Many of us initially start to think that divorce, if it happens in our lives, is commensurate with great losses, both material and spiritual. Without going into the details of the legal moments of divorce, let's talk about the state of mind, which is rarely in such a situation can be called balanced or rainbow. The article will talk about how to harmonize your spiritual component after parting, in other words, how easy it is to survive the divorce.
To begin with, it should be noted that women suffer a break in relations especially hard, they impose themselves a deep sense of guilt and fall into a strong stressful state, which can be difficult to get rid of. Men, according to practical psychology, somehow feel better about divorce.
Certainly, every person in the forces can cope with psychological difficulties on his own, emotions sooner or later subside, and life becomes ordinary. However, why waste so much time and energy, when in life literally every second is expensive. In addition, a prolonged stressful state can not be very good for the upbringing of children or for professional activities. And in order for a person to stabilize his psychological state, the help of a professional psychologist-psychotherapist will be very useful. His advice or even some kind of psychological techniques will help you get used to a new lifestyle more quickly, and, perhaps, build a stable and sincere relationship with a new partner.
After a divorce, one should not shut themselves up, drive this experience into the depths of their subconscious. Here, you can even give a storm to your emotions - you can get angry, cry, whine, thereby you will splash emotions into the outside world, and not eat them up your inner state. Share experiences with your loved ones, friends, surroundings, this will not be perceived by them as complaints from your side, rather on the contrary you can be given good advice. Find something pleasant for yourself - go to the movies, theater, take care of your favorite hobby, in general, emotionally defuse the situation. The main thing here is not to stay at home, idly by closing on your problem, you will only exacerbate your emotional state. Just do not take on hard work that will require you intellectual stress, because your emotional instability will not let it cope and such a failure in work can only exacerbate the situation.
Parting often introduces a strong desire to take revenge. For example, you want to blame friends of your spouse, spoil the former partner with mucks, dissolve gossip about the intimate details of your life and shift the reason for parting at him or her. However, this will not make things any easier for you, since your acquaintances have already had a lot to hear about you during the divorce, besides showing off not the best side of your intimate relations to others, your stress will only increase. Refrain from commenting on your former and start making your new life.
In addition, revenge alone has not brought anyone the desired relief. Causing pain to another person, we will never get a rapture. And against the backdrop of an internal psychological crisis, revenge will make you worry even more, exacerbating an already grave condition.
Folk wisdom tells us - "a wedge kicking out". In this case, it is fundamentally untrue. Do not look for a replacement for your spouse in the first days after the divorce. You most likely will only harm such relationships and yourself and your new partner. Such short novels, flirting, again, will only add fuel to the fire and will not lead to mental equilibrium.
Wait a little while until your psychological state becomes relatively stable, and the bitterness and loss of your former partner will dissipate and remain just an unpleasant memory. Then you will be ready to build a new, violent relationship with another person. Many women often remarry prematurely, when the experiences of divorce have not abated yet, thus making a big mistake, as we have repeatedly stressed that psychological recovery takes time. Such a marriage in a rare case will be successful and as a result of such actions close to bring yourself to a state where the ordinary psychologist will not help you, because again repetitive disappointments will affect the health status.
Try to accept new life circumstances faster, find new interests. If possible, expand the circle of communication, realize that your new status of a divorced man or a divorced woman is not so terrible. A person is very stubborn. We do not rarely refuse to accept what is, instead of it we persistently want to change something in life, perhaps to return the former, we see in the situation "here and now" only the bad. Approaching the life situation from such a side is difficult to direct the situation in the right direction. In the period of divorce, it is very important to understand what such unencumbered loneliness also has its advantages. You have time to rethink past actions, perhaps to find answers to such philosophical questions: "Who am I?" And "What do I want?", To realize my true needs, to become a more independent person.