Can. And you lived. I can not say that I'm used to it, rather, I've resigned myself. She hid and waited, and worked, and dragged the child to the other end of town to a good school. And then ... These times have ended: debts have distributed, next to a new apartment there was an excellent school, at job all went simply perfectly, even with the mother-in-law of the attitude were adjusted. You were happy with your ideal family, and your husband's betrayal and "did not smell."
For whom the Bell Tolls? Changing her husband, as it were, "did not smell," but something happened. You can not even remember when it started. But there were some "bells", for sure, they could not be. My husband often went on business trips. You could not get used to it. And it's not that you did not trust him, just missed him. You have not seen each other so often: in the morning at breakfast, in the evening a few hours before bedtime - that's all. The weekend, however, you always spent together, planned in advance. But the weekend so quickly passed. And again came weekdays, bustling mornings, tired evenings - you both loved your work, gave it a lot of energy and time. Such an almost perfect family. In a word, you did not like him only when he left. And then business trips increased, you, of course, were not happy. The husband consoled, said that it is temporary, that he himself does not like these endless flights, customs, hotels. You exchanged SMS, email, but rarely called up. Sometimes it seemed to you that your meetings, which were always so welcome, do not go as enchantingly as before, but you understood that everything can not always be the same - fatigue, problems, and the son has recently demanded more attention - from he began a transitional age. In general, you did not pay attention to it, noted to yourself and decided to "think about it tomorrow."
Once you were an ideal family, and suddenly the betrayal of her husband was like a bolt from the blue. Husband very calmly, clearly and without much emotion told that he is dating another woman. And, most likely, this is not a trivial affair, but a serious relationship. When asked why he tells you this, the husband said that he loves you, her too, and that his conscience is tormenting. But here already "does not smell" the ideal family, in which you were confident. The husband became somehow quiet, guilty and lost. He writes that the bastard and unworthy of you. When asked if he was going to go to that woman, he said that everything depends on you. You must decide, but he will reconcile with your decision. And how do you live on, how to reconcile with her husband's betrayal? How to forget, forgive, relive?
Treason change - strife. If a person's conscience is awake, one must give him a chance. It is better not to make any sudden movements. Let him feel that you have tried to understand him, men consider this very important - that they understand. It's strange that at the same time they rarely try to understand us, this is rhetoric. Maybe your husband just stumbled. I found myself in an unnecessary situation at an unnecessary time. And then - went-went. Love is a feeling more stable than falling in love. Try to forgive him, your child needs a father, and you need a family. Even if you do not call her an ideal family.
How to survive the betrayal of her husband and how to live on? Like a disease. The disease always begins unexpectedly, but inevitably ends. At first, the state of health worsens, then the crisis and recovery come. The main thing is not to fuss. There will be no medications, there will be no complications. How can I forgive? Suffice it to recall a simple truth: we did not come to this world to meet the expectations of other people. And no one owes us anything. And if so, then there's nothing to forgive her husband for. How to forget? It is absurd to abandon the experience gained, because it will allow a more sober assessment of everyday situations in the future. What to do? Allow her husband to make a choice on his own. Indecisive men, as a rule, are conservative, which means that you have an advantage over your opponent.