Sex addiction: how not to get hooked?

Such a man will never call you to marry. It's too lazy for him to dial your number and even ask how your business is. He generally calls once a month and only when he wants it. But hardly hearing his voice in the tube, you throw everything and rush to him. And the next morning you ask yourself the question: "Why all this?" Although it would be much more correct to ask: "Why?"


On hook

"Romantic madness", "love disease", "excessive fixation" - in the world of psychotherapy there is still a whole dozen terms, with the help of which it is possible to designate such a phenomenon as the pathological attachment of a woman to a man. Multiple women, this ailment appears even at an early age and is often very "cured" very quickly. Having received a very painful, but valuable experience, we, as a rule, have acquired life-long immunity to not very healthy health.

But in our world, to great regret, you can meet so-called eternal victims who are able to spend on the "wrong" man for more than one year of his life. By the way, the curious fact is that they can count not one thousand. According to statistics, 23% of the fair sex who live in big cities have never been married. Their 11% of about 5-6 years of his life spent a man who, even in thought, did not have to be bound by marriage. Of course, these ladies are very difficult to attribute to the number of deceived. In them, no one tried to instill false hopes. Completely aware of the pointlessness of the situation, they vzdravom intellect and reason gave themselves an excuse with the help of only one phrase: "I can not change anything and can not help myself! How do I pull the knem, like some hidden magnet! And only with him I can get an unforgettable pleasure! ". Regardless of the truthfulness of these words, such women categorically rejected all more worthy and normal men.

Often, these men have an ordinary appearance, but the woman finds in it some special zest, which begins to attract and pull. The main feature that unites all these representatives of one "type" - immorality, zero emotion on the face, mysteriousness and complete composure. In other words, the exact opposite of the so-called "good" guys. That's what attracts a woman. In addition, it is very difficult for such a man to be kept or lured by sex, and the thought that "someone, not I sleep and spend time with him ..." just drives me crazy. After each meeting, you, along with unbridled joy, feel a wild wilderness and a sense of the unknown, and will your meeting be repeated again? This is a black hole - when he leaves or happiness on the verge of fainting - when he suddenly appears. When you want, you can not nidostuchatsya him, or get through that annoy you, but as soon as he makes himself felt, you immediately forget everything. And even if you repeat yourself that this is more unrepeatable, you again and again can not resist ... For all this euphoria, the meeting always has to part for an indefinite period, and in response to the question "When will we meet?" He only shrugs his shoulders. And your body is grieving for him. This is a complete psychological sex addiction, which is built on the principle of profit.

The profit

In women, as a rule, sex is inseparable from emotions. An irresistible physical attraction necessarily has a psychological basis. The first and one of the most important causes - at first glance, an ordinary man completely coincides with the image of a real macho, whom you have repeatedly represented in your fantasies. In memory, phrases, deeds, gestures are released. They are the password to your heart. You on the subconscious level expect that you will be "discovered". Most of all, this craving takes strength in moments of anguish, when behind the window, as well as on the soul, all are drowned in gray tones. But there is a danger that quite accidentally the key will pick up the wrong person that you really need. And the lock will snap into place, and you will be trapped in your passion sometimes for a long time.

One day, psychologists conducted a brutal experiment with nudes. One group of animals was not deprived of attention: the pups were constantly embraced. Others - no one has not ironed. On the third, then pay attention, then no. The puppies of the third group became most attached to the owners.

People in this matter have not far gone from these puppies. An emotional contrast shower, called psychology by playing "near-farther" is a great way to tie a partner to yourself. Especially if the conversation is about the sensual and not completely confident woman. In bed, enjoyment is all the more powerful than a rarer relationship with a temperature drop. And for the sake of rare ecstasies, you are ready to suffer a painful break. Remove yourself from the emotional needle also interferes with the insurance of what suddenly with another man will not be such a paradise.

By the way, women tend to be more likely than men to take the blame for themselves because the relationship failed. Here the "excellent student complex" begins to work: everything should turn out to be 5+. But at the time of mistakes, the exam is retaken. A strict teacher is a man here and he can not be held in any way. But he will never give you the highest ball that is comparable to the phrase: "I will be you!". Only at moments of intimacy do you feel that everything has turned out and it's only yours. In fact, you are deeply mistaken, but to change something is not only time, but also desire. And where does this come from, if all physical and mental forces are wasted to wait for suspense?

The rescue

To come off the sexual hook, you need to realize - uvass will not get to change a partner. And he is absolutely not interested in something that has changed in your relationship - everything suits him! But you need help on the truth. That's what psychologists advise:

No need to try to tie him up . A woman, that depends, is ready to turn inside out to humiliate a man. She believes with all her heart that if she does everything she wants, that will change the whole situation. Alas, this tactic is ineffectual and negative, the man gets used to the fact that he gets away with everything.

You do not need to get involved in games . The basis of painful attachment are different kinds of games-some stereotypes of communication in which all roles are distributed. You, most likely, were given the role of a silent slave, who can be punished and then forgiven. At least for the sake of curiosity try to break the script.

Stay away from the hook . It is difficult to refuse drugs, if they are always at hand. Leave the city on time. One. There, where you can meet a new man. Initially, get rid of the disease. Stop thinking about problems and do yourself. And when you come back, do not look for meetings with your "illness".

"Throw it off" from the roof . This Western method is considered the most effective way of getting rid of addiction. Blind from the clay of your hero, then one by one break off all his limbs (including this one), and the wreckage you throw off a high cliff. At this moment, loudly swear. After such a procedure, they say, dependence goes for life.