But if you are visited by the thought that with your ex-husband, you could be saved from loneliness, and it seems that everything was not so bad, or maybe you were in vain to get divorced from it in vain. Here you need to stop, because you will immediately cover three waves of pity: to what happened, what happened to yourself.
Let's stop regretting what happened. After all, all this has already happened. You are an intelligent woman, and for sure you had special reasons for divorce. Most women are not divorced at all because they are "impatient", but everything, because women are put in such conditions. Once you have gone through a divorce, then you are already a winner.
Stop regretting that you once had. Let's dream about what will be yours. Then we will translate dreams into the plane of goals, and we will move in the direction of the goals. Everything was. Many women idealize their past after the divorce. If everything was great, then why did the family fall apart?
Do not feel sorry for yourself, although it's easy to say how to do it. Yes, you are offended, abandoned, and most likely you will pass this stage of pity for yourself. Do not stretch and do not savor the realization that you were abandoned. If you have children, then this will be your salvation, because while you selfishly regret yourself, it is much harder for them. You have at least immunity to betrayal, which your relatives sometimes inflict on you, and in children from the experience of losses - the death of your favorite bear in the washing machine or the death of your favorite fish.
What do you need to do while the time heals your wounds? The success of the treatment will be in the correct mode of the patient's behavior. There is no universal medicinal product, as there is no universal advice. Each one lasts differently, these periods. What does a woman usually do?
- The woman is crying. This is good, but the main thing is not to get carried away. Crying is useful, but everything needs a measure. If you do not get into hysterics, all this will have a positive effect on the hormonal background. The reasons for tears, maybe a lot.
- He has another woman, he threw me, she is better than me, and I'm much worse, I'm too smart, a small chest, thin, fat and so on.
- I'm alone, I do not need anyone, I'm a worthless creature, no one likes me ...
"I have no one to count on, I'm alone, I have nothing to live on, I have nowhere to live, I have no one to lean against ..."
Let's replace all this with:
- Horror! I spent so many years on this useless creature, who was beckoned with a carrot and taken from the stall ...
And at the same time, you can rejoice that you came out with minimal losses and got rid of him on time. You can thank in the minds of this courageous woman who has doomed herself to life with such a dishonorable man, so she freed you.
- To take revenge. There must be a sense of proportion. We are all grown-up people, and there is no need to be reminded of prevention and protection measures against diseases that are sexually transmitted. All this temporarily helps a woman to escape from loneliness and raises the level of her self-esteem. Do not descend to the level and the main thing is not to gain accessibility when you offer yourself. Let them conquer. After all, then you can bring bouquets from pretty men.
- He drinks. It seems that it is not drunk, although there are such cases. It seems that martini will help. But it's not wine, not whiskey, not martini that helps. The atmosphere and the company help. Very effective means for creating the illusion of "I'm not alone" and raising self-esteem, it's flirtation, get out with friends "in the light", catch courage. Girlfriend, trying to pull at least a movie, to my question, "What movie?", She answered me "Anyway what film, if only there was a reason to make up!".
Finds a hobby. There are two options, you have done something before, you liked it, you did it, but when you were married, it was just a lack of time or something you wanted to do, but for a number of reasons you could not. Now you can do these favorite things, as your heart desires. This will be a positive method of "rehabilitation". It's also good that children can take part in it.
Continues to live. Imagine what prospects may open before you. All of you can, just be patient, do not be shy of emotions, recharge positive. You can afford to flirt with a stranger, cry over the film, you can, start a kite with the children.
Now we know how to start a new life after the divorce. Life is just beginning. Take yourself in hand, and you will succeed, and everything will be fine in your life.