At this age the child is already able to perform many things independently: dress, tie laces, help around the house. Able. But does he want? Not always. And it's not about innate talents. Diligence in children can and should be brought up almost from infancy.
Already in 3 years, the kids have a desire to help their parents. It begins with imitation, and familiar to many "give me myself." But often the adults save time or fear that the child can do something wrong, remove the toys for the child, do not give them a wash to wash the plate or water the flower on their own ... Do not be surprised after 5 years, when your child will respond to requests for help refusal. To educate a child's love of work is possible only through patience and a personal example. From birth, babies observe adults and try to imitate them in everything. And eventually they try to repeat their actions. But one observation and imitation is not enough. From the very early age, it is necessary to involve children in joint activities and patiently explain what and how to do. Only then will the kid learn to understand the importance of all the manipulations performed. And will experience the joy of performing the simplest daily duties. Therefore, when your baby of the year at 3 says: "Mom, give me myself! "- Give him the opportunity to" help "you. And let after his "help" you have to spend several times more time for cleaning / washing / etc - the upbringing of a child's love of work is worth it. After a few years it will pay off a hundredfold: the industrious son himself will wash up the dishes, lay out his clothes on the shelves, not to mention his toys, clean up his shoes, wipe off the dust and without any reminders make the bed - in general, he will become your irreplaceable assistant in many matters. Home affairs for the child will become an integral part of everyday life, and will not cause negative associations.
But if your child is 5-6 years old, do not despair. A little patience, desire, love and imagination - and your little child will be your great helper. It's so nice, when about your child they say: "Wow, what a small, and how hard-working! ". In such an important matter as the upbringing of diligence, one should not rely on intuition and chance. It is necessary to read relevant literature, consult a child psychologist and take into account the age and personality characteristics of children. One child takes on the job reluctantly, without enthusiasm, but the thing, which is independently brought to the end, brings him with something incomparable pleasure. It is important for such children to concentrate on the result, anticipation of joy from independently performed work, and share this joy with him, not too critical about the minor shortcomings in the performance of the assignment. The other child, on the contrary, is actively adopting a new business, is easily carried away, and just as easily cools. And still others, not having to get to work, are trying to get rid of it - the feeling of an unfulfilled business hanging by a sword of Damocles is very hard for them. Everyone needs a special approach. In 5-6 years it is important to arouse interest in the process of activity or achievement of the result, or you can involve the child in the work with the help of a game or competition. Arouse interest and keep it throughout the whole thing - half the success. But only half. The second important part of educating the child is diligence - it is necessary to teach the child to help systematically, and not from time to time, it is necessary to control the performance of the task and, of course, to praise and emphasize the importance of what the kid is doing. The lack of systematic work in the child is one of the most serious mistakes in education. And not only in the education of love for work. Systematic work in the home and the child's responsibilities, for which he himself is responsible, helps to educate in an important person such an important quality as responsibility, and the future assistant learns to work in good faith and willingly.
You can not reduce the role of working together with an adult: in her the child learns to do everything that is required of him, as best as possible. But in order to something to imbed a child, it's worth making sure that he already knows how to do this, carefully checking the work done, and tactfully, together with the child, to work on the mistakes. And so every day, until the child learns to perform its functions qualitatively, and until this activity does not enter the child's habit. After that, you can add a new responsibility for the child.
You can start with the simplest things. First of all, it is necessary to teach the child to clean up the toys on his own, to remove from the table. Lay out clothes in a closet and take care of their shoes. Never refuse a child if he wants to help you. If what your assistant decided to do is completely impossible to charge the baby (suddenly the child wants to repair the socket or screw in the bulb), do not forbid him to do this, patiently explain why this can not be done and switch his attention to another activity . Always encourage the child's desire for creativity. Bring him to the joint preparation of food, let him show his gastronomic abilities, perhaps in the future your baby will please you with culinary delights more than once, and you will happily recall the minutes when the little hands of the great cook dazzled their first patty under your sensitive guidance. Teach your child to clean up his bed and take care of indoor plants - these activities can be easily transformed into an exciting game that will bring pleasant memories to your child during the whole adult life. The habit to work hard is useful to the kid very soon: the school is not far off, and diligent study requires a love of work, responsibility and habit to perform their daily duties well. Raising in the child a love for work, you help him build a successful future in a brick. Industriousness helps the child to increase self-esteem, the child has the confidence that he can do much, and can do it well, and this will necessarily well affect his adult life.