It is just necessary to take certain measures that will help you to carry out an educational process, even remotely, and also to maintain a trusting relationship with your child. The advice of a psychologist will help you in this.
First, you need to think carefully about what to do with a child in your absence if you do not have enough time. Children, especially adolescents, quite hard to tolerate loneliness and boredom - so close to a bad company, nasty things. In free from kindergarten or school and doing homework, the child can visit the mugs or sports sections. Do you have time to accompany him there? So let the relatives help! Grandparents, aunts, uncles or older children should not leave their parents without timely assistance. If you are at home, but the domestic duties do not give you the opportunity to play or talk with the child, it would do well to ask for help. Let him do the most trivial work - most importantly, next to you. Nothing brings together like a joint business. Moreover, it's much easier to talk at work.
Secondly, do not spoil the child. Many parents who feel guilty for giving little time to children begin, so to speak, to "pay off" with expensive gifts. This is not something that is harmful - even dangerous! Accustomed to this state of affairs, the child will find the fulfillment of all his desires as your direct duty and will take it for granted. Now imagine what will happen if suddenly you can not fulfill another whim? Honestly, the scale of the disaster is difficult to assess! In the depths of the soul, every child understands: not everything that he asks for, he needs and is useful. Increasing requirements - a subconscious test of parents for pedagogical consistency.
Third, do not make unrealistic promises. "Today I can not play table hockey with you, but I will definitely do it tomorrow," often such phrases go off their tongues. But here comes tomorrow and you are late at work, you have little time for children, then, after running home, you find a lot of urgent matters, and it raced ... And then the night comes quietly. And the child waited. If this situation repeats several times, your child simply loses faith not only in parents, but also in truth and in justice.
Another tip: do not attach too much importance to the words of a child like "I hate you." Children do not mean what is usually meant by these words. They just want to make you regret the deed done.
Always find the time, the deer if you have little of it, and the courage to answer too frank questions. Remember that if you try to avoid such conversations, the child will still find the information he needs, for example, on the street or on the Internet. It is not difficult to guess how much a distorted view of many delicate things can form!
Do not think that it would be much more pleasant for a child to be constantly under your vigilant control. He also wants to be independent. Emphasize the importance of the skills that the child has acquired in connection with the need to be at home alone - indeed, the ability to use a microwave or a gas stove is always useful.
The main thing is not the amount of time spent on a child, but the way you spend it. Any extra minute together, spend with good. Let it be a heart-to-heart talk or a short joint game, watching an interesting film or taking a walk in a nearby square. Was it a day off? Embark on a hike! Believe me, memories of baked potatoes or shish kebab cooked and eaten in the nature in company with parents will forever remain in the memory of the child, together with gratitude for the great time spent! On a winter day, organize sledging or skiing, playing snowballs or sculpting a snow fortress - and it's useful for health, and strengthens family friendship!
And, finally, do not reproach yourself for not being able to spend more time with your child. Just let him feel your love, show respect for his feelings and experiences. Caress, kindness, justice, friendly attitude, ability to listen and support in a difficult moment should become your faithful companions in the matter of bringing up the growing up man.
We hope that you will take the advice of a psychologist to parents who have little time for children, but who want to participate in the process of educating their child.