It is possible to learn how to properly conduct a conversation in a civilized society, you only need to learn how to develop certain communication skills with people. Not every person can lead a relaxed and intelligent conversation. In the art of conversation, you need to exercise a lot, but do not be too chatty, you need to be well-versed in the general topic of the conversation, you also need to adapt to the interlocutor and after long training you can become a pleasant and interesting conversationalist.
First of all, in a conversation you should try not to use the loud "I", the cultural tone of behavior requires avoiding, in a conversation with an interlocutor, those unpleasant for him or those that will cause boredom.
To maintain the conversation you need to choose topics that will be of interest to your interlocutor. To conduct a conversation in a language not understandable to other people is very incorrect.
Each word should be pronounced very clearly and confidently so that your interlocutor can understand you. But at the same time you should not talk very loudly, in any case not be in an embarrassing situation. If a third opponent interferes in your conversation, and your conversation was of an intimate nature, you need to be sufficiently correct and delicate.
In no case during a conversation can you show that you are bored tiringly or that you would like to talk with other people. Also you can not hold in your hands, any objects that can distract you from conversation or watch the clock all the time.
That in conversation with strangers you feel confident and at ease, that without problems to begin conversation and freely to talk on any subjects, special preparation is necessary. It should be borne in mind that in any civilized society you should be as natural, confident and calm as possible.
The number of problems discussed can be very diverse, but you should only talk about topics in which you are confident. Do not tell interlocutors about your problems, troubles, illnesses or meditations about the weather.
To your conversation with others was interesting and attracted the attention of interlocutors, you need to have a good sense of humor and great ingenuity.
With a person you do not know well you can talk about the weather, since this topic is the most conflict-free and you do not need to come up with a topic for conversation.
In an interview with a stranger, it's best not to talk on personal topics or about your life. After talking about the weather, you can start a conversation on the topic of television, sports or newspaper news. In the end, you can find an interesting topic for the interlocutor.
During the reception of guests at home, unexpectedly for all there is an awkward silence and there is nothing to worry about. In such an uncomfortable moment for everyone, you can treat everyone with tea and cake and the conversation will resume again.
The conduct of a discussion is a great art, which not everyone can lead. They will be included in the discussion at once, while specifying what views the discussing about the submitted topics that have become the subject for discussion. To defend their positions, it is necessary to give their undeniable facts about which the interlocutor does not know. Do not use such words during a conversation as "egoist", "tugodum", "cynic", in any case not to offend the interlocutor. In conversation, you must avoid any generalizations. That the discussion does not turn into a quarrel or squabble when you defend your point of view, and not try to offend your interlocutor.
A well-educated and civilized person during a conversation will not tell surrounding people about their work, family and children, personal life, illnesses, experiences and habits. Also he will not talk about what he did in the morning. A cultured and educated person will never gossip.
If you are trying to talk about such a topic, you need to delicately answer that it does not concern you. If you heard that they are gossiping about you, do not pay any attention to it. Very often you can discuss topics about the appearance of familiar people, do not support such conversations, as they are incorrect.
In small companies, you do not need to start a conversation with those that will be incomprehensible to your interlocutors, it's very impolite, and you should not talk with hints that only some people will understand. If there are fewer than seven people in the company, you need to maintain a general conversation topic, not other individual conversations. Do not talk with other people in foreign languages that your interlocutors do not speak.
It is not very nice to interrupt interlocutors during a conversation, especially if a person is elderly. Do not tell a storyteller, correct mistakes in words, end a phrase for it.
It is not advisable to make any comments to adults, only young people can afford it in a friendly and pro, by the way.
Do not ask your partner about his illnesses, even if he noticed that he was not feeling well recently or had previously been in the hospital. If the interlocutor wishes, he will tell about his illness himself.
Do not ask people who and how much they earn - it's very ugly. It is completely incorrect to ask married women or girls about their marriage or why they do not marry, wonder about this and generally start a conversation on such topics.
If a person leaves without explanation or refers to employment, do not ask for detailed explanations from him. If you are told the reason for leaving, you do not need to dissuade him and do not try to give advice.
In busy companies all men should make pleasant compliments to surrounding women, but to do it very correctly and not at all intrusively. It is necessary to talk calmly, confidently and not loudly, but very categorically at the same time, without entering into discussions. At the said compliment, respond with a short phrase.
On a funny and anecdote and tactlessness it is worth reacting calmly, a minute of silence after such statements acts very well, and after a couple of minutes someone should start a conversation on a different topic. If a person continues to tell his tactless and anecdotes and jokes that can lead other people to absolute confusion, then one of the interlocutors should stop him.
Do not tell too many anecdotes, while not letting people come to their senses. It is better to tell anecdotes about a topic, unobtrusive and funny. A man trying to flash his mind and witty stupid jokes, in most cases produce a bad impression on others.
You need to be able not only to talk, but also to listen. Do not look at the interlocutor with "renounced" eyes, in which your absent-mindedness and worries may be reflected. When a person tells you something, it's ugly to be distracted by other people, to look away, rummage in a bag, all the time to look at your watch or distract your attention to watching TV. It is necessary to look at the interlocutor with interest and from time to time to insert remarks thus emphasizing that such conversation is very interesting to you. If the topic of the conversation you have already heard, then immediately it is worth noting "Yes, I already heard it and I know about it", then not to break my interlocutor. Polite and cultured person, never during a conversation will not interrupt the story of another person, even if he has heard it many times already.
To girls and boys who are already 18 years old, you should turn to "you". Already with a familiar person you can start talking on "you", only after you make sure that your interlocutor is interested in this.
Mimics and gestures are also very important during the conversation, with which our speech becomes more clear and expressive. Your gestures should be expressive and clearly honed, but the main thing is not to overdo it with your gesticulations.