Any parting is in most cases an unpleasant and stressful situation, whoever initiated the break. It is especially painful if you leave a person who already plays an important role in your life, to which you feel deep feelings, and perhaps love. Today we will talk about why the relationship sometimes ends, and how to survive the parting.
Two people who are in a relationship or in a marriage should be similar to each other or complement each other - all in different ways. If it was, but eventually passed, the union could be threatened with a rupture. For example, earlier the couple had points of contact and harmonious relations, and then one of them changed significantly. And all, sometimes the second partner can not accept these changes, the harmony is gone, the relationship is falling. This can be one of the causes of a spoiled relationship and a possible gap. But it's hard to change anything here, because a person is not always able to control how his character changes, his views on life, plans for the future, his environment, interests, tastes and so on.
Psychologists say that the relations are also disagreed with relatives who climb into the life of the couple, constant arguments and quarrels about everyday life, different views on the upbringing of children, treason, disrespect for the partner and his opinions, and so on. In relationships you need to be patient, wise, listening. After all, quarrel all, but the outcome of the quarrel can be different, it all depends on the pair itself.
It happens that your relationship partner ends up suddenly. And you can not even understand what happened, why the person decided to break the connection. In fact, suddenly the relationship does not end, the feelings suddenly do not pass. Simply, apparently, it was brewing for a long time, most likely, there were signs of approaching troubles, perhaps some cooling of the partner and so on. But often people subconsciously do not want to notice these "bells", do not want to think about the bad. These people can be driven by fear of change in a relationship or fear of loneliness. They close their eyes, and this brings them a false sense of stability and tranquility.
It happens that people had mutual love, but eventually it passed and her place was taken up by habit. Under the influence of various circumstances, people stopped loving each other and decided to part. Well, if both partners perceive the gap adequately, normally relate to each other. Then the former partners understand that life goes on, let go of each other and even sometimes remain friends.It's worse when one loves, and the second one is out of love. In this case, the breakdown of relations brings great heartache, shock, depression and moral devastation. Here the main thing is to behave properly, not to rush into extremes, do not silt with alcohol. You do not need revenge, for revenge is a manifestation of selfishness, insecurity and weakness. For what revenge, if a person just fell out of love? Means no luck. And if a person betrayed or used for his own purposes, then there is no need for revenge either - why lay hands on an unworthy person, pay attention to him. You need to find the strength to forgive and let go.
The reasons for parting can be very different - loss of feelings, interest, respect, common goals, etc., etc. Of course, parting is not easy. Often people start to delve into themselves, blame themselves for something or their partner, think that one could change a lot, think about "what would happen if ...". To survive this unpleasant period of life, you need to burn out, forgive a person, let go, accept the situation, and also gain some experience. But only experience must be constructive and correct. Do not think that love and relationships are evil, and all men are traitors. This will only exacerbate the situation. Necessarily in the future will be the right person, "the very same."
To recover from parting, give yourself time to heal the wound, do not immediately knock out the wedge with a wedge. But you do not need to go too far - you do not need to turn yourself on your own.
You need to cry, forgive your grievances and put the final point for yourself. Do not blame yourself for breaking the relationship.
If this will ease your soul, throw out aggression, throwing out or destroying all photos, gifts and things that remind of the former, which cause bitterness and longing.
Try to occupy yourself with something: do sports, find a hobby, immerse yourself in work. Do not leave time to think about the past, for regret and depressed thoughts.Take care of yourself, for example, go to the hairdresser, shop. Negative emotions can be splashed out with the help of physical exertion - sports, dances. Make presents, meet with friends, go to parties, do what pleases you, brings pleasure. Try to bring more joy and laughter into your life - watch comedies, read funny stories, go to clubs, restaurants, bowling, skating rink and so on.
You can do creativity, have a pet, go somewhere to change the environment and environment - in a word, have fun. Do not be interested in the former, his life and those with whom he does what, make contacts with him to a minimum. If it's hard for you to cope on your own, ask a psychologist - there's nothing wrong with it. A specialist will help you survive the separation.
Love yourself, be independent and strong. Extract the findings, analyze the errors to build a harmonious relationship in the future. Do not completely dissolve in a man, do not lose yourself, your personality, do not sacrifice everything for the sake of a partner. If necessary, try to change the manner of behavior with men, the style of relationships. Try not to step on the same rake.
Do not think in a negative way. Throw thoughts like "I will not meet this one again," "I will not fall in love again," or "Nobody will love me," and so on. It's not like that! And do not stop trusting people! Parting is not the end of the world. This does not mean that in the future you will not meet a person with whom you will love each other, a person you can trust. Now you know what the gap is, why the relationship ends and how to survive the separation. Love you and happiness!