First of all, you need to gather your thoughts and relax. It is useful before a date to scroll through the head of the most common topics, which you can conduct a casual conversation. So you can avoid embarrassing silence and translate the conversation into the right direction. Often we want to make an impression on a new person, to appear better than we really are. Do not overdo this desire. When trying to control the situation, do not try to lead in a conversation. Let your conversation be a pleasant dialogue, not your monologue with revelations and confessions. Men like leadership, consider this. However, to sit with a stupid look foolishly giggle after each phrase and nod your head, too, is not worth it.
Do not go on a date, if you are worried about any problems, leave them outside the door, do not try to tell them with your boyfriend, ask him for advice. The first appointment is a well spent time, at least, and not a reception by a psychoanalyst. Little-known people do not need each other's problems. Perhaps they will listen to you, but only out of politeness.
Remember the forbidden topics for talking on the first date: illness, money, your and his intimate life, your past men and relationships with him, gossip about anyone.
Try to listen more than to talk yourself. So do all the wise women. Pay attention to any seemingly trivial things in the conversation that can talk about a lot. Pay attention that the man speaks about his previous girls. If he responds badly to them, then most likely he will speak about you if your relationship ends.
Do not try to tell in one evening everything about yourself: where you study, work, live, live with, etc. Firstly, you are not on a job interview. And, secondly, leave at least some information about yourself for the second and subsequent visits, what will you talk about? For a man, a mysterious woman is interesting, one that never fully unfolds. And if you are already on the first date all on the palm of a man, then he quickly lose interest in you.
Try to find common themes, common interests in a conversation. People who share the same interests and passions, are attracted to each other.
Talking about yourself, talk only about pleasant things from your life, but in no way connected with your ex-boyfriends. Tell us about your hobbies, but without fanaticism, in general terms. Think of a couple of funny, funny situations from your life. Men like girls with a good sense of humor, who are not afraid to be ridiculous. Tell us about your successes, achievements, but without pathos and boast. Whatever you tell, be positive, no complaints.
When your date is over, in private, reproduce your conversation, remember what you talked about with the guy on the first date. This will help you to make a general picture of the person with whom you met and sum up your date. Also you will be able to note your mistakes. And even if the first date is the last one, you will gain invaluable experience and find the answer to the question: what to say on the first date with the guy.