In addition, it is not easy to switch off from the general system of relations, which included friends, children, parents of each spouse.
The psychological problems of the family after the divorce are very diverse. They depend on a variety of circumstances: from the causes of divorce, from the reaction to divorce surrounding, from the age of the spouses, from the presence of children. Part of the problems of the spouse are aware, and they are accessible to the observation of external people. And some of the problems flow imperceptibly and more and more in hidden layers from prying eyes. We list some of them.
One of the main and most painful problems of the family after the divorce is the problem of relations between the former spouses and children. No wonder many people try to keep the collapsing family for the sake of children. Because divorce seriously worsens the conditions of upbringing and development of the child. Many parents experience this very painful. The psychological problems of the child and the family as a whole can be exacerbated by conflicts over children, but even if the spouses part peacefully, for children this is still a risk factor. First, they can be disappointed in the family, and in the future will be unable to build a trusting relationship in marriage. Secondly, the worsening material and emotional situation of the mother, with whom children are most often left, has a bad impact on their development, on school performance. After some time after the divorce, there are also added problems in the relationship with the new "dad" and "mom." So the main and main problem of divorcing spouses is the issue of establishing relationships with children after the breakup of the family.
The psychological problems of the family after the divorce can be exacerbated by a decline in labor productivity. Some divorced spouses try to go headlong into work to forget themselves. However, it is not always possible to focus on the matter. In addition, post-partum stress can undermine the health and emotionality of a person, and this can result in conflicts at work, poorly executed assignments or even dismissals.
Many people in the post-mortem period suffer from physical illnesses. Chronic diseases worsen, new ones appear. The likelihood of getting into the clinic increases by a third for both men and women. People who are divorced in old age are at high risk of heart attack or stroke. In addition, during this period, a number of people exacerbate mental illness. The same people who did not have them, may slightly sharpen the unpleasant qualities of the character. Too suspicious people become even suspicious. Some generalize the negative qualities of the spouse to other people. And many people have a higher level of conflict with people.
A serious psychological problem of the family after a divorce can be alcoholism of one of the spouses. Some people try to find the oblivion of troubles in wine, and they themselves do not notice how the dangerous line passes, after which the disease begins, and not just a temporary immersion in alcoholic fumes. In such a situation saves the attention of others. If there is no one to speak out, it's better to go to a forum or blog and talk with someone there than to try to get an alcoholic anesthetic of mental trauma.
Among other things, divorced people with great difficulty and reluctance to the appearance of offspring. The problems of the former family are so pressing on them that they are afraid of having children, so as not to get an additional tool of manipulation. This is especially true of men. They can all their lives suffer from conflict with their ex-wife and pay alimony. In this case, when they start a new relationship, they are much less eager to have children. It can be said that divorces as a whole reduce the birth rate in the country.
The consequences of divorce are not for the spouses themselves, but for their relatives, children and friends, too, are difficult. The whole system of generation of family traditions, jokes, ways of spending leisure is destroyed. This makes people temporarily feel deceased in reality, and some experience this with great tension and complications.
It is not difficult to understand the reasons for these difficulties. Not only does the stress associated with the moment of making a decision on divorce, but all subsequent events do not deliver a person of pleasure. Usually, the state of relief after a divorce comes only after a few months, and initially the psychological problems of the family that existed before the divorce only worsen. For example, if the spouses conflict for an apartment or for money, and after the divorce they continue to share property. If the family had a tense relationship with someone's parents, even after the divorce, this conflict does not fade. In general, we can say that the very procedure of divorce and the first period after it are experienced by many people is very, very difficult.