What forms a socio-psychological portrait of children from disadvantaged families? First, it would be rational to consider which families are considered unfavorable. The stereotype of the majority is that when we hear the phrase "unfit family", the first thing that comes to our mind is the lack of money, the rest we see quite blurry. In fact, this is not so. In psychology, disadvantaged families are also called disharmonious, in which the concepts are the families, in which harmonious relations between parents and children are violated. In other words - irrational education, lack of satisfaction of the basic psychological and moral needs of the child, wrong attitude and upbringing. All this does not go away with impunity and affects the child in the worst way. How exactly, depends on the type of disharmonious relations, which we now consider in more detail.
The most common disharmonious education is neglected. In this case, there is no attention and care, as such, the child is not looked after and not interested in his life, what to say about enough love and affection, attention. Often these are children from low-income families who are wandering and take care of themselves. Often they are not well-groomed, not fed, they lack not only higher psychological needs, such as affection and love, but also basic satisfaction, like food, sleep, security, cleanliness, etc.
So to say, the opposite behavior to the previous one will be hyperprotection, that is excessive care. Parents monitor every step of the child, impose their opinions, their priorities and ideals, establish permanent prohibitions, for which violations are attributed to the child a sense of guilt. In this case, complete satisfaction of basic needs, but incorrect character formation and a large number of psychological problems. The surveillance of feelings, the constant intrusion into personal psychological space, the implantation of one's thoughts and values lead to the child learning how to think independently, his actions seem to him an echo of the actions of his parents. There is irritation in this regard, accumulated anger, the need to separate from parents, find a personal space for themselves. Constant bans lead to resentment, thoughts like "why everyone can, but I do not." Similarly, children of this type are laughed at and mocked by others, from which the child can transfer all the blame to the parents and hate them for such excessive care. The child grows irritable and unapproachable.
One of the types of hyperprotection is the undermining of the child's actions not under the parents, but under some kind of their ideal or living pattern. For these children, it always hangs the debt of being ideal and pleasing Mom and Dad, although most often this happens in single-parent families, when one of the remaining parents shifts all their attention to the child, placing him in the center of the family and giving him excessive care.
The kind of disharmonious relationships in the family is also very often an emotional rejection. It can not be said that such a child is not taken care of at all, as in the first case of a hypoopeak, considered by us. Here, parents can provide the child with everything necessary, give him gifts and take care of him. But, to be more precise, to pretend. After all, in the case of emotional rejection, the child feels his unwantedness, lack of feelings in his direction, so necessary for him to develop. Parents can give the child food, toys, clothes, everything that is necessary for him financially, but not show him love and affection, especially in this case the child is a burden, a burden to his parents. Emotional rejection is hidden, sometimes even parents justify it before themselves. Such disharmonious relationships are most often found in cases of not desired pregnancy.
The worst and, perhaps, the most difficult type of disharmony is violence in the family. If parents show physical and psychological violence to a child, there is no doubt that such a child will have serious psychological problems, difficulties, but in some cases - psychological deviations. Children can adopt the behavior of their parents in this way, or beat the child because of bitterness for their own failures. The constant physical violence for minor offenses testifies to the mental rejection of the parent, as well as sensible psychological violence.
Otherwise, indifference and cruelty may be present in the family. The child in this case grows alone, isolated from another world, in such a family all "do not care" for each other's needs.
How can I outline the socio-psychological portrait of children from disadvantaged families? We see that there is nothing good in this, and having considered the most frequent cases of disharmonious relations in the family, we condemn such parents. A child is a big responsibility and a duty, it is necessary to take care of it fully, give him love and affection, or he will grow up psychologically inferior. Do not repeat the mistakes of others, analyze such cases and take care of your children in the best way for them.
Do not be influenced by alcohol and help others around you. Perhaps in the future, through joint efforts, we will be able to overcome this problem.