Girlfriends-beauties
At such mums and daughters and a difference in the age , as a rule, is insignificant, and attitudes or relations are friendly, frank. And if you look at them from the side, they look like two sisters or girlfriends. There are similar relationships in amicable loving families. You can remember, for example, how bright and beautiful look Catherine and Nastya, mother and daughter from the star family Strizhenovyh.
The peculiarity of the relationship: full trust and mutual understanding on both sides. Mom does not treat her daughter as unreasonable and yet inexpensive, but perceives her as a formed personality, a young woman with whom she can be consulted and discuss problems. The daughter perceives her mother more as an older friend, as an ideal woman, worthy of admiration.
Combat version: beauties-rivals
But maybe so: externally, mom and daughter look like sisters, and the relationship develops like rivals. Such relations arise on the basis of competition. In this situation, mom begins to feel much older. If the mother is not married, then rivalry can arise from her side: seeing how young people take care of her daughter, she begins to be jealous and prove her still young and seductive.
The peculiarity of the relationship of an adult daughter and mother: one of the parties strives with all his might to switch attention of outsiders to himself, using any means for this. The initiator of relations can be both a daughter and a mother.
For mother:
To analyze first of all your behavior and try to put yourself in the place of your daughter. It is important to understand what feelings she has. You need to help your child, and not push him away and do not move away.
Try to love your mother for who she is. Do not share with the mother of young people, because everyone has their own lives.
The way out: sit down together, discuss the difficulties. But it is necessary to choose the right moment: any conversation initiated "under the hot hand" only aggravates the conflict.
The Cold War option: the egoist-henchman
Often, if there is no father in the family, the relationship between the mother and the daughter is formed not only on the basis of competition, but also selfishness on the part of the daughter. She does not allow her mother to establish a personal life, is jealous of men, prevents marriage, showing all her behavior that her mother is wholly and solely owned by her and no one else.
Peculiarities of the relationship: the daughter reasons from the position that the mother should devote herself to the child and work, and walking is her, daughterly, affair. This happens in a family where the daughter feels that in it - the meaning of the mother's life.
For mother:
Spend more time on yourself. Give your child more freedom, it will benefit both of you: the daughter will become more independent, and you will take it easy to perceive all her actions.
Try to put yourself in the mother's place, although it is very difficult. Remaining selfish, you will break not only her life, but her own.
Whatever it was, the relationship of the mother and daughter must necessarily be friendly, otherwise the war in the family is inevitable. Therefore, respect the elders and love the younger ones, be happy! And everything will develop in your family perfectly.