Mendelssohn's march, solemn atmosphere, a sea of flowers, smiles, congratulations, flashes of cameras, video cameras aimed at you and your lover. And you are the princess of this ball, beautiful, airy, happy. And ahead - the first wedding night and a honeymoon. The world is painted in the colors of the rainbow, the heart soars in the sky, and it seems that you are the luckiest in the world. A wonderful day, the only one in life, no matter what those who married ten times said! What could be more beautiful than a wedding day?
But here came the salute, sounded with music and screams "bitterly" this wonderful holiday, and you were left alone. You are now a family, with all the joys, difficulties, problems and responsibilities. But how else, if you married, and are no longer a young guy and a girl, but young spouses, husband and wife? And how old you are, it does not matter. What is important is that you are one. And no one will ask - is it too early? Are you ready? Do you even understand what the family means? It's good, if parents were sympathetic to your decision and even if not enthusiastic about it, they did not interfere. It's bad if it's a little time, and you'll understand that you hurried ...
In fact, how do you know if it's too early to be crowned, or is it time to be late? And is there any answer to the question: is early marriage good or bad?
As usual, there is no unequivocal answer. Everything in this world is relative, no matter how trite it may sound. And so early marriage also has its advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, its strength depends on much: both on the flexibility, kindness, love of the young spouses themselves, and on help, support of relatives and friends, and on living conditions, and on material income, work schedule. The only, perhaps, the main advantage of early marriages can be considered that they, as a rule, are only for love. And, therefore, they always have a chance to survive for life.
What else can be attributed to the benefits of the union of young hearts is that they both have a minimal life experience and strong nerves, and, therefore, thanks to both, against the background of love, the faults of a loved one will be almost invisible. In addition, the newlyweds are not yet accustomed to their new status, and, therefore, care and responsibilities in relation to each other will still be a pleasure, not a burden. This will be greatly facilitated by a correct and tactful attitude on the part of the parents of the young newlyweds. If the older generation has enough sanity and tact to help their children imperceptibly and only when necessary, and not to take the young family to their necks and not try to establish their dictatorship in it, it will allow young spouses to learn independence and responsibility for themselves and their beloved. And, therefore, their early union will eventually turn into a strong family.
The main stumbling block in debates on the topic of early marriage is, of course, the birth of a child. Here, the opinions of supporters and opponents revolve around one key moment, but in diametrically opposite directions. The first are sure that the sooner you give birth to a child, the easier it is to raise, because you will understand better, because it is closer to him because of his age. The second argue that the young parents are still children themselves, and therefore they do not have to wait for them to take a serious attitude towards the baby, nor the patience with which pregnancy and childbirth are closely related, nor self-control, without which in the first years of life a newborn can not do. The difficulty is that both are right in their own way. And what will outweigh - entirely depends on the personal qualities of young parents, their cohesion, their readiness to be each other's support, together overcome difficulties and experience failures.
Another big problem, causing emotional explosions and depression, will be a sudden and very tangible loss of spouses of individual freedom. It is known that every person at times must always be alone for at least an hour or two, relax, disconnecting from everything and from everyone. It's good or bad, it's not for us to decide. But with this just can be linked mutual misunderstanding and discontent. Young spouses who do not have the necessary life experience can not yet organize themselves so that they can learn, work, do everything around the house, pay attention to their loved one, and even find time for entertainment. This is not an option for an adult person. Another thing is that discos and nightclubs, parties and noisy companies of friends after a certain age will attract less and less until they become something rare or come to naught. But in my youth this is the main component of a normal life. And it's good if the spouse does not leave a young wife alone at the mountain of unwashed dishes or uncoated linen and does not go off to have fun in a bar with friends. It's bad if they do this together, turning their home into an unharvested and uncomfortable shelter, where they only come to spend the night.
It is quite obvious that the arguments in favor of the early union and against it have much in common. Particulars depend on the specific case: someone really is early to get married and, especially, to have children, and someone is quite ready at this young age. The main thing here, no matter how romantic it may sound, depends on the sincerity of love, will power and kindness, the readiness at such a young age to bind oneself by marriage and responsibility. Statistics show that the percentage of divorces in early marriages is very high. And the history knows a lot of cases when early marriages became the beginning of fine family relations, carried through all life.