Is there a situation in your life that you can not handle? Your psychologist will help you in this.
The husband promises to improve, but he does not fulfill promises ...
I have been married for 16 years, with two children. My husband began to drink, his salary goes away, I try for two, and he just lies in front of the TV. Sometimes he becomes a caring husband and father, but it happens rarely. He promises to improve, but he does not fulfill promises. I tried to get a divorce, but I was sorry for him. And he already exhausted me ...
Psychologist's comment
You already know for yourself that it's not worth the wait for the sea. The man, lying at the TV, will not leave his rookery voluntarily. If he is not indifferent to alcohol, then even more can not expect a miracle. And without that, rare attacks of caring can disappear altogether.
In your situation, consistent and harsh actions are required. The time of "attempts" has already passed. Evaluate the worst situation: the husband does not change and has to part. Where and by what means will you live? Weigh all the options, think about how to protect yourself and children as much as possible. When ready for the worst, it is easier to assert one's rights.
My grandmother's grandmother was very hard
We live with my grandmother's grandmother. I agreed with her to come, as I was promised that she would help, and painted her like an angel. And she had a very difficult character. She quibbles over trifles, she curses all the time. And the husband, not having understood, shouts, what is it I am guilty in quarrels. I can not be with her anymore - my husband will not agree to part with him ...
Psychologist's comment
Thanks to the advice of a psychologist to couples, many couples have been living happily ever since. If you still live under the same roof with an angry old woman, then it is possible. You just need to find the right approach to it. To change the elderly person to you hardly it will be possible, where it is easier to adapt to it. It's not easy, but you do not have other options yet. Start by giving up the role of the victim. Nobody has deceived you. You heard what you wanted to hear. Why should my grandmother help you, why should she? She owes you nothing. Count only on yourself - and others will grieve you less. Do not look for the guilty. With any "heavy character" you can cope with cunning.
My boyfriend constantly changes hobbies: snowboarding, electric guitar. Today he is busy with the boy, and tomorrow he tired him ... And all his hobbies are not cheap. Will it pass when he grows up? Or I contacted a frivolous person, whom you can not build in the future of a family budget?
Psychologist's comment
You wait for other people's money to count. Postpone this until the formal offer to marry. Then discussion of the future family budget will become actual and justified. In the meantime, let the guy frolic on his own savings. Versatile hobbies expand the horizon. It's better to have a snowboard and an electric guitar than to walk around the internet spaces by days and nights. If money is earned by your friend on your own, then you can spend it on your own. Do not hinder him in this.
The frivolous is the one who forgets about his obligations to neighbors. I hope your friend is not one of them.
The neighbor started spreading rumors about me ...
My neighbor is a broker, and she needed an apartment like mine. Not being able to "survive" me, she began spreading unpleasant rumors about me and hurting me in every possible way. People look at me with apprehension. To me, of course, it is unpleasant. But dialogue with a neighbor does not seem possible.
Psychologist's comment
First of all, you need to cope with your own imagination. Conflict with the broker encouraged your imagination, and it went too far. You can not know reliably what a neighbor next to your back does. Scrappy information and guesses mean little. Do not suspect all those around you in ill will. Even if they really look at you with caution, the better - they will touch less. Go, guess what the "terrible" person can throw out. Wait half a year. Do not prove anything to anyone, do not figure out the relationship. Friendly smile to the oncoming - and no rumors will harm you.