Maternity is hard work. No one argues, but it's not easier. Especially hard in the first three years, when Mom, it would seem, there is not a second of free time. Many in this period "run" themselves, forget about doing household chores and keeping themselves interested in their own husband. In many families the birth of a child entails serious problems, because life is too abruptly changing. But a woman forget that she is not only a Mother, but also a Wife and just a Woman - you can never.
Hence the obvious conclusion - to learn to find time for everything little by little every day! Only how can this be done to the mother, when it is necessary and to wash, and to eat to cook, and to walk with the child, to iron, and to develop the favorite Masika, and sometimes to sleep? Time will have to be distributed in advance, everything should be thought over (better even before the birth of the child) and do all in stages. This is the so-called "time management" for a woman with a small child in her arms.
Without help is impossible
The main thing to do is talk to your husband. Do not expect that he himself will guess how hard it is not to sleep at night, to rush from the bed to the stove and the bathtub in the afternoon and still have a chance to be with him in the affectionate evening. Men (even the most loving) look at each other a little differently. As for the night's lack of sleep, he will say that it is always possible to sleep in the daytime, and about the fact that you have not left the children's playground for already a year, he will say - it's even better. Like, you sit, you rest, you do not spend your family budget, you do not communicate with outsiders (you will not say, you will think so much).
It's useless to scream at my husband that he does not help at home. Remember: for most young Papocene is small - the same stress as for you, if not more. The woman during the months of pregnancy physically felt her child, it is easier for her to rebuild. An anastomosis in this period suddenly falls threefold of responsibility, previously not palpable. Knowingly, psychologists say that the family does not begin with the consent given in the registry office, but with the appearance of the child.
So, omuzhe. Tell me that you understand how difficult it is for him to get used to, that you are no longer two. But you would like to be as attractive and sweet to him as before. And without you it is simply impossible to achieve this. If he helped at least a little, you could give a little more time to yourself, from which he would in the end only win. Talk more about the baby, how important it is for him to have a sense of security in the hands of the pope. Emphasize the importance of establishing communication with the child from an early age. Send them a walk for a couple of hours and take care of yourself. Make something pleasant for your husband (bake his favorite casserole), so that he sees the fruits of his labor in the form of helping you.
Do not neglect the help of grandmothers. Often, young mothers do not want to trust their child. Do not commit such stupidity. After all, in the end, this woman has grown up your husband healthy and smart. Nothing happens to your masik for a few hours. If you and your grandmother have any specific disagreements about the care of children, then try to discuss this issue calmly. Most likely, your knowledge is based on modern developments, read in magazines. However, the shoulders of the mother-in-law have a real life experience. And our ancestors, over the course of thousands of years accumulating this experience, were certainly not fools. Think about how this unfortunate ancient Slavs managed to breed so widely without "modern science", survive in difficult conditions !? But we with the newest discoveries and developments are gradually dying out. Do not neglect science, of course, but it's not worth forgetting about simple life experience.
So, taking the help of your mother or mother-in-law (ideally both - one and the other), you get a whole hours of free time. But they need to dispose of correctly. Without the right plan, you, even if you have a half-day left, can not really do anything. Planning in this case is necessary.
Building a homework plan
Cooking
The cooking takes a long time, therefore it is better to do this when the baby sleeps. If there are no forces at all (this happens all the time in young mums), it is always necessary to have different semi-finished products in the refrigerator. They can be prepared quickly and without any difficulty. But, do not forget to eat what you cook, too. You need strength, which, in turn, needs a baby.
Washing needle
They better try to combine with other things. Today, for example, you can wash and grind over the time when the meat is brewed on soup. Tomorrow the laundry can be postponed for the evening, when the husband comes home from work or someone from relatives will be able to sit with the baby.
Cleaning
It can generally be done with the baby. Put (or put) it side by side in the arena, wash the floor or wipe the dust, singing the children's songs. Do not spend every day cleaning to an hour - enough and fifteen minutes to at least a little clean in the apartment. General cleaning is done on weekends - then the husband or other relatives are at home.
The time of the nab
Of course, we must not forget about ourselves. Get up ten minutes before the baby, to have time to put yourself in order. While the child has got carried away with something, you can make yourself a nutritious mask, in the evening when your father is at home - take a calm relaxing bath. Try to cuddle yourself with pleasant trifles.
Time for Married Women
Unforgettable in no time about her husband. Talk to him kindly, often hug him, say how dear you are to him. Do not dive head first into affairs, otherwise the husband will decide that there is never time for him in your schedule. And this is the reason to go and find the one in the schedule of which this time will be found. You do not want this, do you? Then, a little effort to maintain a warm relationship will have to spend. But he will be arrogant to say to everyone: "My wife manages everything - and always such a beauty! And how does she manage it? "