The theme of our today's article is "Adultery, relevance for today."
Treason is what the mothers of daughters are stricken with, and fathers are sons, something that all couples are afraid of trembling in their knees, even though the show is brave, they will not happen to them, they have great, pure and indestructible love. Or they shrug their shoulders and throw them casually, it's okay, it happens. But they are afraid. Everything else. Treason is the most common cause of family conflicts, going to psychologists and psychoanalysts, and eventually to the court for divorce. Immediately determine that in order that there was a fact of treason, it was necessary to change things. That is, between a man and a woman should already have some sort of relationship, be it an official or civil marriage, a church wedding, or an open application to society that you are a couple and now you two are like one.
Adultery, the relevance to date ... About this so much is said, the truth has long been known, but only not many remain in the marriage faithful to each other.
Adultery is one of the most difficult tests for a family, no matter how long it exists. This is a crack in the foundation, in the foundation. A huge stress for both partners, it is difficult to determine which of the two is experiencing this situation. Treason is treachery. What exactly betrayed? A native man, his principles or his own dream of a strong and happy family, or maybe himself? The second option is much harder psychologically. Life is flowing, everything is changing, people, even the closest ones, but the inner betrayal remains.
For women, treachery is so terrible that they are ready to do everything to avoid it or even slightly to smooth out the pain. Many rush to extremes and before the wedding they allow: "You can change me, only so that I know about it." Be sure, the pain from this will not be less, and the trek to the left will necessarily happen, indulgence is already given.
If the matrimonial fidelity is stipulated in advance, the risk of betrayal is significantly reduced. Conversation on the topic: "We will not survive betrayal, we will leave immediately." It makes the spouses think about the fact that they are expensive and are ready to incur such loss for the sake of fleeting enthusiasm, "just sex" or "maybe fate." It must immediately be made clear that infidelity will become the point of disintegration of your relationship. It is no accident that among the ancient peoples there was a custom to kill unfaithful spouses. By their act, they clearly demonstrate their attitude to the partner, besides, they can no longer have any trust.
It should be clearly understood that if a pair of harmonious relationships and reigns love, then even thinking about finding adventures does not arise. What for, if already there is a beloved, native person whom you know and love, with whom it is good, comfortable and safe. Many people say that they do not have acute sensations, they want to tickle nerves. So for this it is absolutely not necessary to roam on other people's beds! You can travel with your soul mate, go to the mountains for a week or go in for extreme sports. If you dive together at the bottom of the ocean or jump with a parachute, adrenaline will also be nemeryano and pleasure several times more.
If the betrayal did happen, what should I do? To begin with, fully experience the pain and emotions. Then they will need to be discarded and sober (as possible) to reflect. If from you to someone left, it was not from a good life. So, the partner is missing something in you and in the relationship. The reason must be sought not in who "left", but in whom, from whom. As soon as understanding comes, there will be resentment, the agony of suffering will recede, there will be an opportunity to correct everything.
Here comes the next question: is it worth it to correct? Can I forgive? A single-valued, the only true answer is not. Listen to your heart, it is the most faithful adviser. If you can continue to live with this person, enjoy every day next to him, devote himself to him and trust, then, of course, it is worth trying to save the relationship. If mistrust will keep on hurting the soul all the time, hatred will be deeply concealed, self-doubt will become familiar, it is better to simply leave and start everything from scratch, not forgetting the past pain, but remembering the mistakes well.
Changing, a person renounces who he valued and whom he loved. Love can not be changed, because it is the best thing in our life. She alone survives in all the hardships and cataclysms of the mortal world. Refusing it is the same as committing suicide. Behind the last terrible act is black despair. And where there is love, darkness and despair for a long time do not survive. To give up love is like giving up life. Where do we then find ourselves, what will happen to us?
Loud words, you will say, very often men leave women, preferring another, women give themselves completely not to those who are called loved ones. This dance with the change of partners has always existed and will continue as long as the world stands and mankind lives.
But is it treason? No, they are committed when there is no longer love. There is no longer a loved one or a loved one, so there is no one to betray. Only the corporeal shell of the one with whom they once dreamed of sharing eternity remained. Now it is no more (life has wiped, circumstances have changed), and no debt obligation can not hold. Let go, life with someone you no longer need, will become your own personal hell.