Have you stopped being satisfied with your sex life? And maybe they were never happy? Do you blame yourself? And it seems that nothing can be done already? This is not true! Believe me, everything is in your hands! After all, the main sexual problems and ways to solve them have long been known and described. Just look at the problem differently, sort out the true reasons for it, and the solution will come by itself. Well, or with the help of this article ...
Problem 1. "My husband and I stopped having sex regularly, because I just do not want more. What is wrong with me? What am I supposed to do?"
In fact, what you consider a catastrophe is quite normal. This is a common problem, not only among "age" couples. The most common reasons are:
- Fatigue
- Stress
- Health problems
- Personal problems
- Lack of self-confidence
. You want more sex if you feel welcome, sexy and loved. Even simple help in working at home and caring for children by your partner can create a miracle. You immediately feel a huge difference! Tell your partner that you would like to see his interest in you. Let him let you know what you mean to him.
Try masturbation, turn on the fantasy (alone or with a partner) and safely say what you want to get in bed.
If your situation is caused by psychological or physical health - contact your local doctor or therapist to find out the cause. It is not necessary to voice the real problem, just go through a general examination. Make changes in your way of life: go in for sports, find a hobby, sign up for some courses.
Problem 2. " My partner suffers from premature ejaculation. We tried to slow down the process, but it did not help. What we can do?"
Premature ejaculation affects most men at some point in their lives. This is usually caused by internal anxiety. And, there is a "vicious circle": the more a man worries, the more likely that it will happen again.
There are several things that can help:
1. If you do not have time to experience an orgasm, as the final point of sex - you can still enjoy the proximity. This can reduce the pressure on the partner.
2. Enjoy each other before penetration. Try a joint masturbation or oral sex.
3. Try a special condom that contains substances that delay orgasm.
4. Relaxation or meditation can also work.
5. During intercourse, approaching the orgasm, try to stop, and then start again.
If his problems with ejaculation do not pass, perhaps it is worth turning to a sexologist.
Problem 3. "I began to experience severe pain during and after sex. I'm embarrassed to talk about this. What to do?"
The pain should not be ignored, so be sure to talk with your doctor to check if you are all right. If you think that your pains are caused by excessive dryness or lack of excitement, you can try using artificial lubrication. In addition, your pain can be caused by:
1. Health problems, such as, for example, cystitis. In this case, compulsory treatment is required. Do not over tighten it!
2. Sexually transmitted infections. Take the necessary tests (this can be done anonymously). Lack of treatment in many cases can have extremely deplorable consequences for all members of your family.
3. Physiological conditions, such as vulvodynia or vaginismus, can also cause pain and suffering. They also need professional help.
Problem 4. "My husband always wants sex. Everyday. And I so often do not need. But I do not want to offend him either. I have to pretend and endure. I love him. What to do?".
It's a myth that a loving and caring couple "sex is always synchronized." In many ways, one person often wants sex more than another. Regardless of sex and age. But sometimes we forget that in this case quality is more important than quantity. Your husband may want frequent sex for several reasons:
1. He has a high sex drive.
2. He is convinced that this is what real men should do.
3. He wants more intimacy.
4. He feels some kind of anxiety, instability in your relationship.
Convince him that you love him. That he can express his love for you not only in sex. And in general, mutual affinity and devotion is determined not by the number of sexual acts per day. Say that he is a real man - your support, protection and strength. But be sure to tell us that you do not like such a stormy bed-life. Find a compromise. A possible solution may be joint masturbation or simply enjoying intimacy in the form of embraces and caresses. If the husband really loves you, he will react adequately.
Problem 5. "My partner became impotent. I mean, he does not have an erection. He constantly says that it's not my fault, but I still worry. What happened? What am I supposed to do?"
Most men experience erection problems at some point in their lives - when they feel pressured, have problems at work or are simply tired. Sometimes his problem can be connected with fears about his sexuality. In this case, the technique of relaxation, meditation and focusing on your pleasure before penetration can reduce the pressure on it. Depression can also cause an erection.
If an erection does not occur even during masturbation or in the morning - convince your partner to see a doctor. Causes can be heart disease or diabetes. In such cases, the doctor prescribes drugs that eliminate problems with erection. If necessary, you can contact a sexologist. But it must be done together.
Problem 6. "I think that I have an infection that is sexually transmitted. How can I find out more precisely? What should I do?"
The fact is that many infectious diseases of this type do not initially have symptoms, so you can not just say whether you are sick or not. But this is rare. In general, the symptoms are as follows: vaginal discharge, having an unpleasant odor and color. You experience pain when you urinate or have sex. In any case, you need to see a doctor. These infections are not amenable to self. They necessarily require a full course of therapy, perhaps even in a hospital. But for an accurate diagnosis, please contact the clinic. If you are afraid of publicity, take the analysis anonymously. In the future, condoms can protect you from infections and help you relax, enjoy sex and manage your health.