In order to avoid such problems, it is necessary to understand the psychology of your relationship and understand what to do if the young person is very secretive.
The hidden guy is often a sanguine or phlegmatic. Such a type of people does not like to devote others to their problems and open themselves to them. He will do so even in relation to the beloved. Therefore, if your young man is of this type, you should never take this behavior as a personal insult. Most often secretive people are not from birth. This is taught to them by a different social experience. Many had to go through betrayal in their day, so now, they believe that there are things that others do not need to know. Therefore, if the guy does not tell you, for example, about his past, do not assume that he is a serial killer. Also, in no case need to blame him for not loving you and not trusting you. It's not about trust. Think for yourself, why do you need this information? Most likely, you simply try to calm your curiosity. In this there is nothing to worry about. Most women want to know everything and about everyone, and even more so about native people. But one can not always be guided only by one's desires. Respect the choice of your boyfriend. If he does not want to talk about anything, then he has a good reason for this. Perhaps the guy is ashamed or unpleasant to remember a period of his life. Each of us has things that belong only to us. We do not want to talk about them with people, and there are many reasons for this.
That's why if a young man does not want to tell you something, do not press him, beg, or force him. The time will come, and he will share his secrets. If this does not happen, then you really do not need to know anything.
Remember that the main thing in the relationship is not the information received, but your feelings from the person. If you feel and see that he is kind, good, reliable, he will never offend you and will not betray you, so you do not have to focus on his past, which now plays absolutely no role.
A little different is the situation when you see that the guy is suffering and worried about something, but does not want to speak. In this case, try to convince him to convince him and offer his help. If you really can help him something, your young man will share problems. The main thing is never to force him to talk. He will decide when to discuss what happened to him. But, if he keeps silent, then, most likely, your help really will not come in handy. Of course, you think that the guy is wrong, but you can not adequately assess the situation, so do not draw conclusions that are not backed by any arguments.
Of course, secrecy can manifest itself not only in this. It happens that a guy does not express his feelings towards your remarks, opinions, concerning your relationship. He just looks and is silent, and you do not understand if he hears at all. Of course, this is very unpleasant and incomprehensible for girls who always speak directly and do not restrain emotions. But do not forget that you have a completely different temperament, so for him your behavior can also be incomprehensible, as for you it.
In order to solve the problem, calmly talk with him. As if the guy did not behave, do not raise his voice at all. People with such temperament hate crying and become even more self-conscious. Therefore, restrain emotions, no matter how difficult it is for you. Explain to your young man that you need to see a reaction to your words. You can not understand what exactly he thinks, agrees or contradicts. For you, his opinion is extremely important. In addition, problems must be solved together, that's why you want him to speak out. You understand that he has such a character, but he must also enter your position. Therefore, you promise to behave calmly and not be angry with his silence, but he must also make concessions and talk about what he thinks. Otherwise, silence will lead to complete misunderstanding, which will negatively affect your relationship. If you say such things calmly and judiciously, without anything blaming him, your young man will necessarily pay attention to what has been said and take it into consideration.
Of course, people with different temperaments are difficult to get along, but more often it is them that attract each other. Therefore, you just need to understand that we are all different and only compromises can solve conflicts. If you bring this to a young man - his secrecy will cease to be the main problem in your relationship.