Many techniques of introspection resemble games, but this does not mean that you should not take them seriously. Whichever direction psychologists belong, they all agree on one thing: we devote too little time to ourselves and our own desires, preferring to focus on the opinions of others and imposed stereotypes from outside. That's why it's so important to periodically schedule a "date" with yourself and pass, for example, simple tests. They help to carefully analyze their behavior and make a choice in a difficult situation. By the way! Problem of choice? Ask yourself the question: how many percent are you satisfied with this or that proposal? One "but": in life exactly 50 to 50 does not happen. At least 51 at 49.
1. Methodology for determining self-esteem
Adequate self-esteem is the key to success in your personal life and career. This thesis has long been accepted in American companies: a person with both low and high self-esteem is unlikely to pass tests when hiring. Why? The answer is obvious: he will not be able to fulfill his duties optimally and may fail the employer. And sometimes even we ourselves can not precisely say how we evaluate ourselves. Draw on a sheet of scale, at the ends of which the opposite characteristics are marked. Imagine that at the end of one scale - the weakest person in the world, and at the end of the other - the strongest. Where will you be? Identify this place and mark it on the scale. Then take a ruler and count, at what distance from the left end of the line there is a mark. The length of each line is 10 cm (equal to 10 points). Count how many points you have on each scale, and then calculate the arithmetic mean. Normally, a woman should have 5-8 points, a man - 7-8 points. If your result is higher than normal, then you have an overestimated self-esteem. People with overestimated self-esteem are usually somewhat arrogant, they do not always get along with other people, they are often reproached for selfishness, which leads to problems in interpersonal relationships, and often to difficulties in their careers. Correct the level of overestimated self-esteem will help simple awareness of the fact that you are not omnipotent, as well as the technique "Who is the king of beasts." If your estimates are lower than normal, then you underestimate yourself. Try to find an area of life in which you can succeed and strive to realize your potential to the maximum. Do not be afraid to seek help from close people: they will support you in case of difficulties. Look at yourself less biased will help the technique of "Find Differences."
2. "Man in the Rain"
This method helps to determine how you overcome life's difficulties. Do you lose support at the slightest trouble? Or continue to work hard to solve the problem, even if in fact for you it has long lost its relevance? Having identified the peculiarities of your behavior in stressful situations, you will be able to determine what exactly prevent their prompt resolution. Take two sheets of paper. On one picture a person (in as much detail as you want), on the other - a person in the rain. Now compare these drawings. Based on the results of some scientific research, senior executives with overestimated self-esteem work less efficiently and may well bring their company to complete bankruptcy. Exposition. If a person in the rain is portrayed as leaving, then you are also inclined to leave problems without solving them. If it has moved to the top of the sheet, you are trying to forget about problems with the help of fantasy. The shift to the bottom of the leaf indicates a tendency to depression. If the little man is shifted to the left, you are strongly connected with your past. If there is a shift to the right, then the opinion of others is important to you. Transformation of the figure. If the person in the rain is bigger than the person in the first figure, then the difficulties give you confidence in your abilities. If less - you are in dire need of support of close people. Abundance of clothes hack speaks about the need for external protection; a naked man indicates the impulsiveness of your behavior. The figure of a person in the rain, depicted in profile or with his back, indicates that in case of problems you seek to abandon the world, withdraw into yourself. Rain is a symbol of the troubles themselves. If it is small, it means that troubles are also temporary. If the rain is painted in thick, fat lines - your troubles seem insurmountable to you. Determine where the rain comes from: on the right (troubles from the outside world) or on the left (troubles are produced by the person himself). Clouds - a symbol of waiting for trouble. Puddles and mud are the consequences of disturbing situations for you. Details. Houses, trees, benches, as well as objects that a person holds in their hands, indicate the need for emotional support. Lightning symbolizes dramatic changes in your life, rainbow - an endless pursuit of excellence. Umbrella - protection from trouble. If a person holds it in your hands, then you do not have any problems and there is someone to support you.
3. Who is the king of beasts?
After you are convinced of your uniqueness, it's good to understand how people around you see you. Psychologists call this "feedback". Often it is because of its lack and there are disagreements and misunderstandings. After all, what seems obvious to you, may not necessarily seem so obvious to another person. It is possible that the perception of you by different people will be exactly the opposite. Do not be surprised: it only shows that you are a very versatile person. Having completed this simple test, you will understand a lot about yourself and about the relationships in your family. Armed with paper and felt-tip pens. Draw all family members in the form of some animals. Ask other family members to do the same job. This is a game - hardly anyone will refuse! And now you have a serious analysis. Compare the resulting drawings. Pay attention to the following important points: What is the nature of the animals: are they aggressive or affectionate, domestic or wild, defensive or attacking, predators or not, cute or not. What is the size of the animals relative to each other. Who is bigger, that's more important! How animals are relative to each other, who is in the first place, who is at the end, who is closer to whom, etc.
4. Multicolored Letters
If you are worried about any problem or situation, you can not find a way out or even just realize how you feel about what is happening, "write letters". So you not only throw out the accumulated emotions, but also be able to articulate more clearly what you do not like, what you would like to achieve eventually. Striving for excellence is a dangerous undertaking. After all, it is unattainable, which means that disappointment is inevitable. It is much more constructive to sincerely accept yourself. And having taken, already determine what you would like to do to make life even more intense.