Is it good or bad? Does this relationship have a future? Supporters and opponents put forth various hypotheses.
The guy is younger than the girl - good?
"Communicating with a young man, a woman" returns to her youth "for a while, rejoicing in the first kisses, walking under the moon, riding motorcycles through the night city ... She can" die of love ", from the fact that nothing can be done about "The best friend says that I look like a high school student - I'm running to dancing, I'm leaving the house secretly on dates ..."
As a rule, a young guy is more romantic. A girl much older can be for him one of his first, if not the first.
- The older girl has the opportunity to "grow an ideal man." Communicating with her, the guy seeks to reach her level, becomes more courageous, acquires good manners, changes some of his views. And this is good for him. The adult girl has a bunch of pluses in front of the young! It is easier for her to influence the guy, she has experience, she knows how to extinguish conflicts and turn a blind eye to trifles. And if she succeeds, she can confess that despite a ten-year difference in age with her beloved, she has never met a more kind, attentive romantic and caring. And in relation to sex, the more experienced girl can teach a lot to a young lover.
- Youth, health and beauty - a strong advantage of a young guy. No wonder, because in his body hormones and bubbling. He has not yet acquired chronic sores, has not undermined the nervous system with frequent stress and work at work, he has not grown fat, has not grown bald, has not poisoned his young body with nicotine and alcohol. The girl who meets with him, tries not to look like his own year. She has additional incentives to engage in herself, visit the beauty salon sports hall, sauna or solarium, buy beautiful, but extremely expensive things.
A guy younger than a girl - bad?
- There are strong differences in male and female psychology, in which the guy, at least until the age of 27, is guided in his actions mostly by "another place", and not by reason or feeling. The girls are more refined, and basically they are guided by reason and feelings. Developed physically and mentally much faster than girls, especially older ones, take on the role of "mommy" for a young man who has not ripened as a person. The uncertainty of the guy and the need for "soplevytiraniya" greatly irritates the girl. Yes, and the difference in intelligence on relationships affects.
- Such a relationship with a guy will certainly become public. It is no accident that the yellow press discusses such novels of stars. And if the girl is not a star, then all the friends who know about how old she and her boyfriend are, can not only discuss their relationship, but also condemn them. Especially if the girl is married, has children, lives in a small town or in the countryside, looks much younger than her years, has a beautiful appearance and stylishly dresses. The reason can be not only envy, but also a traditional understanding of how relations should develop. Sometimes a girl is ashamed to admit that there is a difference in age: she always listens to the opinions of others and reacts very painfully to negative statements. She may even feel depressed if she thinks she's doing wrong.
- Insufficient reliability and strength of relations. Usually a young man is drawn to everything new, which means that he can also turn to betrayal. He can move from a more mature woman to a younger woman. There is no accidental fear: "If you marry a peer .. after about 5-10 he will flee in any way to any maloleletochke .. this is the truth of life and nowhere to get out of this ..."
Thus, a relationship with a guy who is much younger than a girl gives a variety of assessments. On the development of relations can affect the psychological attitudes, public opinion, the behavior of partners. What to do? There are many statements that age is not not the main thing, there would be love. After all, if guys can meet with younger girls, why should girls not meet with young people much younger than themselves?
In addition, the passport age does not always coincide with the psychological age. Sometimes a guy in 18 years is not developed for years, smart, reliable, interesting, caring, behaves like a real man and an older girl feels behind him like a stone wall. Give examples when a young man sought a lady who is 20 years older than him. At the same time he was not an alfonso and kept the family himself. Sometimes the same age as a girl can be a "child".
One way or another, there are no recipes. It all depends on the specific situation, specific people. What can you advise in this case? Just listen to your feelings and feelings of the second half, love and be happy.