thanked. It will not be that family idyll, comfort. Children will see everything. And they will suffer. And when they grow up, they will not even remember you.
Men are easier in such situations, of course not in the moral plane, but in the material. They do not need to stay with the children, and think about how to allocate the budget so that it is enough for everything. Where to put children during work? After the divorce, most men, for some reason believe that timely payment of maintenance, it is a significant help in raising children. Basically, the popes forget to take an interest in the life and needs of their children.
Whichever decision you take, everything depends on you, because each situation is individual, guided by your intuition, desire and, if possible, learn to forgive. Even if you are not together, the common children forever bound you, and therefore your communication is inevitable. After all, once, you loved each other, so really now you can not find a common language.